What is the best marriage advice can you give a person?

By DJ
@Daljinder (23233)
Bangalore, India
May 19, 2016 10:37pm CST
Till death do us apart.... What do you think is the best way to have a happy and successful marriage? How do you get through tough times? Like fights? Are there ego clashes too? How to overcome that? (Photo by Pixabay)
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@Tampa_girl7 (48958)
• United States
20 May 16
I have been married for 27 years in July. The best advice I ever got was never go to bed angry.
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@jstory07 (134464)
• Roseburg, Oregon
20 May 16
That was the advise I got to and I never did.
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@yanzalong (18984)
• Indonesia
20 May 16
If we go to bed angry that means our backs are facing to each other, right?
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@Tampa_girl7 (48958)
• United States
20 May 16
@yanzalong that would be one indication.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
20 May 16
The French have a saying - 'In every relationship there is one who loves and one who lets themselves be loved'. I've always made sure that I'm the latter, by just keeping back a tiny 1% of myself. I actually love him 100%, but he doesn't necessarily need to know that, not all the time anyway. That way, I'm not taken for granted. Laughter is very important in a marriage - have fun together. And of course you should both be prepared to compromise. This has worked for us - we've been married for 51 years.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
23 May 16
@Daljinder As you say, every marriage is different, but consideration for the other partner is very important. I hope that you have a successful marriage one day
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
23 May 16
@jaboUK Thank you! Will remember that.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
23 May 16
@jaboUK Thank you for the wonderful advise. I am filing everything all you people are saying. I know every situation and every marriage is different. who knows which of your advise might come in handy. lol so, thanks again! I am sure if I ever found myself stuck, I will come here for advise and to vent.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
20 May 16
Three very simple rules from me ..... 1. Wife is always right 2. Wife is never wrong 3. Never argue with wife... Accept it that you cannot win. And those who disagree with me on the above... I underatand you and sympathize with you...
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 May 16
@Daljinder yes, i am at Hyderabad and we are missing you...
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
20 May 16
@thesids Smart guy! Correction: Trained and experienced guy. How are the things going? I hear you reached Hyderabad.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
21 May 16
@thesids I was missing both of your presence here yesterday. Honest! I was also wondering how things were going.
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@jstory07 (134464)
• Roseburg, Oregon
20 May 16
Love and respect each other always. Never go to bed angry.
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@jstory07 (134464)
• Roseburg, Oregon
23 May 16
@Daljinder We talk everything out. I am so lucky that I married a good man.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
20 May 16
@jstory07 Good advise! Do one of you concede the argument to avoid going to bed angry? Or do you sit and talk it out? What if the spouse is not open to talk?
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@CRK109 (14558)
• United States
20 May 16
It's been my experience that a husband has to work hard to make his wife happy. A wife has to work hard to make her husband happy. They need to communicate often and realistically. They have to really like one another even more than they love one another and the love will grow stronger.
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@CRK109 (14558)
• United States
20 May 16
@Daljinder If you really like one another and care about one another, you're more likely to stick around when things get tough. At least that's what I've found in my life.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
20 May 16
@CRK109 That is really sound advise! Thanks! So, liking each other is more important than love. First like each other. Love will follow with time. Coolio!
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@Lucky15 (37346)
• Philippines
20 May 16
Ahmm. Well. I can not give anything
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@Lucky15 (37346)
• Philippines
20 May 16
@Daljinder ahh... keep your heart always guarded
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
20 May 16
@Lucky15 Then what kind of relationship that is? I thought hearts are involved in them more than brains.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
20 May 16
@Lucky15 What about good relationship advice?
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
20 May 16
Communication is the key to a good marriage I would say. Always talk to each other about any and everything.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
23 May 16
@Daljinder My husband and I discussed everything and we felt better for it when we did although it may not be for some couples.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
23 May 16
@Marcyaz For me personally, it would take me time to be that comfortable to share deep or private thoughts about certain situations. I also think that not every thought crossing our mind should be needed to be said to the spouse.
@vandana7 (98830)
• India
23 May 16
You do know my views, right? LOL.
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@vandana7 (98830)
• India
23 May 16
@Daljinder .. I am at the other side of the fence, and it requires guts to be at this end. A lot of hardships. I wish no one those though the end result is satisfactory.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
23 May 16
@vandana7 I know your views but still you wish me the best for getting married. LOL Mom and Dad are getting serious nowadays.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
23 May 16
@vandana7 I have the guts you know. If I ever find my true passion considering my profession, I would pursue it. I will make it into a success. At that point, I wouldn't care about what others think. Right now, I am indifferent. I wouldn't mind a husband and a baby. But I am not dying to get married either. If it happens good, doesn't happen good then too.
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@wiLLmaH (8801)
• Singapore, Singapore
20 May 16
Married for 5 years and never been have a major fight. :) Just learn to listen and always trust your partner.
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@wiLLmaH (8801)
• Singapore, Singapore
20 May 16
@Daljinder Correct. Be quite when someone is out of mood. haha.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
20 May 16
@wiLLmaH Meaning have lot of patience! =) No raising of voices also I should add.
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• United States
21 May 16
One good way is not to let other people put a wedge in between you, be it the in laws, or friends. Sometimes other people have a way of interfering and it will cause relationship issues.
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• United States
23 May 16
@Daljinder yep, it can cause a lot of trouble.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
23 May 16
@CookieMonster46 Ah! That I had thought on about a lot. At my end of the world, most families live together in the same house. It's very common. This is where too much interference come in. Yep! I agree That parental guidance is fine but sometimes it creates trouble when there was none.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
25 Jul 16
@Daljinder I guess never go to bed angry. If there is ever an argument or disagreement, sort it out as soon as possible. And I think more importantly, trust. Any type of relationship needs trust. If you find yourself stalking, snooping or going through your partners phone then the relationship is already over. Must have trust.
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• Perth, Australia
25 Jul 16
@Daljinder I think it was more my thoughts coming out. Trust you to pick up on that lol
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
25 Jul 16
@VivaLaDani13 Seems like my turn to ask "Are you alright, Dani?"
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
25 Jul 16
@VivalaDani13 Are you advising me or yourself? Anyways it was a good one. Trust I agree is very important. Thank you!
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@trivia79 (7828)
• El Segundo, California
21 May 16
don' get into a marriage if you are not ready overall. marriage is not a rice that if you put in your mouth and you got burned, you will throw it away immediately.
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@trivia79 (7828)
• El Segundo, California
23 May 16
@Daljinder well, if you're old enough, as in like in the 40s, i think you should have your own husband and baby. being pregnant at those age is difficult
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
23 May 16
@trivia79 40's Dude I am only 28. I think even in 30's having a child is not safe for both mother and child.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
23 May 16
@trivia79 That was a nice example! Nope I won't be getting married if I am not ready. That will be disaster waiting to happen.
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@avi256 (8489)
• Pune, India
20 May 16
The best advise would be not to give any advise at all, because advise on one couple may backfire on other. I would just say goodluck.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
20 May 16
@avi256 Thanks for good luck! lol Will come in handy in the future. Are you married?
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
23 May 16
@avi256 So I guess Congratulations are in order. Congrats and heartiest wishes for your happy and healthy married life!
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@avi256 (8489)
• Pune, India
20 May 16
@Daljinder Yep, few months back.
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20 May 16
just "love each other everyday" :)
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
20 May 16
@easylemonjohn Sometime love is not enough!
@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
24 May 16
@easylemonjohn lol No! Just an observation I made.
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24 May 16
@Daljinder haha is it base on experience? XD
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@yanzalong (18984)
• Indonesia
20 May 16
It is often said that fights or disagreement between husband and wife are parts of a marriage life. It all depends on how you can manage it in order that your marriage life will not experience terrible one.Don't follow your emotion. Anger is the one that is responsible for a fight. If we can control anger no fight will occur.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
20 May 16
@yanzalong That applies to both husband and wife together right? Or else one would turn into a doormat and other a bully.
@shubhu3 (36464)
• New Delhi, India
20 May 16
I would say accept, trust and love your partner unconditionally.If you have these,you will cross any speed breaker very easily. :)
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
20 May 16
@shubhu3 It's not that easy. How about family butting in? It won't be that easy then.
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@shubhu3 (36464)
• New Delhi, India
20 May 16
@Daljinder Well if you above three things you can handle everything that comes your way even if it's the family also.
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@Gamic01 (88)
• Laguna, Philippines
21 May 16
It's just a matter of acceptance and filling in of each other's flaws and weaknessess
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
23 May 16
@Gamic01 It would also mean that a person will have to overlook physical flaws and accept him / her as they are. But in many cases, people tend to get attracted towards outer beauty.
20 May 16
Good share. One advise I want to give is share all the informations to the partners. When the partners hide things, relations go in the wrong direction.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
20 May 16
@sathviksouvik You mean that there shouldn't be any secrets between husband and wife. Another person said we should hold back our hearts a little to avoid getting hurt. How does the two things work together?
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20 May 16
@Daljinder Thanks DJ for the comments. I meant husband should tell the wife what he likes, where he goes, his pass times, etc. Wife should do the same thing. If they really love each other, they will appreciate them.
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@zap_81 (1019)
20 May 16
There will always be ego clashes but to relate that to marriage alone would be wrong. If 2 people are staying together and spending a lot of time then there are bound to be difference of opinion. I guess in any relationship one person needs to be the mature one and handle the situation. You need to identify that among the two and the behave accordingly. There is also a saying which says surrender to your wife if you wnat to be happy. lol
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
20 May 16
@zap_81 I like the saying! One thing though, if one of the two surrenders being the mature one and is always the one to surrender, doesn't it inadvertently makes that person a doormat. I don't think that is healthy in a relationship.
@zap_81 (1019)
20 May 16
@Daljinder Sorry i forgot to mention the word smart together with being mature. I guess if you are smart you know how to play your cards and when to be mature and when not:)
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• Riverside, California
24 May 16
The best advice that I can think of is to know that you really love the person. If you do love the person, it's important to decide if you are truly in love. Personally, I don't think I've ever felt the need to get married. I'm not sure if that's because I haven't met the "right person," but I've been in a relationship for five years. I just can't seem to think of a reason to sign the papers and have a celebration. I'd say that if you're having ego clashes prior to marriage, it'd be a good idea to evaluate your relationship.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
25 Jul 16
@lexinnononous Thanks for the advise! And nope no ego clashes or whatever. Just out of curiosity question.