Relationship.. Break up?

Philippines
April 26, 2016 6:49am CST
When can we say that the relationship is not healthy anymore? Daily fights are normal but on what level can we quit? Trust and communication that are the two things my partner can't give me. For a year now, we'd been fighting for that two words. How important is that two words in a relationship? I wanted to call a quit, but I feel like I can't. Or I can't yet. I don't know.
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@LdeL0318 (6402)
• Philippines
26 Apr 16
Trust and fidelity. If these two were gone then it's time to end the relationship.
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• Philippines
2 May 16
True. But what if they keep on saying that they have but the feeling is different.
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@LdeL0318 (6402)
• Philippines
3 May 16
@zaga_cleuth You'll know when you're there.
@Sweetsona (300)
• India
4 May 16
Trust is the foundation of any relationship.. No relationship can say without trust.. And communicating with him is essential to keep the love alive.. If you are not getting the two things, fights are expected.. As you two are together only for the sake of being together, love is lost.. Try to rekindle the lost love or its time to move on..
• Philippines
5 May 16
True. I usually read stuffs like older people actually are not that inlove but it is the communication that keep them together. How lovely to see older couple being together for many years and still keeping the fire burning.
• Philippines
5 May 16
@Sweetsona Everytime I see older couple walking and still holding each others hand. I find it really amazing. I do believe they suffer lots of heartache too in their relationship.
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• India
5 May 16
@zaga_cleuth true, they believe in adjusting and mending things, rather than throwing it all away because of certain flaws.. They are patient and understand that noone is perfect.. Bt their approach was perfect when it came to life and relationships.. Older couples r such an inspiration
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
5 May 16
I believe that inside of you is a strong woman that can decide what is good for herself. My boyfriend and I once broke up and it hurts everyday because I am not used in not talking to him even for one day. That time I was very confused with what was happening, why all of a sudden we needed to break up. Then my mom told me that if my boyfriend and I are really meant to be, then time will come my he nd I will be together again. If you feel like there is no more way for your relationship to move forward, if you feel unhappy, if you always end up crying everyday, then perhaps it is better to call it quits. Breaking up with him will not be the end of the world. There will be more opportunities that will open doors for you and maybe by breaking up with him,you might meet along the way a man who really deserves your love.
@jaboUK (64363)
• United Kingdom
26 Apr 16
Be brave and call it quits. If you have been having problems for that long you need to move on.
• Philippines
2 May 16
Actually yes. Like most of the time. Everytime I say I quit, the more reason I keep on looking for something good about my partner.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
26 Apr 16
In my experience, once you've had enough of this guy and this relationship. you'll be able to walk no problem.
• Philippines
2 May 16
Isn't that unfair? or Am I unfair for myself if I'll not stop?
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• Philippines
4 May 16
@Drosophila Just because I love him? Is that enough? Cuz sometimes i feel that i'm stupid.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
2 May 16
@zaga_cleuth I think you know the answer to this question. I also think you know why you're still with him.
@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 Apr 16
I think you are in the adjustment period, try to be patient or if you can't do it anymore, then you may try seek an adviser or marriage council.
• Philippines
2 May 16
we're not yet married. Actually we're in our first year of relationship.
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• Philippines
4 May 16
@ida123 when can I say that the relationship is not normal? and arguments and fights are not healthy anymore?
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
2 May 16
@zaga_cleuth So you're in the period of getting to know each other and I think that is natural situation. Try to understand and if things won't get into normal, then you call it's quit.