Is Your Marriage In Accordance With God's Design?

To honor and submit is exactly what the word submit means in the biblical sense. Children submit to their parents but parents in their right mind does not consider them inferior and does not enslave them either.

Neither am I a slave of my husband. He respects me and my rights and decisions just as I respect his. If you believe submission is being a slave then you are entitled to your definition but certainly God does not mean slavery when he commanded the wives to submit to their own husband.

@LadyDuck @ladyluck, You are right that man and woman are created equal. I would like to quote again what is written in my post: “The woman was made out of Adam’s side. She was not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved. God is the author of equality and since God is a God who cannot change and never commits mistake,He himself will not issue a commandment that will nullify the equality of men and women. As I said, I respect your definition of submission but I still believe that submission does not make woman inferior to men and believe without doubt that "submit or submission" is the right word. God used this word and God can't never be wrong when He said "Wives submit yourselves unto your husbands, as unto the Lord." Have a nice day.

@salonga We had this formula when we married in Church (I am Catholic), but now it has been amended, because man and woman are created equal and they have to be equal.

@simone10 thank you for asking. As I mentioned in one of my resposes here... submission is a position of giving honor and respect to the husband. My husband deserves this and I hope and pray other wives have husbands who also deserved honor and respect.

Many people think submission means the wife has no more say in decision making. This is certainly not the idea of submission as far as God's Word is concerned.

@salonga this is true. What do you believe submission is?

Fine. I am not really asking every one to agree with this. Each of us is entitled to our own belief.

@MALUSE, it works for me fine and I'm not from Europe but with all due respect what gave us authority to speak for the rest? I know Germany is a large and powerful country now but i don;t think somebody living there could speak for the rest of the continent besides the topic was brought out for all Mylot members to respond in accordance to what they believe and practice, I mean no disrespect but you should have responded on how it applies to yourself.

@salonga hey speak in English LOL!

Failed marriage is rampant in our society but I am glad that inspite of that you seem to have remained faithful and nearer to God.

@salonga I am very grateful for my relationship with my Savior Jesus Christ.

This is a sad reality. Most men would treat you well when they are courting but when they get what they want they mostly become abusive. This is why a woman has to be careful in choosing their husband.

@salonga Thanks. I do not think I am a good wife, but I am learning to be one. I think I am a lucky woman, as I have good husband and lovely children. Yes, I always think I am blessed.

@kaka135 Yes definitely you are blessed and so blessed I should say.

There is no doubt, your marriage relationship is very ideal and admirable. You are not only a model mother but a model wife and you are blessed to have such kind of husband too.

In God's time, and in accordance with His will, he will give the desire of your heart.

@salonga I have no doubt and maybe by then I will be worthy.

It is normal to argue with husband. Submission does not mean woman can't argue anymore especially when she has right points to raise. Submitting to husband does not mean you have no right to participate in decision making at all. Submission does not remove equality in husband and wife. And it is nice to have a man who loves and respects your decision as well. I'm glad your husband is that kind of man.

@salonga Precisely , that's how it means with submitting to our husbands. And it's nice that we found our husbands to get old with .

If the husband takes advantage of the submissiveness of wife then certainly he is not a godly husband and not worthy to be the head of the family. As my post clearly states: “The woman was made out of Adam’s side. She was not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved."

@nita04 A godly husband will do that. It will be hard to submit to an ungodly husband this is why women have to be careful in choosing their husband.

In short, submissiveness can be given only if we are treated fairly and squarely. It must be a give and take process.

Only you would know what works best for you.

I find nothing strange about it just as I find nothing strange about his command for husband to love the wife.

@salonga I would have thought the least a man could do would be to love his wife. Whether she is submissive or not. I certainly don't need to be told, by anyone, to love my wife. Our relationship would be be in a pretty poor state if I was loving her because a fabricated deity told me so.

@WorDazza Oh well it is your belief and you are entitled to that.

A failed marriage is sad but those who had this can always move on and live a happy life after that failure. I am glad you did.

@ridingbet I am happy for you my friend.

@salonga I agree, my friend. I am just glad because the father of my son made me a complete woman.

May God continue to bless your marriage my friend. I can picture in my mind how ideal your marriage is. Keep up.

@whiteream Yes, it is a blessing to find a husband who shares the same faith with you and both of you obey God without reservation, so that God showers you blessings day by day in a hundred different ways.

@salonga May you also continued to be blessed by God. It isn't easy finding the one who belongs by your side. But, God has blessed us well.

Amen, only Christians, the true children of God will understand that the design of God is always perfect and the best for us.

I could not agree more. That is a very wise statement.

That is exactly what God wants. I am happy to know that.

I am happy for your great partnership.

Good to know you nave interesting and successful marriage.

What a beautiful testimony! I want to hear more of this kind of marriage.