stepped in the greasy cup?

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Ok, that's a bad translation of a German saying... I put my foot in it. Tony's not too happy with his daughter right now. Far as he's concerned, she's turned his back on the family, so he doesn't speak to her much. Several things happened. First, she went over to his brother's and got in a fight with his wife over the car she was letting them use. They had fallen behind on the payments, so she took the car. Now you might say, good, it will hurt her credit and she had every right to do that, and she did. But keep in mind that when she fell behind on her car payments, her brother helped her out with one, and another time Tony helped her out. Her brother's in-laws would have given her the money for the back payments right there, but she said no and took the car. Then she blocked Tony on Facebook, because she assumed that he would take her brother's side. That really hurt. She didn't talk to him for months after that, and didn't have the granddaughters call him either. Then earlier this year we communicated about the granddaughters coming to visit for the summer. I rearranged the entire vacation around that so that they could come. Then when I told her what dates they had to be back home because of our vacation, the told me they weren't coming. After I moved my vacation back a month to accommodate her. Tony took that as her being disrespectful to me, and that was another strike. Then in June she posted on Facebook that she had gotten engaged, and that her fiance had asked her uncle's permission (her mom's brother). So not only didn't the fiance go to Tony, but he found out about it on Facebook. That one really hurt too. So then yesterday, his older granddaughter posted on Facebook that she was in Reno, and that her friends were excluding her, and she was feeling lonely. I guess I could have expressed sympathy, but instead I replied that I wished we had known she was in Reno, because we could have driven up there and visited. Tony seconded that thought. And omg all hell broke loose. First the niece saying something about we should only post positive stuff on there. Then the step-sister chewed Tony out and posted something that wasn't true. Said he had only contacted one of his children and not the other last time he was in Vegas. Totally false. He did contact his daughter to let her know he was there and would like to see her and the kids, but she didn't get back to him until he was on the way back home. So I told her to call him and get the straight story, and she said it was on him to call her. Huh? She posts what is basically a lie about him, didn't get it straight with him before she posted it, and it is on him to call her? If he does, there will be an explosion. Anyway, I messaged the granddaughter and apologized for hijacking her thread, and I am going to try to stay out of it at this point. Ugh.