Again I am Sorry...

You don't ask for much do you?? If I could solve that particular conundrum I wouldn't be scratching out a living in the corporate world!!! I'm afraid time is pretty much the only thing that helps here. And maybe the realisation that you deserve someone to feel the same way about you as you feel about them. Can't help with that I'm afraid. That's a conclusion you have to reach all by yourself. You come across as very intelligent, articulate and funny (humorous funny not strange funny. Well maybe just a little strange!!). You obviously have had great taste in men at some point in your past (on the grounds you once dated someone who looked like me ) so there's no reason you shouldn't meet someone else who makes you feel the way this guy does but, more importantly, who you know feels the same way about you. And on that subject, don't mope around thinking about this bloke. Get yourself out and about and meet people. If nothing else it's got to be more fun than sitting in your pj's eating ice cream straight from the tub and going through Kleenex like they're going out of fashion!! You can see why I don't do an advice column!!!!

You don’t mention whether you have children, but suppose, for the sake of argument, you have a daughter. She’s the apple of your eye. She’s smart and she’s creative—maybe a little impulsive, but as her mom, you want only the best things for her. Next time your dearly beloved treats you poorly, ask yourself if you could stand to watch your putative daughter being treated like that. If not, why are you taking it? What are the rewards this guy offers you in exchange for being hurt? If you know they’re not worth it, it’s time to end the relationship. There are worse things than being alone. Life is too short to waste energy on the drama of a bad relationship. I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know.

I would say try getting rid of the number and stuff again.Then come here instead of to Pinterest. Or someplace like Thriftyfun or Craftsy. Do not go looking for him. Come talk to us instead.

What exactly makes you loving him so much ? Is it the way he talks ? Is it the way he does things ? Is it his face and stare ? Maybe when you see him, you get some nice thoughts that come up. Maybe he doesn't look at your direction and it drives you crazy because many other guys worship you and you don't look at them...? Maybe you can figure out what's behind that magic and the magic will be gone. The part in the brain that uses the emotions is not the rational part. I saw a tv series about a psychologist and his wife loved him for being so understanding, he understood her feelings, but, when she understood it was all a technique and a set of rules and knowledge, the love went away. Think about it, you need a true reason to love that guy.

Sometimes we don't see how harmful someone can be for us until it's too late. Time will help us along when we seem to have difficulties getting over someone. In time someone will come along that's better suited.

That's a hard one, I'd say get you a team of good friends to spend time with you, and when you feel yourself slipping back to him, call them so they can get together with you, till that moment passes. You deserve someone that loves you the way you love them, don't settle for less. Good luck!

First, look in the mirror and say I am worth more than this and believe it! Once you realize you are important and deserve to be treated as such it will help. Next, keep busy and go out. I think if you find a new place to put your affection and feelings it will help a LOT. And last-write a list of pro's and cons about having feelings for him-if the cons outweigh the pro's you will see more clearly that he is no good for you. I hope all of this helps and I will keep you in my prayers. Oh! And don't be sorry for sharing your feelings and wanting advice-that is what friends are for!!

I think its just time to move on. Lesson learned

I think you need to ask yourself why you would want to be with a man who might be harmful to you. That doesn't sound healthy to me at all, and yet you're looking to us to help you forget him. Perhaps you don't think highly enough of yourself to protect yourself from harm? Only you can figure this one out, I'm afraid. I hope you make the right decision and don't end up regretting the choice you make.

In my opinion, if you want true love then leave your love free and if he/she comes back then it is a true love.