boyfriend drama
By bianca
@bb66able (13)
Portmore, Jamaica
April 21, 2013 9:27pm CST
I know everyone might not be interested in this... but what the heck ..i just need different opinions . so my bf phone stopped working and so i gave him mines to use for a couple minutes. what happened is that i had some text message in my phone that my ex bf sent to me.... saying he would like to spend the day with me and stuff etc..but the text message really doesn't mean a lot to me ... tryna explain this to him ... but its no use ....the problem is that he lost all his trust for me ..... and this is really frustrating for me at this time ... question what would anyone do in this event?...i love my bf very much
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11 responses
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
22 Apr 13
I hate to say this, but I have to side with your boyfriend. If you love your boyfriend and don't have nothing for the ex anymore. Why do you still have a text from your ex boyfriend in your phone? The text shouldn't even be in your phone anymore. Unless deep down you still have something and you don't want to cut all ties to him. Delete the text and tell your boyfriend that it never meant anything.
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@bb66able (13)
• Portmore, Jamaica
22 Apr 13
i know someone would take his side :) i know am wrong and that's why i feel this way...i have no feelings what so ever for my ex.... i already deleted the text ... i even text my ex to say stay away ..because he is causing trouble ....my ex is still tryna get with me for as long as i remember ... after sending that message he is still bugging me ... so am thinking of changing my number ...what do you guys think... should i change it
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@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
Don't think of changing your phone number, just do it. If you really want to win back your boyfriend's trust you have to do something.Make sure that your ex will not find out what your new cellphone number and cut all the ties that connects him to you.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
22 Apr 13
Excuse me? I do not understand why you would even bother to respond to a taxt message from an ex boyfirend. I think your BF is justified in be angry and hurt as you were not loyal to him. I mean no disrespect to you but this is my opinion
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@maxfashioned (188)
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23 Apr 13
She is not responsible for someone else txting her. He is a jerk. If she had deleted the txt right away then it would have been like she was hiding something. She has no reason to feel guilty for leaving the txt on her phone, it was probably on there with 50 other old txts.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
22 Apr 13
if you say you love your current BF and you have no more feelings for your ex then i can't understand why you didn't delete the SMS of your EX upon receipt. if you have a smart phone and you do not want to receive anymore calls or SMS from your EX, try downloading the avast anti virus. it has a call and SMS filter. you won't be bothered by your EX anymore even if you don't change numbers. i can understand how your BF feels. i wouldn't like it if i discover that my loved one is still communicationg with his EX. it is now up to you to make him feel that you truly love him.
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@AngelEyez5151 (25)
• United States
22 Apr 13
Hello bb66able. 1)Not everyone will be interested in what you put here. The point is, alot of people will be interested in what is here. 2)You should have erased the text messages. Why did you keep them if you love your bf so much? Good luck with this.
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@Kevin0326 (35)
• China
22 Apr 13
It's often occured between lovers.I think your bf must love you very much if he show his angry,so just sit with him to have a good talk .You must make your attitude clear.I suggest you should deleted the message in front of him and say it won't happen again.Wish you can be as good as you were before soon.
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@Kmz059 (652)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
Just keep away from your ex boyfriend, it is really akward to have a communication with your ex boyfriend if you have a boyfrienf, except when they accept the each other and be friends without any hard feelings. Just prove to your boyfriend that you really love him, and after that be sure that you cut the communication with your ex
@momiecat (997)
• United States
22 Apr 13
Trust is the foundation of any relationship. It can easily be broken by something that is totally innocent or may be not so innocent. One would have to know more about the dynamics of your relationship with current bf as opposed to ex bf. If it was me and my bf had a text message on his phone whereby an old gf wanted to share time with him, I would definitely be suspicious of his intentions of being with me or wanting the best of both worlds so to speak.
Along with trust comes maturity. A younger person who is still in the dating scene and is not necessarily interested in commitment may not be in a position to be with one partner. Along with age and realizing what you want in life and the characteristics you desire in a life-long partner, you will hopefully make positive decisions as to engaging in healthy and mutually beneficial relationships that show a level of maturity and understanding as to a positive purpose in life with respect to choices you make.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
22 Apr 13
If I were you I would tell him that you will remove your etc from your contacts, change your number or at least tell him not to be texting you anymore. In cases like that it's understandable for a person to be upset about that. Your ex shouldn't be asking to spend the day with you. Why is he even texting you?
@bb66able (13)
• Portmore, Jamaica
22 Apr 13
Well he always be texting me and what not.. And I don't reply at times...when I do reply I always tell him to stop texting.. And I moved on..so he should too.. funny enough I deleted those messsages... And he only saw the one when my ex said he wanted to spend the day with me
@momiecat (997)
• United States
22 Apr 13
After a break-up, it can be hard for 1 person in the relationship to let go. If that person who is having difficulties is a reasonable and sane person, perhaps you can have a conversation with him (over the phone) in the presence of your current bf and while conveying understanding to ex that you realize he is feeling the separation anxiety, may be you can somehow help him to fill that void by suggesting ways he can meet new people. If you can get your ex to focus on a new experience, may be he will stop trying to hang on to the past and be able to move forward to new experiences and relationships. My current husband helped me to get over my ex and helped me move on.
On the other hand, if the ex's behavior escalates to a level of stalking or acting in behaviors to try to break up your current relationship, I would use a lot of caution. In many cases, this type of negative behavior has lead to dire actions on the part of the person who feels the rejection.
Think wisely, either help your ex to move on (with your current bf kept appraised of the situation) or it may become necessary for more drastic measures such as a restraining order on the ex. Either way, be true to yourself and if you love your current bf, you must do what is necessary to reassure him that your only intention towards your ex is to help him move on to a new, more fulfilling relationship with someone else better suited to be a loving companion for him.
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
22 Apr 13
Hi you are a newbie! welcome to mylot!
Relationship without trust would not last.That's the main engridient in the relationship... The reaction of your boyfriend was natural.. in the first place why you keep on communicating with you ex which in fact you have already a new one.. For me, you did a minor mistake on that point, so I think you should say sorry to him and ask him to listen and understand you.
@maxfashioned (188)
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22 Apr 13
Go ahead and dump him. Trust me this kind of behavior is going to continue for the rest of your relationship. If he needed to make a call why would he be going through your old txts.? If he was checking your phone and accusing you, then he probably has something to hide and feel guilty about. All words of experience!!
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