What is a Graceful Giver? (To give or not to give?)
By Artgirl
@owstalaga (4825)
Philippines
October 9, 2015 12:22am CST
Are you one of those people who like to give food or things to people and don't expect anything in return? I always find it fascinating when people freely give other people things because they are generous. 
Actually I have no idea what a graceful giver is exactly, even Google does not have an exact answer to it. I do have a sense of what it is and somehow I feel like I should learn to be a giver than just a receiver.
I am tired of just receiving "blessings" from other people, it makes me feel like I am always taking and not giving anything back. 
Somehow it is true, I have never been much of a giver because how and what can you give when you have nothing to give, right?
Personally I think I don't give people actual things, I share practical or self-help practices instead. 
If that doesn't count for giving then i don't know what else I give freely. I like helping people anyway I can but those who don't like to be helped will always find any kind of help offensive. 
Anyway, I believe the graceful givers are those who always find it easy to have "luck" on their side. Or it might just be good karma because of their giving nature. Who knows but that is how the universe works.
Are you into gift giving even if there's no occasion? Do you find it easy to give away what you have or anything you can?
Actually I have no idea what a graceful giver is exactly, even Google does not have an exact answer to it. I do have a sense of what it is and somehow I feel like I should learn to be a giver than just a receiver.
I am tired of just receiving "blessings" from other people, it makes me feel like I am always taking and not giving anything back. Somehow it is true, I have never been much of a giver because how and what can you give when you have nothing to give, right?
Personally I think I don't give people actual things, I share practical or self-help practices instead. If that doesn't count for giving then i don't know what else I give freely. I like helping people anyway I can but those who don't like to be helped will always find any kind of help offensive.
Anyway, I believe the graceful givers are those who always find it easy to have "luck" on their side. Or it might just be good karma because of their giving nature. Who knows but that is how the universe works.
Are you into gift giving even if there's no occasion? Do you find it easy to give away what you have or anything you can?5 people like this
7 responses
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 15
I love surprising people with gifts, not just for special occasions. I think I should do that more. 
But it's always better to give things to the ones that really need them, like the kids in orphanages or families in refugee camps, for instance.
But it's always better to give things to the ones that really need them, like the kids in orphanages or families in refugee camps, for instance.2 people like this
@owstalaga (4825)
• Philippines
10 Oct 15
Yes indeed. I have donated some of my clothes when there was a need for it. Have never done any volunteer work though even if I somehow want to one of these days. I always inquire to be a volunteer but whenever I plan on going something almost always keeps me from getting there. 
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@Tita417 (1228)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Oct 15
Come to think of it I have not given material things for most of my life because every time I give I just forget it and that's it. You are a giver when you give without telling it to anyone. Just give and God will know who did it. It doesn't have to be material things. It can be an advice that could help her out from her situation. cup of sugar or a help in the kitchen. Giving is not only monetary but everything you give that is coming from the heart, not from the pocket.When you give money from the heart, you just forget it and thank God that you can give.You don't need to be appreciated by men but only think that God sees your heart. And He will return it to you hundredfold
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@owstalaga (4825)
• Philippines
9 Oct 15
Well said. 
I think you explained it perfectly.
Recently I always envy those who can give material things like there's no tomorrow simply because they are generous people. They even refuse to be paid back for what they give out which to me sometimes seems ridiculous.
As for giving alms, I do give alms but rarely and unless I think they really deserve it. Some beggars are just plain lazy people. Tsk.
I think you explained it perfectly.
Recently I always envy those who can give material things like there's no tomorrow simply because they are generous people. They even refuse to be paid back for what they give out which to me sometimes seems ridiculous.
As for giving alms, I do give alms but rarely and unless I think they really deserve it. Some beggars are just plain lazy people. Tsk.1 person likes this
@Tita417 (1228)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Oct 15
@owstalaga You give because You love to give not to be appreciatd but you just love it. there is joy when you give and that's what I feel everytime I do something . A smile might appear in your face and a sigh of joy
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@owstalaga (4825)
• Philippines
9 Oct 15
@Tita417 Wish I could be as open as you when it comes to giving. I know the feeling but somehow I rarely do it with material things. I get that feeling whenever I help people.
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@allknowing (153529)
• India
10 Oct 15
Giving gives more joy than receiving and these days not many in my family or friends' circle are in need. I have a Trust that reaches out to the needy. It s quite satisfying when you find someone who is in need of help. Apart from this I have parties for the poor kids each Christmas.
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@owstalaga (4825)
• Philippines
10 Oct 15
Wow that's great!
Some years ago I had a few opportunities to join a group of people to have Christmas parties for orphaned kids but I always am unable to donate anything whenever they come around asking for donations...
@allknowing (153529)
• India
10 Oct 15
@owstalaga I spend my ow money for this, each year. I like it that way as I am also an organiser of parties.l
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@owstalaga (4825)
• Philippines
10 Oct 15
True. I forgot who said something similar as this quote "You cannot give what you do not have." I think it was St. Francis or some other I read it from. When I read that some years ago I realized it is better to be a cheerful giver indeed and only give if you have something to give.
We can only share what we have and not what we lack. 
@skysnap (20152)
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10 Oct 15
@owstalaga nice quote you can't give what you dont have. You only give what you have.
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@owstalaga (4825)
• Philippines
10 Oct 15
Oh that's on giving alms though. It is related but not quite what I was getting at.
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@owstalaga (4825)
• Philippines
10 Oct 15
@wiLLmaH Yes that's the right thing to do too. It would be boastful if you announce who you help all the time. It's like you're running for a government position or something where you show everyone all the good things you are doing.
But then again, it is good if public officials show us what they are doing so we know where our taxes go.
@wiLLmaH (8801)
• Singapore, Singapore
10 Oct 15
@owstalaga In church this is the teaching on us on helping others.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
10 Oct 15
the hubs 'n i both're that type 'f person 'n mostly do schtuff fer others anonymously - we wish no recognition fer simple acts 'f kindness. sometimes, the best gift one can give is a smile, a touch 'f the hand 'n some'f their time. the most precious gifts cost nothin' more 'n usually means the most.
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@owstalaga (4825)
• Philippines
11 Oct 15
Me too, I donated my clothes anonymously. I'd rather not put my names anywhere when I donate. it's better that way I think. Feels better too knowing you helped some people in some way.
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