DO age DOES really matter?
By AR Dianon
@dianon_ice14 (461)
Philippines
October 1, 2015 10:34am CST
I am 28!
I am liking someone but he is way too young for me. I can even be an aunt to him I guess. (haha)
He is 23 and we seem to know each other for a long time since we go to the same church. I even saw him grew up!
One day, he send me a random message and starting to have conversations. Little did I know we ended up talking about us and liking each other. I found out that he likes me too but he was just hesitant since I am older than him plus the fact that we go to the same church.
I can get his point so I just felt sad and as a woman I don't want to be the one initiating and telling him that it was okay! Well hey, I guess it should be his own will! I don't want to use my age to influence him.
So there! After that conversation we never talked again. And I am even clueless why he even said it in the first place!
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8 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
1 Oct 15
I dont know much about how you see it through the eyes of religion as I am not a Christian, but there are real life incidents of happy couples where the lady is older than the guy. Personally, it all depends on how you two take up things and how you interpret them.
As for you taking the first step, it is always better in such cases to put across your feelings - I am no chauvinist who thinks that Girls should not make the first move.
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@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
1 Oct 15
@thebusysids RELIGION is NEVER an issue,, just the AGE though
@rachelyoung13 (64)
• United Kingdom
1 Oct 15
I wouldn't say that was too bad an age gap, it's obviously not ideal, but if you both like each other why does it matter what other people may think about the age?
@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
1 Oct 15
haha,,,, I don't want to make the first move! after telling about it he rarely talk with me =(
@rachelyoung13 (64)
• United Kingdom
1 Oct 15
@dianon_ice14 could always just start a conversation about anything and see where it goes...
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
24 Oct 15
I am eight years older than my husband and we have just celebrated 40 years together, so I would not expect your differences in age to matter. I would suggest that you allow a friendship to develop first and then give him a year or two more to be sure.
I cannot see why being in the same church should make things difficult, I would have thought it would be a help. Anyway no-one can object to a friendship and after a while everyone will get used to seeing you together.
@skysnap (20154)
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1 Oct 15
Usually you have to spend a lot of time in relationship to answer this question. My sister-in-law was 19 and my brother 31 when they got married. They had to wait till she reached 18 to even get intimate or even get married. So patience, understanding and trust matters. Youth requires more time to settle in relationship. Once people reach 30 onwards they can settle in easily with life than those who are in 20s.
@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
1 Oct 15
BUT! Age gap is not a problem is the Man is older then the Woman which in our story is not! =( so sad!
@skysnap (20154)
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1 Oct 15
@dianon_ice14 Even in case of man being younger than woman, trust and commitment matters.
@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
1 Oct 15
@skysnap hmmmm,,,,, I feel awkward about it! But yeah you have a point but if ever still want him to initiate
@LeaPea2417 (36371)
• Toccoa, Georgia
21 Oct 15
I don't think you are way too old for him. Some relationships work when the woman is a little bit older. Hopefully, you and him can talk again.
@Salamnda (476)
• United Kingdom
1 Oct 15
step back and think ,,, is he the one you can spend your days with?
dose he represent the real man that your thinking about?
is he capable of being responsible of his roles ?
can you see your self the mother of his children?
many more question you need to think about , in order to determine if he is good for you and you both good with each other or not,
if the answer is yes
then you can find a 3'rd person who you trust , that can help you both to start it together or at lease encourage him to take the first step that he should make ,
if the answer is no ,, then you dont need to think about it and move on
@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
1 Oct 15
@Salamnda Well, I think that's too early to think about? We know each other but as deep as I would want to. So, can not answer that one yet!
@Salamnda (476)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct 15
@dianon_ice14 yes its early and thinking about it wont be useful when its to late ,
this will help you decide , its not just the age ,,,
@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
15 Oct 15
Aw, you should have said it was okay for you even with the age difference. He was sending out feelers you know. 
You can chat him up maybe randomly just to see if you can still hit it off or something.
That's just 5 years c'mon. Get worried if you're past 30 and the guy is just 21.
You can chat him up maybe randomly just to see if you can still hit it off or something.
That's just 5 years c'mon. Get worried if you're past 30 and the guy is just 21. 
