Intimacy in a relationship!

It is one thing, that she would like to keep it for the future, because of her values and stuff, but at the same time, if she wants to be that valuable, and needs convinving for a kiss, then it is kind of off putting because, in reality, dating is "evil and bad" in the desi(assuming they are brown) culture. So if she HAS taken that leap of faith for the past two years, kissing is not that big of a deal. Now for futhur, yeah i agree, she shouldnt be forced into doing anything she is not ready for. So the guy, if they really wants a future relationship, they should be respectful of that. But if it is something that is temporary, then it is a sticky situation. Also, if he has to work hard for a kiss, then that comfort level is going to go away between them very rapidly, and to be honest sooner or later it will drive the guy away, because guys can be very impatient (it is commendable that he has been like this for 2 years). SO I think she needs to chill out. Either she fully respects the culture, and stops dating him, or she keeps modifies as to what she wants. When one is in a relationship, kissing is like holding hands.

Everyone has a certain preference out of belief, culture, religion, tradition etc. It's so rare these days that there are girls who prefer to preserve "that" for her future husband. I think it's about respecting that choice. A guy shouldn't force a girl to do something she's not ready yet. If he really loves her, he should wait and respect the girl's decision.

It sounds to me as maybe they are not really meant for each other. There is no right and wrong in this one but it is important that the couple agrees. It sounds as if these two are not in agreement and taunting is not good for the relationship.

Gaurav beta Are they from india?

I think it depends on the level of intimacy that the person demands. If they are not married yet and he wants to have a deep intimacy but the other refuses because she believes that this should wait until they are married, it should be discussed between the couple. We cannot go away with intimacy once we are in a relationship. it is also a manifestation and an expression of what we truly feel towards each other.

Ohhh nooo.. Two years. No "intimacy". That's baaad.... I can do 2 weeks, a month maybe if i see a potential serious relationship and the girl wants to wait. But two years? I couldn't. I'd probably propose by now hahahaha :p

Sounds like they have reached an en passe, where neither wants to back down, a compromise needs to be made otherwise the relationship will not be able to stand the strain, if both want totally different things from the relationship then that is not a good basis for a relationship to grow, in fact it sounds like it's about to wither and die and unless the two of them can sit down sensibly discuss their views and what each wants from the other, and if they can't agree then maybe it's better that they remain friends. Sometimes it's hard being the person on the outside and not knowing what to say or do, to help them, they just need to sort it out between them, and hopefully they will!

I believe that when two people are inlove with each other Trust is high and applied to their relationship. Kissing also happen and this shows of how love they have. It's an expression of love. About the physical intimacy of both in love I believe its not possible. True love can wait and long lasts forever... :)

Being intimate is part of every relationship. Coz it is like "unspoken words" of love. The girl has every right to decline any further "intimacy", but I think not giving in to a kiss is quite over the top.

Real men can wait, right? If he truly loves his girlfriend then he respect her, and respecting her includes not making love with her until they got married. It doesn't mean that she has no trust on him but she only respects herself. In a serious relationship, it is not really necessary to have that physical intimacy, in fact respect is the most important one. :)