is it normal to ask your parents for money?

@Auntylou You are a very helpful and understanding mother. Happy to hear it..

I'm trying to be as financially independent as I can but still there are moments when I can't face all the expenses

@myfb2009 You are very kind. I do my best. I had parents who helped me out occasionally over the years when I had financial troubles and it was a useful safety net..

why do they worry?

@Drosophila it's good to know you have someone that would be there for you in any condition

@swissheart Well they worry because they know when I ask them for loans I must be in a desperate situation. So naturally they worry, as parents do.

yes having a certain age and still depending financially on your parents it's totally wrong

you're financially independent?

It is very good, if you never asked them for money, it means you do not make them enter in difficult condition when should give money to you. I proud of you, you are great, I think.

@swissheart My husband has a job. And sometimes on holidays like Christmas, my parents may give us a little money as a present.

it's normal to help your parents as they grow older. I'm scared of the idea that considering the money I earn I won't have the possibility to do this

@jhieeen thanks for the advice. I will try to be as positive as possible about the future

@swissheart Trust yourself that you can do everything for your parents.

I dream about the moment I will become totally independent and not have to ask them for money

@swissheart At the moment, no I don't. I stay at home with my kids. I probably should be working. With young kids, it's not always easy finding daycare and such.

do you work?

@swissheart There are different yardsticks used to measure parent children relationship. I feel that there is no hard and fast rule for this as long as the two people concerned are happy and comfortable and no mental tension or a rift in the relationship or unhappiness results because of financial matters. So, it is left to the individuals to decide and go ahead with what they think is right ..

@kiran8 but what might determine a child to not to want to talk to his parents

and especially borrowing money for a decent purpose and not like going clubbing or something like that

of course I would help them whenever I have the possibility

@swissheart Totally agree with you, so it is normal that children and parents help each other when one of them need a help. Rather, it will strengthen the relationship between them.

but considering my age would you consider normal for my parents to financially support me

@swissheart Yes of course. I am 29 and i can financially support myself but i live with my parents so well all help each other out in terms of paying mortgage and bills etc.

@gudheart I live alone and try to be as independent as possible but there are moments when I need to get back to my parents even if I don't feel confortable with this

I can pay for my expenses on my own and I'm pretty damn proud of that

@swissheart Well then you shouldn't worry what anyone might think of you asking for a bit of help in an emergency situation. Most of us need some financial help at times. I wouldn't have my house and car without help from the banks. The only concern I would have about asking for financial help from parents is that sometimes parents will give their children money they can't really afford to give them. I know I would probably go without certain things to help my children out if they really needed the help!! Not always the sensible thing to do but parents can lose track of common sense when it comes to their children!!

it's normal to help your parents when you grow up

@swissheart Yes, when we grow up, it is normal give money and give some helps when the parents need it. This is really mutual relationship and bring better on their relationship than they are selfish.

@swissheart ya but you till not understand how to earn money till you not earn own

so you wouldn't consider it normal to ask your parents for money on a monthly basis?

@swissheart Well it depends on the situation I am in. But I'm just trying to say that we should avoid the best we can and just not make it a habit. That being said if I'm in desperate need for money, surely i will ask from my parents.

I took the exam and the result was positive. I hope now I will get a better salary

@swissheart Whoo hoo! Way to go on the exam :) I'm hopeful you will too!

I own a house so I don't have to pay the rent. but I would never consider going back to my hometown because I feel that this way I wouldn't progress

what situation would you consider to be of extreme need?

my parents would never ask for them back because they know I wouldn't have the possibility to pay them back now

@swissheart Well if they know you don't have the money to pay them back would they still loan it to you ?

yes there's always a special relationship between a grandparent and their niece/nephew

it makes me feel uncomfortable but I don't have any other solution right now

tell me how would you be able to handle all of your bills with approximately 250 dollars each month( this is my salary) and also try to save money