I was worried of him
By ida123
@ida123 (6206)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
April 28, 2016 5:20am CST
I was worried of my son because her ex girlfriend is always asking him so much about the support of his son. This afternoon, when I was in my parents house, I received a message from the ex gf saying that the agreement she's been demanding thru her lawyer is done and she told me that we don't have to blame her if our son can't go abroad because of this case, criminal or civil one, she also told us that our son might be imprisoned. I called her up but she doesn't want to talk to me or denied my calls, just want to ask her, how much she wanted.
We're going to see our lawyer tomorrow morning for legal advise about this.
Is anyone of you friends out there, knows about this law of violence against women and child act. Please help me or tell me about this so that I will be at ease .
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9 responses
@toniganzon (77183)
• Philippines
28 Apr 16
They were never married right? Did your son sign the birth certificate acknowledging that child as his? Was the mother at the legal age when she got pregnant? Under our law an acknowledged child deserves support from the biological father depending on his income and not only on how much the mother demands. I graduated in law school.
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@toniganzon (77183)
• Philippines
28 Apr 16
@ida123 How old is your grandson? Because your grandson's expense should also be taken into consideration. Like his basic necessities including milk, vitamins, clothing, etc. For example, if his monthly basic necessities amount to P5,000, it is within your son's salary. Thus, he must give such amount.
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
28 Apr 16
@toniganzon
He is only 20 months old. But how about the personal needs of my son like his insulin. It costs him 950 per week.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
28 Apr 16
While it's your son's obligation to provide paternal support for his son, the mother is employing blackmail tactics. It's best that they meet, accompanied by their lawyers, to settle things maturely and legally.
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
28 Apr 16
@sunrisefan
Yes, I will consider her advise.
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
28 Apr 16
My son gives her 3k per month because he only received 9k for his whole month salary and the rest will be for my son's insulin and other oral meds for his diabetes. She wants to see my son in person but my son don't like the idea because she knows her, she even told him that she misses my son so much and wanted to sleep with him. I think this girl is a maniac.
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@louievill (28846)
• Philippines
28 Apr 16
Try diplomacy first and settling among yourselves, then try settling in your barangay to see if you can reach an agreement and to make it legal. A court case or getting a lawyer should be the last resort cause it could be expensive and would all tie up your time and resources
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@louievill (28846)
• Philippines
28 Apr 16
@ida123 There are some facts or circumstances missing or I do not know, did she say something threatening? Did serious things happen in your city or hers? You can talk to your Chairman to summon her or you can go to their barangay to arrange a meeting, see to it that you make it clear it's to settle things and not a threat, there is a " lupon" or barangay justice that will settle your difference, now if it does not work there then next step would be to settle it in court.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
29 Apr 16
why? did your son hurt or became violent to his own child?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
29 Apr 16
@ida123 did they marry each other? is your son the acknowledged father of the child. why does the woman want 50% of the salary? how much is your son's salary and why is she wanting P4,500 or P5k if your son receives less than those amounts?
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
30 Apr 16
So, this was the problem that I missed. She should be fair, I mean he's not totally healthy compare to her.
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
30 Apr 16
That is true. She's not thinking that my son is insulin dependent and taking meds for his diabetes, she must think of that first but she's not, she's so vain and ungrateful. I know, the support won't go to my grandson, she'll be the one whose using it but I don't care, as long as, we give the support.
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
29 Apr 16
Just always act in good faith. Talk with the girl and ask her how much she really wanted, but of course you can ask your lawyer about how much a child support should be. But if she continuously refuses to talk with you to settle the matter, it's not your problem anymore! It seems she is just blackmailing your son.
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