Boundaries for My Emotional Safety

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You always hear mental health professionals talk about having good boundaries with their clients. Well, after the problems of the past week and a half, I've decided I am putting up some boundaries with my case manager for my emotional safety! This is after she said some pretty out of line things to me (which she did apologize for and I accepted her apology for) and then didn't keep her word about speaking with me Friday to schedule our in-person meeting for this Tuesday. I'd already made it pretty clear to her when she first started working with me that if she says she's going to do something (call, etc) she needs to keep her word with me. So, that was a major let down. I'm not going to be sharing any more of my past with her. I don't think she can handle it really...I don't think many people can handle it when they find out what I grew up living through. It always seems like as soon as I share that stuff with people, they say hurtful things (like what she did on the phone to me shortly after) or get flaky. So no more sharing that stuff. I've already made it clear she's not allowed to speak to me like she did that one day. I didn't take it as far as many people here suggested – which was to go to her supervisor – but if we have another problem I will have no choice but to do that. I'm not telling her that but am keeping it in the back of my head. I am telling her though, that she doesn't have very many chances left to hurt my trust. She was also going to get a chance to meet my therapist in July, that is now not going to happen. I'm not giving up a much needed therapy session where I could be working on things (and that I pay $75 for) to sit around and chit chat. It also doesn't feel safe to do anymore. I need to keep therapy 'mine' and not have her involved now that I don't feel she's a 100% safe influence for me. It's sad that I'm having to enact these boundaries around a mental health professional but I feel like she just doesn't have the experience to handle everything appropriately.