The right age for marriage.
By marguicha
@marguicha (230365)
Chile
October 23, 2015 11:40am CST
Many people say that if people marry too young, the marriage will be a disaster. The same thing is said when people have babies when young.
As my experience is completly different, I think that it depends on many circumstances. And as I get older, I also see more marriages that fail no matter what age the couple got married.
Lately, as roles of women and men change, so does marriage. As women have become breadwinners, they also demand more of their partners. And early pregnancy is almost impossible if you want to pursue a career or have higher studies.
What is your idea on the subject?
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8 responses
@GardenGerty (169556)
• United States
23 Oct 15
I think the right age for marriage is the age when you are mature enough to work on it. I also think it probably is easier to have babies when you are young, but the husband needs to be a good and supportive partner who does his share.
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@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
23 Oct 15
I agree. In my case my husband was earning good money and I had a lot of support form him and from my parents and in laws.
@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
24 Oct 15
@41CombedaleRoad My husband was the biggest provider in our house most of the time. Firtunatly, when the bad times came, I was mature enough and strong enough to provide.
@41CombedaleRoad (5966)
• Greece
24 Oct 15
Marriage for a young woman can work if she marries a more mature man, his maturity can carry it through until she becomes mature herself. Having a baby might do this if a woman has a strong maternal instinct. But for the man the responsibility of having to support both a mother an child is a heavy one and also an expensive one. So marry, if you wish but choose an older man who can support you.
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
24 Oct 15
Maybe it is right that get married too young will bring some problems because the couple does not ready to handle some responsibility yet. They are not pretty mature to face some problem in a new family although they have much money. Maybe it is so different with the couple which get marriage in the mature of age.
But sometime many circumstances that force a couple should get marriage on too young age or too elder age. Each people has background how it happened in their live.
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@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
24 Oct 15
As I said, each case is different. Maturity doesn´t always come with age.
@youless (114117)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Oct 15
I don't agree to get married earlier since at that time the people are still mature. Once they have marriage problems, they can not solove problems in a good way. They are just too young and inexperienced. And couples often argue about money. Whereas usually young couples don't earn so much. So this is the problem. And it also needs some time to meet the right person. All takes time and it can not be in a hurry. So I think getting married about 30 years old is fine.
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@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
24 Oct 15
Fortunatly, we didn´t have money problems when we got married in spite our age. They came latrer though, but by then we knew that money had nothing to do with our feelings, I leaned how to live on a budget and how to splurge when I could.
@Samanthavv (1380)
• United States
23 Oct 15
Well, apparently if should be a disaster in two regards. I got pregnant in grade eleven and got married in grade 11. Then gave birth three days after I started grade twelve. And here I am, nine years later and still married to the same man with three more kids after the first.
I will admit though, we defied he odds and statistics. We were both too stubborn to give up. We had a very brief rough patch for about six months our second year of marriage but ever since then it has been smooth sailing.
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@Samanthavv (1380)
• United States
24 Oct 15
@marguicha we have been together for nine years, known each other for twelve years, and have been married almost nine years.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
24 Oct 15
Age doesn't matter quite so much as attitude. If you go into the marriage knowing that it won't always be perfect, you won't always be in love, but you will always work on it, then it will be a success and it will last. But if you think you're going to live happily in love with this person for ever then you're in for an awakening because marriages aren't perfect and you won't always feel in love.
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@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
24 Oct 15
Fairy tales never go into writing what it means to live happily ever after
:But in my experience it is respect and patience what does the trick. We are not passionatly in love with our husband for 50 years, but we love him a lot more.
:But in my experience it is respect and patience what does the trick. We are not passionatly in love with our husband for 50 years, but we love him a lot more.@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
24 Oct 15
@marguicha Exactly. It's going to come with a lot of ups and downs. There are times I"m really tired of my husband. Where every little thing he does annoys me. Sometimes that's just my own mood, I'm cranky so I get annoyed at everything. Sometimes it's him just being annoying. It passes after awhile..
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@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
24 Oct 15
I was 16 when I started dating my husband and 18 when I got married. But he was older and mature and we loved each other. Fir me it was exactly the right age and the right man.
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@owstalaga (4825)
• Philippines
1 Nov 15
I believe the right time for marriage is when people are ready to commit into having a family aside from working and doing the other things that people do. If we are not ready and prepared for married life then why get married eh? It will only bring problems if preparations are not made.
@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
23 Oct 15
I agree. My story is mych different from others.
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