Dealing with a broken heart
By Sheena Aris
@Islandtulip (88)
Jamaica
February 2, 2016 12:54pm CST
I have had my fair share of broken heart, being cheated on and lied to. It's not the easiest thing to get over some are able to bonce back quickly, but I tend to hold on to it and drown my sorrows in sad songs, memories, over eating and lifetime movies. How do you handle your break ups?
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So sorry that you are having problems.
@Islandtulip (88)
• Jamaica
2 Feb 16
Wow that's amazing hats off to you guys. That's what I aspire to have in every potential relationship. I do hope that one day I'll get to be where you are at. I am truly happy to hear that there are still strong marriages out there.
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@teresaschultz (50)
• East London, South Africa
27 Feb 16
That's really lucky. To spend your life with the one you want to spend your life with. Awesome! Some people look for that sort of love all their lives, that special kind of love between two people, and never find it. Or do (find it) but one of the two changes their minds about how they feel, and the other is left reeling, unable to just suddenly turn off their love for the other. Their love for the other continues. @jaboUK You are really lucky to still be with the man you wanted more than 50 years ago.
@vandana7 (99036)
• India
2 Feb 16
It is tough. You need a mom who can hold you and let you cry it out. But I have always been a lover of music. For some reason, music always managed to pull me out of dreadful moods. One thing I would advise, be sure to walk. I, of course, had to because of my financial problems. Back then, I hated my fate. But now when I think of it, exercises are good they keep you active and make you tired. When you are tired, sleep comes faster, when sleep takes over, healing too takes over. Healing be it physical or mental. So don't shirk physical activity.
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@Islandtulip (88)
• Jamaica
2 Feb 16
That's a good for of therapy seems logical when I think about but I do hope that I never have to go through another one though.
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@vandana7 (99036)
• India
2 Feb 16
@Islandtulip ..I think hurt is not essentially through heartache. There can be many pains. But music and physical hardwork...and not allowing ourselves enough time to dwell on issues is the key. At least, it was for me.
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@Islandtulip (88)
• Jamaica
2 Feb 16
@vandana7 That's true because I have dwelled on it so much it made it hurt even more, but when I went out with friends or found something to do I felt better.
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@alchemistrx (2547)
• Philippines
3 Feb 16
Cry and eat some more. Watch movies and sleep.
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@teresaschultz (50)
• East London, South Africa
27 Feb 16
I've handled breakups in all sorts of different ways, but one of my worst ways to handle breakups is by sleeping less and eating less - which really isn't going to do me or anyone else any good - and yet I've done that anyway - and I think subconsciously - or even consciously - I've done it to "punish" myself, because I end up thinking "Why did he leave? There must be something wrong with me. I must have done something wrong. I must punish myself for doing whatever it was that made him leave, when I wanted him to stay with me forever." - and it's the same with "holding on" or dwelling on memories or listening to sad songs - making oneself sad is a form of self-punishment too.
@LeaPea2417 (36552)
• Toccoa, Georgia
24 Feb 16
Luckily, I have never been divorced. When I was dating back in college, I broke up with a guy I was dating and it hurt him more than it hurt me.
