Have you ever cried when you washed the dishes?
By dainy1313
@dainy1313 (2370)
Leon, Mexico
August 1, 2013 12:36am CST
I´m almost tearing.
Yesterday my 15 years old daughter lost my new nokia asha cellphone. We decided to punish her giving her the task of washing all the dishes for 15 days.
She went to bed without achieving today´s task. So I waked her up at 12:00 to ask her to finish her task. She is washing the dishes crying and mourning, in silence. I would love to pamper her, I feel like mourning too.
I was sad and upset already with her because yesterday she was rude by the morning, but we had a wonderful evening working together. I think I have to let her do her task, even I would like to hold her and ask her to stop mourning.
What do you think about?
Blessings... DAINY
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14 responses
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
3 Aug 13
Hello
dear Dawn, yes I was thinking about consequences to our acts. Nowadays I´m working hard to pay a debt. So I felt so scared just to think if she would be committed with her duties when she becomes adult. I think if she is committed with small duties now that she is young she would be committed with bigger duties when she becomes adult.
Thanks you for writting.
Blessings RealDawn... dainy
dear Dawn, yes I was thinking about consequences to our acts. Nowadays I´m working hard to pay a debt. So I felt so scared just to think if she would be committed with her duties when she becomes adult. I think if she is committed with small duties now that she is young she would be committed with bigger duties when she becomes adult. Thanks you for writting.
Blessings RealDawn... dainy@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
1 Aug 13
Haha
dear Narsha, thanks you so much. You have no idea how much I love her. I´m so affraid that she becomes lazy or irresponsible. Have a great day! Blessings... dainy
dear Narsha, thanks you so much. You have no idea how much I love her. I´m so affraid that she becomes lazy or irresponsible. Have a great day! Blessings... dainy
@narsha (466)
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1 Aug 13
@dainy1313 I'm not a parent,but I always know that parents love their children!
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@narsha (466)
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1 Aug 13
@dainy1313 I'm not a parent,but I always know that parents love their children!
@lilwonders456 (8214)
• United States
2 Aug 13
I know it hard to do as a parent. But we have to hold them accountable or they wont be responsible adults when they grow up. The crying and mourning was to put you on a guilt trip.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
3 Aug 13
Hello dear Lilwonders I´m happy to read you. She was a little bit upset, sad, victimizing, tired, it´s not easy to be parent. You are right!
I asked her to wash the dishes when it was early. And she went to bed ignoring me, or thinking I wouldn´t be capable to wake her up, I wasn´t capable but his dad helped me. And she loves so much her dad that she came faster with his request.
Blessings Lilwonders... dainy
. She was a little bit upset, sad, victimizing, tired, it´s not easy to be parent. You are right! I asked her to wash the dishes when it was early. And she went to bed ignoring me, or thinking I wouldn´t be capable to wake her up, I wasn´t capable but his dad helped me. And she loves so much her dad that she came faster with his request.
Blessings Lilwonders... dainy
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
23 Aug 13
Hi Dainy, I do sometimes feel it too when I punish my kids. But I have to strict with what I had said, or they will think my words can easily violated if I just pity them by not doing the punishment. Lately, I punish my kids to not using internet for a month because they fight each other.
I feel pity actually because they can't play online games which is they fave game. But I give them option to help me doing some chores so I can reduce the punishment into only half month
:)
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
23 Aug 13
Hi dear friend ifa I´m so happy to read you again. Thanks you for your advice. It´s true, it´s not easy to punish our dearest kids. But, someday if they become parents (with God´s will) they will understand us, the way we understood our parents.
Blessings to you and your lovely family... dainy
I´m so happy to read you again. Thanks you for your advice. It´s true, it´s not easy to punish our dearest kids. But, someday if they become parents (with God´s will) they will understand us, the way we understood our parents.
Blessings to you and your lovely family... dainy
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
23 Aug 13
Hi dear friend topffer I´m so happy to read you again at mylot. I don´t know if the punishment was the correct neither, I could have let her wash and mop the floor
, but the kitchen chores are not so easy and there are always
dishes to wash. It seems to me a very good approach to the daily tasks in an adult common life. Betty is growing up faster and she has to grow in responsibilities too. And in fact now that the punishment time has ended she is more attached to help me, I think she realized that she is really useful and productive if she gets involved with our house chores.
Thanks you for your comment!
Blessings topffer... dainy
dear friend topffer I´m so happy to read you again at mylot. I don´t know if the punishment was the correct neither, I could have let her wash and mop the floor, but the kitchen chores are not so easy and there are always dishes to wash. It seems to me a very good approach to the daily tasks in an adult common life. Betty is growing up faster and she has to grow in responsibilities too. And in fact now that the punishment time has ended she is more attached to help me, I think she realized that she is really useful and productive if she gets involved with our house chores.
Thanks you for your comment!
Blessings topffer... dainy1 person likes this
@Rick1950 (1575)
• Lima, Peru
12 Aug 13
Hello, I think it isn't a heavy task to wash dishes. Probably she needs only half an hour to do this. It depends how many people are living in your home. But I think you are doing well teaching your daughter about responsability and that things are not for free. She will be more carefully with her own things, although the cellphone was yours. Have a nice day.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
13 Aug 13
Hi Rick I´m so glad to read you. I was feeling guilty specially when I heard her mourning and crying. Thanks you for your kind advice. Yes I feel some rush to raise her now that she is young.
Blessings dear friend Rick1950... dainy
Rick I´m so glad to read you. I was feeling guilty specially when I heard her mourning and crying. Thanks you for your kind advice. Yes I feel some rush to raise her now that she is young.
Blessings dear friend Rick1950... dainy1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 13
I think it was a bit harsh on your part to give her such a punishment. Hope things would have settled by now.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
3 Aug 13
Hello dear Dpk thanks you for your kind advice. Things are easier now. I have a dish washer, that we don´t use since we moved to this house. I offfered it to her if she resolves to connect it in an easy way. Yesterday his father did her task because she worked outside with me late, we both entered late.
We do love our girl, I´m just affraid that she becomes irresponsible. So affraid.
Blessings dear Dpk... dainy
dear Dpk thanks you for your kind advice. Things are easier now. I have a dish washer, that we don´t use since we moved to this house. I offfered it to her if she resolves to connect it in an easy way. Yesterday his father did her task because she worked outside with me late, we both entered late.
We do love our girl, I´m just affraid that she becomes irresponsible. So affraid.
Blessings dear Dpk... dainy1 person likes this
@allknowing (130064)
• India
10 Aug 15
I am surprised why giving her a chore should be considered as punishment. A fifteen year old is expected to lend a hand in household chores. I think you should think in those lines and start involving her. That helps bonding too. There could be an incentive though which my mother used to dish out when we were given household chores. .
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@Bookmite (51)
• United States
3 Aug 13
I think discipline is good and necessary for kids of all ages. While the discipline is for a time uncomfortable and sometimes causes crying and sadness, in the long run your daughter will benefit much from the lesson she learns from this. You are a good mom. You need to use your mind along with your heart which is what you are doing.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Aug 13
Thanks you Bookmite, you are very sensitive and thanks you for encouraging me. When feelings get mixed with thoughts it´s not easy to think. Today she did her task pretty committed on time.
Blessings Bookmite... dainy
, you are very sensitive and thanks you for encouraging me. When feelings get mixed with thoughts it´s not easy to think. Today she did her task pretty committed on time.
Blessings Bookmite... dainy1 person likes this
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
9 Sep 13
She needs to learn---obviously not just 'that she shouldn't lose her cellphone,' but more "the reason why you gave her the cellphone"
@garavegeta (963)
• Kochi, India
1 Aug 13
My Mom will never do such a thing to me.
Sometimes she beats me,but thats ok,but she never asks me to do any household works
Sometimes she beats me,but thats ok,but she never asks me to do any household works@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
1 Aug 13
@garavegeta I understand you. I was your type. And I feel ashame telling you that I learnt to do households until I got married
. But I was A student, I graduated with honors always. But latter I learnt that knowledge is not everything in life. So I try to rise my girl in a different way.
Blessings to you and to your mother.... Dainy
. But I was A student, I graduated with honors always. But latter I learnt that knowledge is not everything in life. So I try to rise my girl in a different way.
Blessings to you and to your mother.... Dainy
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
24 Aug 15
I also feel like that when I punish my eldest son Charles but need to do for him to realize what he had done was wrong,to make him aware that he has to be accountable and responsible for whatever his actions.
@huangxincheng (146)
• Shanghai, China
1 Aug 13
actually,it's a great way to train own children.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
1 Aug 13
Hello dear Smart! Thanks you so much for your encouragement. Sometimes we can confuse love with spoilment. I would like to make everything to her but I have to land into reality. We are not from the royalty, washing dishes isn´t dishonorable and someday I won´t be with her to support her whole life. Have a great day!
Blessings... dainy
. Sometimes we can confuse love with spoilment. I would like to make everything to her but I have to land into reality. We are not from the royalty, washing dishes isn´t dishonorable and someday I won´t be with her to support her whole life. Have a great day! Blessings... dainy