Cannot Say No / myLot

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Philippines

April 26, 2016 6:10am CST

Is there anyone you cannot say no to when they ask for help? When the dentist passed by while I was standing out front the other night, I took the opportunity to finally make an appointment with her. Our agreement was today, 4pm. However, the next morning, a friend texted me that she was short of funds, so I sent her the money instead and cancelled my dental appointment. To be honest, I've been wanting to see the dentist for several months now, not just for fillings, but also to ask about temporomandibular joint disorder. But it's hard not to help my friend because I know her financial challenges are much, much harder than mine. I also give her other stuff her family can use when we meet.

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Jabo

@jaboUK (64346)

• United Kingdom

26 Apr 16

You are obviously very kind, but make sure your friends don't come to regard you as a bank from where they can withdraw money whenever they want to.

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

don't worry. i know her situation.

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theSids

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

26 Apr 16

You are too kind a friend. I know my limitations today. And as such, there are times when I do have to say no.

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

28 Apr 16

yes, i've done the same

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weird_oh_me

@LdeL0318 (6400)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

It was a hard decision. Nowadays, no one can be trusted in terms of money, but you know your friend well than us here, and I guess you won't be lending him/her if you know it isn't necessary to do so.

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weird_oh_me

@LdeL0318 (6400)

• Philippines

28 Apr 16

@hereandthere just be sure you made the roght decision.

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

28 Apr 16

exactly!

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Jaz

@Yh1001 (565)

• Singapore

26 Apr 16

Though your intentions are kind, I think sometimes you have to think for yourself too:)

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

it's okay. i give the amount i can afford and i will resched with the dentist in the coming days.

Jaz

@Yh1001 (565)

• Singapore

26 Apr 16

@hereandthere your kindness is commendable:)

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Hazel Vee

@epiffanie (11327)

• Australia

27 Apr 16

There is one thing I learned in my 60 years on this earth, that I only give if I have extra... If I was in your case, I would not have given to anyone or lent the money I need to fix my dental issues.. We have to make sure that we take care of ourselves first before we take care of others.. And as human beings, when we have "extra" we must pass it on .. .

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

27 Apr 16

i give what i can afford. i will make sure to see the dentist in the coming days

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Hazel Vee

@epiffanie (11327)

• Australia

27 Apr 16

@hereandthere Yes make sure that you do that..

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Pinay Ako

@AkoPinay (11496)

• Philippines

11 May 16

I am like that too. I find it difficult to say no that's why I end up poorer than rat. When I see someone needs help I give even they don't ask.

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

11 May 16

just like my savings account. it creeps up for several months, then boom, unexpected expense. i think being kind-hearted and helpful is our people's strength and weakness

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joy

@MGjhaud (23228)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

thats so nice of you. in your case, i would do the same. i think my teeth and the dentist can wait.

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

hopefully, i can later this week or early next week.

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Toni

@toniganzon (77119)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

That's so kind of you. The only person I can't refuse are my family members. But fortunately none of them are in need of money. They just usually ask me to do errands for them or borrow my car. Actually they don't borrow my car, they just let me know when they use it and take the key without waiting for my answer. but they sure know how to wait till it's available

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

28 Apr 16

yes, family definitely. when i'm asked to do errands, i'm surprised when they give me money.

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Marlina

@marlina (154103)

• Canada

26 Apr 16

You have to be careful about giving money to your friends.

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

it's okay. i know her situation.

Kimberley

@mom210 (9170)

• United States

6 May 16

I cannot say no to my kids when it is something that is possible and does not harm them

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

7 May 16

that's how it should be, though some kids can be so persistent.

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JB_girl

@sol_cee (38669)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

Such a nice friend you are.

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

it depends on who is asking

Macarrosel

@Macarrosel (7498)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

You're so kind and generous. I did that too but sometimes only

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

oh, i assure you it's sometimes for me, too!

Reine25

@Lucky15 (37391)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

That was quite hard.to decide. You have been selfless but...

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

26 Apr 16

i give what i can. i'll try to reschedule it this weekend or next week.

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@acelawrites

@acelawrites (19272)

• Philippines

4 May 16

You are so nice to be of help to your needy friend. As long as she returns it promptly, there is no issue lending her the money, but you should also prioritize your needs.

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ShannyBananny

@shaggin (74988)

• United States

27 Apr 16

That is so sweet of you to send her money. What a caring friend you are. I hope that it will be repaid though when she gets the funds. Too many times people take advantage of others so I will not loan money. I hope that you are able to see the dentist soon. I am sorry to hear that you are having issues. You are a great friend!

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Patsie Hatley is Deceased

@Hatley (163772)

• Garden Grove, California

2 May 16

ou are almo st too good as y o u need that appt too but good that you help others of course hugs

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rebel_woman06

@SIMPLYD (90717)

• Philippines

27 Apr 16

Of course , when a friend is in dire need , we do our best to be able to help even if it means sacrificing something just to be able to lend a hand . You are so kind , my friend . Pahiram ng 100 pesos (please lend me $2.17)

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238284)

• Walnut Creek, California

27 Apr 16

I have a hard time saying no when friends are moving and need help. I wouldn't loan a friend money I needed, though.

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Claudia Kirkland

@CRK109 (14556)

• United States

27 Apr 16

For me, it would depend on the situation. I can easily say no to things I just cannot do. But sometimes I need to help out because people have been so good to me.

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Anne Johnston

@AnneEJ (4917)

• Dollard-Des-Ormeaux, Quebec

27 Apr 16

That is great that you can help your friend. God blesses us when we bless others. But you need to see your dentist as well.

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