Ex Asking For Money: Is It Fine?
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (141905)
Philippines
June 25, 2016 11:30am CST
I am not sure if you had experienced this. I had shared my heartaches about breaking up with my former partner a few months back. After the breakup, she still sending text messages and I never dared to reply back. It is a part of moving on and I forget the past. Recently, she is asking a favor and it appeared to be insulting. She was asking for money assistance and I think it is not right. I kept on brushing off the idea in the lending certain amount of money. It is also awkward for her to ask this kind of favor. After the betrayal, she had done to me and requesting to forget all the things happened.
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i pity her though.
@youless (114117)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Jun 16
No wonder you don't want to lend her money, perhaps this is because she betrayed you in the past. If I broke up due to this reason, I would also ignore this help. As it is different from other reasons to break up. It shows the character is not right and I can't expect her to return the money. At least I would have such kind of worry.
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@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
30 Jun 16
@youless You are right. I need also to keep my decency and pride. I don't want to feel pity of myself for being so kind enough to her. The unacceptable can be forgotten but it cannot be forgiven easily. As you have said, she will not pay it back for sure.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
25 Jun 16
This is a bit of a cheek isnt it? Asking for money after you had split up, I mean it is not as if you were married to her and also no, I would not do it..
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@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
25 Jun 16
@TiarasOceanView Hi, my dear friend! I do agree on this. It is so unfair to ask money in times of difficulty. A very convenient way for her to ask, I felt so sad for this kind of act.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
25 Jun 16
@Shavkat Yes, it seems she feels she can do this without conscience after the way she acted..what a nerve.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
11 Sep 17
If she loved you she would not ask for money like that.
She might well hint that she is not doiing well.
Betrayal is something that hurts for a long time but you do get over it.
Personally I would not give her any at all but that is something very private between the two of you.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
15 Sep 17
@Shavkat
LIke I said.
If it was me personally I would not give her any except if she were really in a very bad situation and then I would give her something like food to see her through.
Again its between the two of you whatever happens. Good luck though.
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@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
16 Sep 17
@lovinangelsinstead21 It has been a long time that she didn't catch my attention. I wish her all the luck
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@XinfulThotz (4136)
• Singapore, Singapore
17 Sep 16
i don't think it is right... if it were me, i won't give a single cent.
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@rubyriaz007 (4187)
• India
27 Sep 17
As she betrayed you ,she has no right to ask you for favor. Just block her number.
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@chunchunwadaddy (284)
• Nairobi, Kenya
27 Sep 17
They say only lend money that you are willing to forget but in this case nope. It could be a long around strategy to get back into your life since you may want to be refunded that money thus have to communicate.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
17 Sep 16
if you don't have children together, then you're not obligated to help her financially.
