should I feel jealous?

Romania
October 24, 2015 6:43am CST
ok last night me and my boyfriend went to a club at one of his friend's birthday. we danced and had fun but there's one thing that has been bothering me. I know he notices other women I mean he's not blind or something. i do to but I respect him and I feel that he also respects me. he had a couple of shots and he was a little bit dizzy. we all noticed this gorgeous redhead that was dancing and she was practically all over the place. she looked good I must admit it. but what bothered me was the fact that when we were coming back from the club my boyfriend made this remark: if I was single I would have taken her home probably. given the fact that he was a little bit drunk I gave him some circumstances but still...it sounded shi*** to me
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@katsmeow1213 (28910)
• United States
24 Oct 15
Well, at least he said if he were single.. so he knows that he can't do that sort of stuff because he's in a relationship. I wouldn't worry about it too much.
• Romania
24 Oct 15
yes but don't you think the remark with inappropriate especially because he did it towards me. it made me feel a little un-worthy. I told him that he should have such discussions with his boys
• United States
24 Oct 15
@swissheart How long have you been together? He was just trying to be "himself" for a moment. Those types of thoughts probably go through his head a million times a day but he doesn't speak them out loud. It's typical guy stuff.
• Romania
24 Oct 15
@katsmeow1213 for the past 10 months
@lady1993 (21871)
• Philippines
24 Oct 15
yeah, maybe a little jealous he may be thinking that, but he shouldn't have said that.. especially to you but give him another chance he didn't really make a move on her
• Romania
24 Oct 15
but I wonder if I wasn't in the picture( what if only there were him and his boys last night) what would he have done?
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@lady1993 (21871)
• Philippines
24 Oct 15
@swissheart yeah, there is also that all one can do is trust for now... also trust your woman's instinct
• Romania
25 Oct 15
@lady1993 that;s the issue.I'm relatively jealous but still I don't think he's cheating on me. I mean he's pretty open about everything. but it bothered me to hear what he was thinking
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@GardenGerty (115917)
• United States
24 Oct 15
I would consider what his actions are like, and decide if it is a problem. I do not think it is. In his own way he may have thought he was complimenting you. Saying what a good catch you are.
• Romania
25 Oct 15
men have a weird way of expressing what they think....
@Rollo1 (16650)
• Boston, Massachusetts
24 Oct 15
Men are wired to look, they can't help themselves. Ten minutes later, they don't remember anything about the girl they were looking at. Your man wants you, that's why he is with you. What you heard from him was something that he might have thought but wouldn't have said if he weren't drunk. It's hard for women to hear these things, see these things, but it's good not to assign them too much importance. What you heard him say was "IF I were single" Which means he considers himself committed to you in a relationship. So don't worry about it. He's not considering himself free to go home with anyone but you.
• Romania
24 Oct 15
I sure hope so. like I mentioned he respects me when he's sober and I never felt like he might be cheating on me or something. he taught me how to trust myself a little bit more( I used to be extremely jealous) but still...
@owlwings (41904)
• Cambridge, England
24 Oct 15
I don't think you need to feel jealous. It was one of those slightly inappropriate remarks that guys make, especially when they've had a few. At least he was sharing his thoughts with you. You might have had cause to worry if he hadn't said anything!
• Romania
24 Oct 15
thanks for the advice. I will try not to pay much attention to this remark even if it got on my nerves last night
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