I Know What He Really Means
@SIMPLYD (90717)
Philippines
December 16, 2015 9:00pm CST
This morning , as a finale of putting on my dress uniform , I put a blue shawl over my shoulder since it’s cold today and the weather is gloomy . Usually , I would use my blazer .
But today , I decided to have a shawl instead , because it also looks good on our dress uniform as you can see in the picture I attached , wherein I put a peach shawl over my uniform .
However , when my husband saw me , he said “it’s hot , why do you have to put that over your uniform?”
Me and my mother in-law both said that it’s cold so it will be appropriate , but I decided to just put on my blazer instead and kept the shawl in my bag to bring to the office . He said nothing anymore.
It means he doesn’t want me to put on a shawl because we will just be commuting . 
I know what he meant when he said that . 
So, is your husband or partner a bit conservative like my husband who just wants simple ways of dressing ?
I know what he meant when he said that .
So, is your husband or partner a bit conservative like my husband who just wants simple ways of dressing ?19 people like this
22 responses
@Syllogism (206)
• China
17 Dec 15
I seldom judge my wife's dressing. I often tell her that if she loves it then it's the best.
I think whether a dress is pretty is not the most important, because different people own different aesthetics.The most important thing is whether the dress can bring you a good mood.
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@kaka135 (14994)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 15
You look great with your peach shawl! 
I am the one who don't really care much about my dressing, but I'd prefer simple and comfortable. Sometimes my husband would suggest me to wear nicer, prettier and maybe a bit more fashionable.
Glad that he doesn't mind I wear sleeveless and shorts as it's always hot here, so it'll be more comfortable to wear like this.
I am the one who don't really care much about my dressing, but I'd prefer simple and comfortable. Sometimes my husband would suggest me to wear nicer, prettier and maybe a bit more fashionable.
Glad that he doesn't mind I wear sleeveless and shorts as it's always hot here, so it'll be more comfortable to wear like this.3 people like this
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
21 Dec 15
Thank you . Really , you are not into looking your best always when you go out of the house ?
Me, it has been this way since i began to know how to make myself look good . I don't go out of the house without fixing a bit of myself . I make sure i look good appropriately for whatever the occasion is .
Here too , the mode is going to the mall in shorts and tees . But not me since i am already a bit old for that .
Here too , the mode is going to the mall in shorts and tees . But not me since i am already a bit old for that . 1 person likes this
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
18 Dec 15
Do you think so ?
What i am thinking is that he thinks putting on a shawl would make me look classy , when actually we will just be riding a jeepney to work and he is in his rubber shoes.
Yes, that is true . But sometimes when it involves my feet , i would choose comfort .
Yes, that is true . But sometimes when it involves my feet , i would choose comfort . 2 people like this
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
18 Dec 15
@LadyDuck See ? Our husband are of the same thinking about how we dress sometimes . That's because they dress simply most of the time , while us , we always wear our best accordingly though , whenever we go out .
We should be happy because after all they take a look at us when we are finally dressed.
See ? Our husband are of the same thinking about how we dress sometimes . That's because they dress simply most of the time , while us , we always wear our best accordingly though , whenever we go out .
We should be happy because after all they take a look at us when we are finally dressed. 2 people like this
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Dec 15
my late hubby used to love for me to dress as elaborate, sexy, and pretty as possible. he wanted everyone to think he had a special lady. lol
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@Shellyann36 (11383)
• United States
22 Dec 15
I think that the peach shawl looks great on you. Glad you decided to take it with you. I think your husband must be very conservative.
I rarely dress up and my husband would love to see me dress up more. When I do dress up he is very happy!
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@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
22 Dec 15
Really , he likes you to dress up. I guess, all husbands like their wives to once in a while be feminine so they want us to dress up.
Thank you . My husband isn't actually conservative because i always even wear sleeveless blouses to work over my jeans .
But a shawl makes my uniform look classy . That's why he doesn't like me to put it over my uniform since we will just be commuting . And i understand it fully well , so i just put on its blazer .
Just like you, i rarely dress up too . It's just that our uniform is in dress form so i have to be in that .
Thank you . My husband isn't actually conservative because i always even wear sleeveless blouses to work over my jeans .
But a shawl makes my uniform look classy . That's why he doesn't like me to put it over my uniform since we will just be commuting . And i understand it fully well , so i just put on its blazer .
Just like you, i rarely dress up too . It's just that our uniform is in dress form so i have to be in that . 1 person likes this
@mammots (3209)
• Philippines
18 Dec 15
Your peach shawl looks great over your uniform. Sometimes i prefer to use a shawl rather than a blazer cause it can be for cold weather and could also be good head gear to protect my face from the very hot sun and could also be protection for my very long hair especially if 'm riding a jeepney. A shawl is a very versatile part of a womans wardrobe for beauty and for protection.
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@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
18 Dec 15
Thank you for saying that .
Yes, a shawl nowadays is a pretty accessory not only is it useful like you enumerated .
Don't you notice when you put on a shawl , it adds "class " to your overall look even if you are just in your shirt and jeans ? 
Yes, a shawl nowadays is a pretty accessory not only is it useful like you enumerated .
Don't you notice when you put on a shawl , it adds "class " to your overall look even if you are just in your shirt and jeans ? 1 person likes this
@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
17 Dec 15
No my husband is fine with whatever I choose to wear.
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@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
18 Dec 15
I think men are basically like that - they notice but they don't put in words what they have to comment for fear of being retaliated .
Well , before he is like that - he doesn't care . But ever since i got angry with him for not caring to give a comment if what i wear one time , he now would comment .
I like it actually when he does . I feel that he cares .
Well , before he is like that - he doesn't care . But ever since i got angry with him for not caring to give a comment if what i wear one time , he now would comment .
I like it actually when he does . I feel that he cares . 1 person likes this
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
18 Dec 15
You have just made me laugh. I wish you saw the way my partner dressed. He goes around in a pareo most of the time and he ties it like a pair of shorts. No shirt and no shoes and it is so funny to see. He doesn't care what people say when he walks in the store like this. He does get a lot of stares and most of the time when we are there together many women come up to him and flirt with him. I do laugh so hard on this one. One time he had an elder women I think in her 80's come and flirt with him. She told him what she wouldn't do or give to be 40 years young right now she would steal him away from me. We both had a good laugh on this one.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
18 Dec 15
@SIMPLYD It is a cloth that we wear here on the islands.
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Jump to: navigation, search Pareu on display in Rarotonga The pareu or pareo (see below) is the Cook Islands and Tahitian word for a wraparound skirt. Originally it was used only to refer to women's skirts, as men wore
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@RichardMeister (5328)
• Otis Orchards, Washington
17 Dec 15
I'm not married but it never bothered me what any of my girlfriends wore. I did have one girlfriend who said, "There are people who look good in a suit and people who don't. You are one of those who don't look good in a suit." I hardly ever wear a suit anyway so no big deal.
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@RichardMeister (5328)
• Otis Orchards, Washington
18 Dec 15
@SIMPLYD That girlfriend is not long my girlfriend.
I understand there is one question a man should always answer "no" to even if "no" is a lie. That question is, "Does this make me look fat?"
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@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
21 Dec 15
@RichardMeister 
You are correct . Some women doesn't like to hear a yes to that .
But as for me , i would like to hear the truth , so my husband will tell me if i really am , so i can start dieting . At least , we each take constructive criticism.
You are correct . Some women doesn't like to hear a yes to that .
But as for me , i would like to hear the truth , so my husband will tell me if i really am , so i can start dieting . At least , we each take constructive criticism.2 people like this
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Dec 15
no m y husband was very laid back and he seldom stopped me from somejting like that. I,m widowed and elderly bit when I worked as a nurses aide we still wore white uniforms so we tried our best to find new styles in thjem now the girls can wear pretty colored pant s outfts I do love that change too.
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@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
17 Dec 15
That's nice of your husband .
Although actually , my husband doesn't mind me wearing sleeveless blouses even to the office . But i think because it would look classy having the shawl , he thinks it is in appropriate because we will be just riding a public transport , though just short trips.
Though he doesn't like me wearing tight fitting and very short dresses . That's fine with me because i don't like it either .
Although actually , my husband doesn't mind me wearing sleeveless blouses even to the office . But i think because it would look classy having the shawl , he thinks it is in appropriate because we will be just riding a public transport , though just short trips.
Though he doesn't like me wearing tight fitting and very short dresses . That's fine with me because i don't like it either . 1 person likes this
@artemeis (4189)
• China
15 Jan 16
Let me just say that I would never allow any men including my husband from restricting me with their insensitive thoughtfulness here. In the first place, this is a piece of shawl not scarf and could be very complementing as seen here and definitely would not get in the way even if you are commuting. I'm sure had you persisted, you would be the talking point, center of attraction or doing your runway on your commute for being standing out among the other women around. Putting on a blazer is so common and you know what I mean when it comes to being common with our dressing. Nevermind, what your husband does for a living but when it comes to dressing up I believe he needs some lessons from you. I am sorry for saying this and I can never find my husband ever telling me that I am over dressed or distasteful. I'm sure the designers would be nuts or going nuts if men like your husband is ever going to dictate the way we women dress.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (17239)
• China
17 Dec 15
I don't care about what my wife dresses ,even though I dress in a rather conservative way .
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@antonbunot (11146)
• Calgary, Alberta
17 Dec 15
Me? I don't care what my wife wears . . . if she likes to go 2-piece . . it is okay for me. No problem. But I am sure she would be the last woman to wear 2-piece . . .
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