Would you ?

India
September 2, 2015 12:53pm CST
While talking to a friend yesterday,something cropped up which has been wriggling in the back of my mind ever since. We were discussing academics and he happened to mention a professor i was interested in working with. Me:So is he ...blah blah.You seem to really like him.Is he really student friendly? Friend:Umm yeah.He gives me a lot of importance so that's good. Me:You like him cz he gives you importance or you like him cz he is a good teacher? Friend:He is a good teacher but come on *laughs nervously* Wouldn't you like someone if they gave you importance? So there it is people,the question in a nutshell-Would you like someone just because they give importance to you?
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
2 Sep 15
I would respect them for taking the time to make me feel comfortable..meaning they feel i am important enough for them to do that!!..I would like them alot!
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• India
3 Sep 15
Hmm i never did think like that.But @Rosekitty won't you be curious about why they do so?
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
3 Sep 15
@Concordia @else34 yes i would be curious for a bit or if they are selfish but if i trust my judgement then i would trust them too..
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@else34 (13517)
• New Delhi, India
3 Sep 15
@rosekitty,but first try to ensure that they are not driven by any selfish motives.Their motive may be tricky.
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• Kolkata, India
2 Sep 15
It is rather flattering to feel important to someone. And such a sensation of being flattered often causes a feeling of fondness for the one causing that sensation. However, this feeling of fondness is more narcissistic in nature and can not be related to "liking" somebody, as, in my opinion, to like somebody is to be fond of that person's nature with a certain amount of neutrality. In this particular scenario that has been mentioned above, I would be more concerned with the academic competence of the professor, rather than whether he "gives me a lot of importance" or not. So, in a nutshell, to quote your wording, I would prefer to like someone based on their nature and my relatively neutral judgement on them, rather than being concerned about how much importance that person gives me. Though, certainly, it would flatter me a lot.
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• India
3 Sep 15
Nicely summed up!
@else34 (13517)
• New Delhi, India
3 Sep 15
Liking someone just because they give importance to me??I have never thought about it.However I recall a teacher of mine in high school who used to make me feel important,but,honestly speaking,I don't 'like' him.Or,I should say,he was not my ideal teacher.I think,it is essential to realise first why a person gives importance to you.
@else34 (13517)
• New Delhi, India
3 Sep 15
@Concordia Besides this,take another example.Poiliticians begin giving us importance when election knocks at the door.Why?Just because they have to grind their own axe.They have to serve their own petty interests.We are aware of their tendency and so we don't and even can't like them.
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• India
3 Sep 15
@jaishankar I think you summed up what i was thinking in the last sentence
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• India
5 Sep 15
People who generally give importance to others surely have some expectations in return, mostly bad....they are very dangerous....they might want you to behave the way they want you to behave...they might find it a little difficult to accept you for who you are....but people who are good will like "YOU"...and that is long term... But to be honest I dont wish for any of the above...because i strongly feel that if i like someone,i like him/her....i dont expect him to like me back..and i dont really care if he hates me either because i came into this world to do what i am supposed to like and to like whom i wish to like....i dont want to waste my time thinking as to who likes me back...
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