Pumpkin's rant of the day: Work, play, and wimpy kids!
By pumpkinjam
@pumpkinjam (8876)
United Kingdom
September 4, 2015 1:28pm CST
Hi guys. Today's rant is more silly than ranty I think. First of all, work. Some of us are fortunate to have jobs we love, or jobs which fit nicely with our family, or, if you're really lucky, a job which fits both of those descriptions. I am not such a person. I don't like my job as it is but when I'm supposed to be able to choose my hours but can't, that's bad. I prefer school hours (which I said before I started). I don't mind doing some non-school hours but it's difficult. Not only does it mean having to get someone else to look after my boys sometimes but it means I miss out on the time with them which I should have with them which is the reason I work part time for an agency rather than having a 'proper' job. Well, usually, my parents would have the boys after school if I worked later than they would finish. Next week, though, my parents are on holiday. That means I can only do school hours. When I said that, I was told they had shifts for me finishing at 4pm and 4:30pm. Well, I don't know where they went to school but the area we live in (and where the agency is based) schools usually finish between 3pm and 3:45pm. What I really want is to work for an agency where I can give them my availability at the beginning of the week (or the end of the previous week) and then they find me work. That's how I thought agencies worked, especially as they advertise with the fact that you can choose your hours. Evidently, you can't choose your hours. They expect your availability to be the same every week. Well, to me, that seems daft. If I could guarantee that my availability would be the same each week, I'd be looking for a proper job.
Oh and I also work as bank staff for another company who haven't paid me for most of the work I've done so far. I don't want to give up either job because I don't want to be not working but it's getting a bit much and I'm wondering if I'll manage when I'm studying again as well.
I've worked over the holidays and it's felt like I haven't had much time for my own children. So I took them out today as it's the last day of holidays when we're all together. Midi is at his Dad's from now until Sunday. I'll be working Monday, Mini is back at school on Tuesday then Midi returns to school on Wednesday. Oh did I mention that Midi got an A in his Chemistry GCSE? And a Distinction for his Media Studies? :) He's in his last year of secondary school when he goes back but he'll be staying on at their sixth form college for another two years. Midi will be in his last year at primary school so I have to apply for a secondary school for him. I have mixed feelings about where to send him but they don't make it easy when all but one school he could go to doesn't have their open evenings until a few weeks before the application cut-off.
Well, that's work. Onto play. As I've just said, it doesn't seem like I've done a lot over the holidays. We have been on holiday and had a couple of days out and a bit of time at the park though. However, I noticed that while the summer holiday hasn't been particularly full of stuff, I have plans for six of the next seven weekends. It's that old adage like buses, nothing for ages and then everything all at once.
As for the wimpy kids. Well, I took them to a kids theme park. It's called Wicksteed Park and it's a huge area with boating lakes, fairground, playgrounds, trains, and other stuff. The biggest ride is a small roller-coaster which I went on by myself as they wouldn't go on with me! I took Midi on a pirate ship (the one that goes up and down and really high). Midi squealed like a girl and his face went even paler than it usually is! Here's me, going to skydive in a few weeks *shameless insertion of my JustGiving page: ), and I have a 15 year old who can't even manage a pirate ship, and neither boy who will go on even a baby roller-coaster!
OK, that's all for now.
Laters taters
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
5 Sep 15
I had also told my agency that I was looking for part-time as I have 5 super busy kids. The oldest is off to college now, but the twins are in soccer and marching band and the littles have a billion things going on... but right after I told them that they found me a full-time job. I now have to pay a babysitter to watch my little 2 after school everyday. But I do enjoy my job and the extra money I get for it. We've been able to really catch up on our bills so I'm thankful for that.
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@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
5 Sep 15
I guess it's not so bad if you enjoy your job. Also if it gives you extra money but I'm hardly earning more than I'm paying out in travel costs some weeks!
After school isn't too much of a problem for me most of the time as my boys can usually go to my Mum's. It's before school that I've usually got a problem as I need to take my boys to school which means I can't start any job before I've dropped them off. I still get asked to start jobs at 8am or 8:30am though, despite the fact that I can't drop off the kids before 8:30 even if I wanted to! Once they're both able to get themselves to school then that will be different. Then, of course, it's like you said, they have their hobbies which I don't want them to miss out on because I'm working late and they have no other way of getting there! Apart from that, one reason I like to be able to choose is because my youngest has disabilities and has regular appointments so it wouldn't be fair on a company to employ me only for me to say that I have to take time off for all of his appointments. Even though, by law, companies in England have to allow that, they would sooner just give the job to someone else.
@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
5 Sep 15
@katsmeow1213 I only know one other person who drives and that's my sister who works during school times! I'm a single mum at the moment but I do have a boyfriend who will, eventually, be living with us. He's disabled though, and isn't allowed to drive due to having seizures so wouldn't really help the situation other than being at home for the boys! As I say to rusty. though, I am hoping that the situation will improve next year.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
5 Sep 15
@pumpkinjam My husband rearranged his own schedule to make sure one of us is always here to get the kids on the bus in the morning, but we can't rearrange our schedules so much so that someone is here after school. I have to get rides for the twins so they can do their activities.. but being a small town and we know all the marching band families, it's not too hard to find rides for them.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
4 Sep 15
Wow it sounds like that agency is not catering to your needs for sure.
I am sorry to read it.
Hope you can get it sorted.
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@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
4 Sep 15
Would you believe, they are better than another agency with whom I previously worked?! I know that they're there to make money by providing people and it does help them to be able to offer regularity but it isn't very good for those who work for them. Like most jobs though, there's very little consideration for the wants and needs of the employees.Ideally, I would like to be given different jobs each week but, even though the agency caters for different industries and I told them in the beginning that I was hoping to get away from childcare, that's all I'm getting. They keep offering applications for permanent jobs but a permanent job would be no good, nor would it get me out of something I don't like and into something I do.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
4 Sep 15
@pumpkinjam I understand and this is your livelihood right now. No companies dont give two hoots about what the employee needs.
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
5 Sep 15
Working and having children can always be a struggle. i am glad my children are old enough I do not have to deal with that anymore. I hope you are able to get your situation worked out to where it works better for you.
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@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
5 Sep 15
I'm sure it will work itself out. I seem to have the problem that whenever I think something will work, it doesn't. Or I start something thinking it's going to be better but then something else changes! Like when I started a job a few years ago because my partner at the time was working. I had to then change from full to part-time when he got a new job. I'm hoping that things will be better by the end of next year when I'll have completed my degree and both boys will be at secondary school




