Independence up to what extent...

@nita04 (268)
Philippines
March 10, 2016 9:50pm CST
I have raised my two grandsons ages 5 and 7. We sleep together in one room for all those years. Now my daughter wanted them to be in a separate room and will be sleeping alone without me because she said that they should learn to be independent. But for me, it should be done gradually because it is not easy to change right away. We have feelings too, and the companionship that we built. I don't know if I am right on this, I don't want to create conflicting feeling with my daughter.
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joy
@MGjhaud (23228)
• Philippines
11 Mar 16
i started sleeping on my own around that age and been alone in my room ever since. if your grandchildren can do it, then by all means. its a good start for them towards independence.
joy
@MGjhaud (23228)
• Philippines
11 Mar 16
@nita04 maybe you can start training them so it wont be that big of change to all 3 of you..
nita04
@nita04 (268)
• Philippines
12 Mar 16
@MGjhaud Yes, I am starting but it is so funny when you can see and feel their reaction.
nita04
@nita04 (268)
• Philippines
11 Mar 16
Thank you, Joy, but for me they are still very young to be left alone in one room.
LK2018
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
11 Mar 16
let them separate. one day they will miss your company, they are growing up after all.
nita04
@nita04 (268)
• Philippines
11 Mar 16
I already have tried it but they slip into my room at the strike of dawn.
Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (42727)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 16
I don't know as at our place too we don't let kids sleep alone. I think they are small and you should do that once they grow up a bit.
nita04
@nita04 (268)
• Philippines
11 Mar 16
Yes sjvg1976, that is what I feel too.
PaintsOnSlate
@PainsOnSlate (21845)
• Canada
13 Mar 16
I am a firm believer in separate rooms, if for no other reason than independence. I love that you said they are ok when mom is home but when she's not they will sleep with you... When they are very young they need support but as they age they need independence.
Reine25
@Lucky15 (37391)
• Philippines
11 Mar 16
ahmm, let them sleep on separate rooms ma'am. and check if your two grandsons are ok with the arrangement :)
nita04
@nita04 (268)
• Philippines
11 Mar 16
Hahaha.. Reine25, they just say Yes if their mother is around but if she is out they would secretly ask me if I could stay in the room with them.
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