Your First Love

United States
September 26, 2015 11:09am CST
As we hit puberty, our notions about the opposite sex takes on a whole new perspective. We no longer view them as having 'cooties', 'gross' and 'disgusting'. We start to view them as interesting, intriguing and perhaps even a challenge. You reach a time where you have your very 1st boyfriend/girlfriend. Life is a absolutely heaven, you don't know how you lived without them before or if you could ever live without them again. Most of the time, this 'love' can come to an end. Sometimes in a mutual agreement. Other times in a not so pleasant way. However, you go your separate ways. Years later and perhaps after multiple experiences or even finding your soul mate, you reflect back on that 'First Love'. When you think about that 'first love' do you do a mental head smack? Thinking what in the world was I thinking. What did I ever see in them? Or maybe, you reflect back and think of the what ifs and what could have beens?
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• United States
27 Sep 15
i don't recall my 'first love' 't all?? there's periods 'f time that jest elude me entirely...must'a been purty bad i reckon.
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• United States
27 Sep 15
@crazyhorseladycx Oh wow! I'm sorry to hear that, and yes, I guess that can do it. It does sound a shame though that you lost something that could be so sweet and innocent. A memory that could be treasured.
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• United States
27 Sep 15
Really? Did you suffer from memory lost? Or just a matter of putting the whole thing out of your mind?
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• United States
27 Sep 15
@TexanTornado amazin' what major concussions can do.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
26 Sep 15
My first love... yes, I saw her on Tele, back then she was acting in the series - The Small Wonder - and playing Vicki Lawson. Her name is Tiffany Brissette. As I came online, I did search for her and it was quite until a few years back that I read - she is currently working as a nurse at some hospital. I dont know if the pictures of hers I saw on those pages were actually her, but whatever, she is my first love. Reflecting back, I dont. I still have some feelings for her. If I have, I will even love spending all that I have saved to meet her once in real
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• United States
26 Sep 15
Ah ok, so your first love was a TV star. Hmm ok. I guess for a good bit of us, we had a TV crush dating way back when.
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• India
26 Sep 15
Okay, first time I am looking at the not-Vicki pictures of her! You had a good choice, I'd say. Lovely girl.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Sep 15
@TexanTornado I would wait anxiously for Sunday to arrive and I would be right in front of the Tele watching her. I have also managed to find and download some of the episodes from YouTube. Wifey thinks that is a crazy idea - but cannot help it. I have shared my thoughts and feelings to her too about Tiffany.
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@allknowing (133391)
• India
27 Sep 15
You are perhaps talking of someone with whom one had sort of a relationship or just friendship. The era in which I was we were not even allowed to look at any boy. Mine was a proposed marriage. This guy apparently was watching me as we were both working in the same area - my one and only.
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@allknowing (133391)
• India
28 Sep 15
@TexanTornado No matter for how many years one is in 'love' before marriage it has to start all over again as staying married is a totally new platform to be worked. And so whether in love or not before marriage did not affect us. We worked through its success. If you see so many so called love marriages break.
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• United States
28 Sep 15
@allknowing Yes, I have to totally agree with you there. Marriage tends to take on a whole new concept.
• United States
27 Sep 15
I mean in a relationship. A boyfriend/girlfriend type relationship (or even the same gender, but 'in love' or what we thought at the time was being in love). Oh wow. And ya'll are still married? If so may I ask, is it truly love? Or is it a matter of your culture?
@sofssu (23662)
27 Sep 15
Oh yes, when I think back I always wonder what in the heck did i see in him. I know for sure that we would never have been happy together. He was so dumb, a great sports man.. but dumb..I couldn't even have had a decent conversation with him.. leave alone sharing a life with him.
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• United States
27 Sep 15
I think people would refer to that as, 'young, foolish, and in love'. I do think when we were younger we were more attracted to the fact that they were 'popular', the 'jocks', or even the 'bad boys', even if their was no substance to them.
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• United States
27 Sep 15
@sofssu *nods* Yes, I completely understand. Ya'll had a common interest, which tends to bring so many people together, until they discover all the things that they don't like about the other, or other interests that they don't share but wish to pursue.
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@sofssu (23662)
27 Sep 15
@TexanTornado Yeah it was young foolish, love. I really loved him as he was.. I guess we had more in common then and our love for sports brought us together so much.. Being athletes we hung around together during our training sessions for years.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
27 Sep 15
I had quite a few boyfriends before I met my husband, but didn't love any of them. So I married my first love, even though I didn't meet him till I was 23.
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• United States
28 Sep 15
Yeah, I understand what you mean. Aww that is so sweet.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
27 Sep 15
I really don't do either. I just enjoy the memories of first love.
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• United States
27 Sep 15
Well, that is good. Sometimes they are pleasant memories to have.
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• United States
29 Sep 15
@simone10 I know what you mean.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
29 Sep 15
@TexanTornado It wasn't always that way but over the years I got over it and now only try and think of the good parts.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
27 Sep 15
When I think of my first true love I wish things had been different. I was really in love and it was one of those walking on clouds kinda loves. I saw him a year or so later after we split up and he had just gotten married. Hurt me so badly. Since then I have had feelings for a few but never have been really "in love" feeling (well except for my current husband).
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• United States
27 Sep 15
I know exactly what you mean and can easily relate. With mine, although he didn't get married for about 7 years later. The next time I had saw him which was a little over 2 years after we split, he was becoming a father.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
27 Sep 15
My first love heart breaking but its memorable though because he was my ultimate crush during my highschool days. Turned out he was a player though but its all worth it.
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@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
28 Sep 15
@TexanTornado Exactly. Experience is the best learning I guess.
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• United States
27 Sep 15
So in other words, it was a life's experience. Something that was done and you learned from it?
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• United States
28 Sep 15
@joygracia Yes, that it is.
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• Philippines
27 Sep 15
Well! I started falling in love young I think and with a young lady who is in love is really intense I must say! Mine was like a roller coaster ride. He cheated, i've cheated! We broke up and then reconcile. We share dreams together and then suddenly fight for some nonsense things. But all of those are worth it! It made us who we are right now and I think that experience taught us how to be a better partner =)
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• United States
27 Sep 15
Ah the off again, on again type romance. He does something and then you have to retaliate. Yes, it seems like the typical teenage 'love' syndrome.
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@khhhaaaat (112)
• Philippines
27 Sep 15
Whenever I look back to my first love, it fills my heart with happiness. There are sad and funny moments and whenever I remember the moments we've had, it just feels surreal. I sometimes wonder what I've seen in him, but you know how love is. You love him because you simply love him.
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• United States
27 Sep 15
Yes, I know exactly what you mean. I think for the most part it is a natural thing. I myself when I reflect back have mixed feelings on it. Part of me is like, 'what did I see in him', and the other part is, what if this would have happened, would it had lead to this', making it better.
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• Canada
29 Sep 15
I do the mental head smack. What was I thinking, indeed!
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• United States
29 Sep 15
I truly don't think you are alone in that assessment.
@sueznewz2 (10409)
• Alicante, Spain
29 Sep 15
my first love ... was Starsky from the cop tv show... so I knew our relationship would never be ...
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• United States
29 Sep 15
Awww you were heart broken before it even had a chance. I am so sorry.
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• United States
29 Sep 15
My best friend and I used to swoon over the paperboy when we were teenagers LOL
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• United States
29 Sep 15
Aww that sounds so sweet, so young and innocent.
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@Salamnda (476)
• United Kingdom
27 Sep 15
can we call the first feeling we have in that age , LOVE? what is that feeling that stands for few months or maybe school years , then switch to another and maybe hate and not to see again , i am not sure if we can call that Love i was so busy at that time , i didnt even think that i have done that , yes i liked some girls , but i didnt have time to reach them or even talk to them , i even remember turning one away, cos i wasnt thinking about this stuff , and now i know why was that with me , cos my time was always occupied with things i wanted to do , even if that was just riding my bike with friends and race , things changed in the university , i knew lots of girls , but no relations no special ones,
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• United States
27 Sep 15
In our mind at the time we would have classified it as 'love'. Whether it was just simply infatuation, we proclaimed it to be love, and that is what mattered at the time. Not what we learned years later. For most that 'First' is always etched in our minds. I'm sorry to hear you never had a special one.
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