How do you control your temper?

Hi mammots! The tongue is like a knife. It can hurt easily and once it already hurt someone, the pain does not mend quickly. I have read from a book that if you are angry, you can write a letter to that person that makes you mad. Put all your anger in the letter and once you are finished with it, burn it.

@annierose Thats a good idea. I have not tried writing a letter yet to get rid of my anger.

@mammots I remember when I was in high school, I got so angry with my friend. I wrote her a letter and gave it to her. I wish I did not do. We are in good terms now but I regret saying all bad things to her just because of my anger.

Hi ida! Yes, that is a good thing to do although might not be easy especially if the person cannot interact in a calm way or is not yet ready for real peace offering.

I remember my mom in your post. She cannot keep her anger on to her own self. Once, she did that and what happened was she got paralyzed. The doctor advised her that if she gets angry to someone she has to tell it or else she might even have a problem with her heart. However, I do not like her when she gets angry. I hope she can find other ways to release her anger and do not tell it directly to that person.

Sometime they are avoidable and sometimes are not. It is not all the time we can avoid those persons or circumstances that we hate.

@LdeL0318 Sometimes when I feel stress on some people around me I try to read a book. There are times also that when I found myself keeping on thinking about them, I scold myself. Why would I spend time on those people that only makes me feel bad? Then as if a wake up call, I will think of other things worth of my time.

@annierose well that's true. But as much as possible I try to refrain from them. I don't want to stress myself.

That is a good idea too. Releasing your anger through exercise is healthy and relaxes your mind afterwards.

Yes, it will definitely help so. But still the feeling might be heavy because you know you are not at peace with some people

@gofsey Wow! It is great to know you love to write and I also love it. I will write whenever I find a time to do so.

@annierose I think of all the good things and friends that I have. Many of my friends are writers I met on other sites.

It is really difficult if that is a family member of yours. I hate hearing wild or loud voices because one person from the family hate another. Sometimes it can be husband to wife, or siblings to siblings, or children to parents.

I also realize it is better to have few friends whom we can say true than to have a number but fake. In fact, I have more older friends than those of my age. I think older people are more mature and can help me more.