Too much suffering can make you a sadist / myLot

India

March 6, 2016 11:22pm CST

I believe so...and I do hope some good psychiatrist / psychologist will confirm this for me. I was reading a comment and I was shocked that somebody had put up with certain treatment in a relationship even with strong laws on her side. I agree sadists know how to play about with your emotions. They know how to confuse you. One moment they are demons, and the next moment they are the best souls in the world making you think the worst is over. But put up with this roller coaster life for too long, the learning route changes. Higher education would be in suffering more with each new and more horrendous stuff making the previous ill-treatment seem inconsequential. Once suffering becomes inseparable part of life, watching others suffer becomes easier. Even contributing to that suffering does not seem wrong. A sadist is created. Note he or she is created not born. There are genetic sadists as well. Say no to suffering. It is easy actually. Side step. Tell yourself that is not for me. That person suffered so he or she is puking. I need to step back. Love yourself some. Give yourself a license to be happy. God wanted us to be that way. Here is wishing that all of you have happy friends.

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Reine25

@Lucky15 (37346)

• Philippines

7 Mar 16

Love yourself...not all has the capability to do that :(

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vanny

@vandana7 (99107)

• India

7 Mar 16

People forget that is first law.

crazyhorseladycx

@crazyhorseladycx (39515)

• United States

7 Mar 16

if only such was that simple. i counseled women't a local shelter 'n this kind'f treatment usually comes slowly 'n it takes lots more'n courage to simply walk away. sometimes it takes months, sometimes years 'n sometimes they ne'er get the chance to leave. but i do agree, that one needs to love 'emselves. true happiness comes from within.

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vanny

@vandana7 (99107)

• India

7 Mar 16

There should be law of chances in relation to a period. If the person has to give more than two chances within the first year of the relationship, it needs to be accepted that it is not working. People ignore because they don't want to admit they were wrong in their selection. Even when they get their chances they don't take them.

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vanny

@vandana7 (99107)

• India

7 Mar 16

@crazyhorseladycx ...Yeah...I agree...it may surface after a couple of years..

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crazyhorseladycx

@crazyhorseladycx (39515)

• United States

7 Mar 16

@vandana7 i'm not disagreein' with ya, hon. but, many times this sorta behavior aint immediate. sometimes it takes the instigator a few years 'fore such abuse begins. what i've found here in the u.s. is that many don't take the time to get to know one 'nother long 'fore they either move in together'r get married. they jest jump into relationships without really knowin' the other person't all.

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Peter B. Giblett

@pgiblett (6524)

• Canada

14 Mar 16

I was working with a psychiatrist, editing some of his work, and he was telling me about how some people feel attracted to the type of people that will actually abuse them and they share a powerful emotional bond with their abuser.

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vanny

@vandana7 (99107)

• India

18 Jan 18

I think it comes from the way they define "power" in their minds. In their childhood, they possibly saw their father beating their mother, and the mother making light of it. A bit of a contempt or disrespect for the mother automatically enhances the respect towards father. So whatever father does becomes right, because this person can be taken for granted. Later in life, the person slots people similar to abusive father as people with whom to bond with. When beaten the story repeats. They don't want to tell others, and let the saga continue. A bit of ego too may be in it, because they don't want to admit they selected the wrong person.