How do things get twisted so badly?

@poehere Not only the communication skill but also the bond that keeps us close.

@JaneApril Yes excellent point you have made here. Friendship, families, and marriages all needs bonds that hold us together.

You know I couldn't agree with you more. Even families now have a hard time communicating with their children. They are always on their phones, computers, or playing a video game. If everyone would unplug for a day each week maybe we could all regain our communication skills.

@poehere That would be a great idea. We do that all the time ... well, we still watch television and such, but we go for walks, swim, ride bikes, play games, etc. In fact, we are having a game night tonight, which means that we have dinner at the table and play board games until bedtime ... or until we can't read or think any longer, which usually happens around 2:00 or 3:00 in the morning. There will be no television today.

What a great answer. I was thinking more on the lines of forcing each person to unplug for the day and have a good old fashion family day out. Like horseback riding, bond fire or something like this.

@purplealabaster Good for you. When I go and visit my daughter and the kids we do that too. Now that the kids are older the games are a lot more fun.

@poehere - I could very well understand the meaning of communication gap when in your home two languages used to be spoken. It would have been hard to make out what your mother or father wanted to actually convey to each other or to you. Yes, with practice you could be a patient listener and once you acquire this skill, you will be able to understand the other person in a better way.

I do agree with you. I was raised in France when I was born. My father is French and my mom American. I always saw the communication gaps in our family. My mom wanted us to only speak English and my father wanted us to speak both. I know when I grew up we heard both languages in our household because my mom couldn't get the handle of French and speak it well. She spent over 35+ years in France and she still had a hard time communicating. It takes a strong person to be a good listener. I know life is busy but when one of my friends need me I like to be there for them. I try hard to do as you but sometime I get distracted and I need to practice a little more on my listening skills and spend more time helping and not running around from one place to another so fast.

Yes you are so right on this one. I guess I have never really followed a lot of politics so I never considered this one before.

I couldn't agree with you more. When I turn on the TV the news is one thing I don't really like watching. I get tired to hear about all the problems happening around the world. Here on the islands of Tahiti I am far away from many of the problems and life here is a lot more simple. If everyone lived on islands and not so close to each other wonder if the world will finally be at peace.

I have to agree with you on this one. if you look back over 100 years it seems that history has a way of repeating itself and not changing. I do agree we need peace in our lives and in our homes now.

@poehere Pride is the culprit. it is why we think highly of ourselves when we could have just said sorry. It is what makes these wars. We cannot give compromises and we don't tolerate small mistakes. we get to be harsh in our decisions and all of these leads to destruction of lives, properties and the whole nation. I pray to God that these things would come to an end.

@Tita417 You are right. Pride stands in the way of so many things. I tried to say sorry to someone once. I knew for a fact it wasn't my fault. I had sent something to them and they took it wrong, read it wrong, and didn't try to ask me anything. In the end saying sorry was actually the wrong thing to do. I started to let my pride get in the way and was determined to prove to this person it was their fault. In the end both of our pride took over and the friendship ended. You are so right pride plays a major role in communication.

That is so kind of you to point this out to me. English is one language that can be confusing. For example the word back - You can say I'll be right back and it means one thing. Then say My back is hurting and now it means something else. In French we have one word to say we will be right back and one word for our back. So there is no confusion in what we are saying or how we have used our words. I find on this site if you make a small error in judgement and select the wrong word in your discussion people here understand that language can be difficult if you weren't born and raised to speak English. People here are so kind such as yourself. They help others out from their kindness, comments, and goodwill. You seem like a very nice person to meet. In emails I have no problems communicating in French because this is my native language I grew up with. But in English I do need practice to try and explain myself better. Thank goodness I don't need to write so many email in English and most of the time I do write English I make mistakes. Like all people I'm not perfect in this language but I do try hard to make my point and to express my feeling in what I do write. Now on the other hand many people won't take the time to learn to speak, read, or write another language. I do have to say coming as far as I have in this language I am a little proud of myself. I would like to invite you to learn my language and write a few things in French. Then you can understand how difficult it can be for a person to learn another language. Thank you for your kind response and yes you are so correct. That is the meaning behind my post. Communication and how certain words are lost, gestures misunderstood, and kindness taken for something different. In spell checker I did spell the word jester correctly. That's why it wasn't flagged. But I see now I have used the wrong jester or gesture in my post. I just now looked this up to see the difference. I am so happy that you have taught me something new today. Now I understand the difference between jester and gesture. I hope you have a lovely day. If you do happen to see my other mistakes please feel free to point them out. I feel this is the only way a person can learn so they can communicate better with others.

Yah at times everyone needs to unplug and get back to the basics of good old fashion communication.