Diary – Bank Holiday Monday 30th May 2016
@arthurchappell (44941)
Preston, England
May 31, 2016 2:56pm CST
It didn’t feel like a national bank holiday as I’m out of work at present anyhow, and I spent the day just staying in, writing, reading and Mylotting. I took in some TV and had an early night in bed. That really is about all. For the first time ever I’m adding two days together in one diary entry.
Diary Tuesday 31st May 2016
The last day of May was the warmest day of the year so far, and I went out in it to see my Mum in hospital. It could be my last visit during the current wave of her illness as there is a strong chance she is coming home on Wednesday.
I think my mum’s health is too unstable for this as she still struggles to breath after the slightest exertion and my estranged sister is expected to have to move in with us to keep an eye on my mother as well as helping her upstairs, during lavatory visits, etc. While it would be delightful to have my Mum home again her weaknesses and the tensions from my sister are likely to create conflict. My sister keeps advising my mum to sell the long standing family home to move into a small flat which would be a very short term prospect and also a compromise on the family inheritance – my sister may be looking at how to reduce how much I would get, which could leave me literally homeless.
I took a long route home to be able to take in some pub sign images. One I got was this
Duke Of Wellington pub sign in Higher Blackeley, Manchester, which suggests it wasn’t painted during the actual battle portrayed as Wellington might have been otherwise occupied at that time.
Arthur Chappell
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
2 Jun 16
I hope your mother still has power over her finances and sees how wrong it would be to make that kind of move at this time. Not only would it be hard, but it could cost her life if she is as frail as you say, and I don't doubt you whatsoever. So your sister's suggestions seem to extend to shortening your mother's life instead of enhancing it.
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@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
2 Jun 16
@just4him it's a callous bluff as my sister mainly wants me out rather than my Mum - to sell the house from under me would put me on the streets - it's a nsty game to play with my mum as badly off as she is
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@akalinus (44366)
• United States
29 Aug 16
@arthurchappell Is there any way to heal the rift between you and your sister?
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
2 Jun 16
@arthurchappell Yes it is. I hope it doesn't come to that.

@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
12 Jun 16
@JudyEv me too - my sister is very devious so it makes me worried when they are alone
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@akalinus (44366)
• United States
29 Aug 16
@arthurchappell Your sister does not sound very nice. That is a hard situation.
@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
1 Jun 16
it sounds like your sister is going what she is going to do, no matter how it affects you, I hope you find a small place somewhere!
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
31 May 16
i do hope they aint sendin' yer mum home too early, hon. but, since there seems to be no "services" 'n the bottom floor'f her home, perhaps t'would be wisest ('n much safer fer her) to find a flat. she'd not "lose" near's much'f her independence that way. i'd not be worried 'bout inheritance. 'course all i inherited from my dad's massive estate 'twas a belt buckle'n a ball cap, so what do i know?
most interestin', those pub signs.
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@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
2 Jun 16
@crazyhorseladycx natural loss of inheritance wouldn't worry me - it's my sister engineering things her way that is distressing
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@Dragonairy1 (1722)
• Newcastle Upon Tyne, England
31 May 16
It's been freezing here today, we've even had the heating on, I hope your sister doesn't get her way.
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@Poppylicious (11134)
• United Kingdom
31 May 16
It's a difficult situation. We should never expect to inherit anything from our parents and sometimes just the mention of it creates terrible tension. In this scenario I think your mum has to make her own decision based on what's best for her, and ideally the two of you will respect her wishes. The thing is, if she can't be cared for appropriately at home and has to go into sheltered accommodation, her house - sounds like she owns it? - would need to be sold to pay for the costs anyway, wouldn't it? Maybe she needs to discuss this with someone neutral, someone who won't be either benefitting or losing out. Her happiness is more important than her children squabbling, yes? {Sorry, hope that doesn't sound harsh.}
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@JohnRoberts (109841)
• Los Angeles, California
31 May 16
Nice colorful graphics on the sign but Duke if Wellington is an unoriginal name.
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