It's Awkward When Relationships Start

@owstalaga (4621)
Philippines
December 5, 2015 9:07pm CST
Booo, it's really awkward the way some relationships start. You get to know the other person and sometimes it's kinda hard to talk when one is quiet most of the time. I mean how the hell can you talk about something without talking right? It's just crazy sometimes. I know nobody's perfect but heck it's difficult when two people come together even if they have several things in common, right? So how do you or did you get through the awkward stage? Or did you ever have that stage at all?
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@Beatburn (4317)
• Philippines
14 Dec 15
I try to know what the other person likes or interests. Then I ask questions and listen to pick up some points that might interest me and ask more questions. If it's still one-sided, I'd choose to be quiet. I might be asking too much.
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@owstalaga (4621)
• Philippines
24 Dec 15
Well he's not asking me anything that much. Maybe this isn't love. Oh well.
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@wiLLmaH (8401)
• Singapore, Singapore
24 Dec 15
@owstalaga or maybe he just want to listen. Like @beatburn added, try to check on his interests and start from there.
@owstalaga (4621)
• Philippines
26 Dec 15
@wiLLmaH I know some of his interests. We have common interests and of course lots of differences. haha~ Too bad I think we're both the quiet type, although I can be loud too. I know a pair of quiet types who got married. Ah well...
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@kaka135 (14273)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 15
I think this didn't happen to me, as I am always very talkative. I used to think it's awkward when two people do not talk when they are together, but now I quite enjoy the quiet moment. If you think it's awkward, is it possible to think of some activities together when you don't need to talk much, such as watching movie, playing puzzle, or something else? I am thinking when you are doing something together, then you might have more topics to talk about, just to break the ice. Sometimes I'd think about something to talk, just anything that come across your mind and you think he might be interested. Hope you'll be more comfortable spending time with him soon.
@owstalaga (4621)
• Philippines
14 Dec 15
Ah he's just the sensitive type... Too bad I am not one to treat sensitive guys too well. My goodness. I read somewhere that with regards to sensitive guys, it's the girls that need to do most of the moves. I'm like, whoa... C'mon right? Tsk.
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@kaka135 (14273)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 15
@owstalaga I just think if you really love him, perhaps you will soon find a way to move further. Same to him as well. Sometimes it might take longer to know and understand each other better, and find the most appropriate ways to be with another person. Perhaps just take it naturally, and you'll find it more comfortable soon. Good luck to you!
@owstalaga (4621)
• Philippines
24 Dec 15
@kaka135 Maybe... I dunno. Thanks. Only time will tell indeed.
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@softbabe44 (5840)
• Vancouver, Washington
6 Dec 15
Well sometimes that can happen you could be asking questions but what happens after all the questions are asked this might be a one-sided conversation.
@owstalaga (4621)
• Philippines
7 Dec 15
yeah it becomes like that for a time. Damn... it's kinda hard at the start. Oh well...
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• Vancouver, Washington
7 Dec 15
@owstalaga Yea, it happens like that.
• Portugal
6 Dec 15
im always afraid that it happens when i go on a date or when i like a guy. but it didnt happen yet ahah and i really wish it doesnt happen. i think the key is trying to find out what you both have in common. that way there will always exist things to talk about and share. awkward silence is a way of making a date terrible.
@owstalaga (4621)
• Philippines
6 Dec 15
Well we do have something in common but then again I don't want that to be the only things we talk about...
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• Portugal
6 Dec 15
@owstalaga me neither the problem is that both our discussions had that theme. but now we both said our opinion about that so we can talk about something different. so what do you do for a living? do you work or do you still study?
@avi256 (7794)
• Pune, India
28 Mar 16
Its really a difficult situation to be in, because how many times only one person will take all the initiative.
@owstalaga (4621)
• Philippines
29 Mar 16
I know right? I guess we were just not meant to be.
@Hatley (164092)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Dec 15
one of the best things about meeting m y hubby to be was how easy it was for us to talk to each like we had known each others for years. we never had an y problem conversing at all
@owstalaga (4621)
• Philippines
24 Dec 15
We can talk when there are other people around us but when it's just the two of us it's kind of awkward. hahaha~
@celticeagle (124708)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Dec 15
My mom left my dad because days would go by and he would say a word. It drove her crazy. You just have to get to know the person and meet half way.
@owstalaga (4621)
• Philippines
14 Dec 15
oh my gosh, I guess so. I'm just reading on it now. Why the hell do sensitive guys fall for "tough" girls eh? Tsk tsk. Recipe for disaster if you ask me. *sigh* So I guess if I want to move forward I have to make a lot of adjustments. Damn. Isn't that unfair if it's just me who's going to adjust?
@makingpots (11916)
• United States
6 Dec 15
Maybe you could remove the expectation of every moment being filled with talking. Sometimes being comfortable enough with someone to not feel like you have to keep the conversation going is a good thing. But if you are asking questions and the person refuses to answer you, then maybe there is a problem. In my best relationships, it seems that the comfortable quiet times are often the good times. We just enjoy each others company.
@owstalaga (4621)
• Philippines
6 Dec 15
Ah well if the relationship is just starting out I think awkward quiet moments just happen...
@Lucky15 (37286)
• Philippines
6 Dec 15
How will getting to know you stage happen when someone is not talking? :(
@owstalaga (4621)
• Philippines
6 Dec 15
My sentiments exactly. hahaha~