Do You Have a Will?
By Alice Henry
@IreneVincent (15960)
United States
July 12, 2016 12:30pm CST
Recently, I heard something that happened to an acquaintance of mine, who died a few months ago, and who had a will, stating her wishes concerning her burial. Her family was able to override her requests. She was a Christian but her family members were of another faith, so none of her Christian friends were welcome at the funeral.
So, I did some research and here’s some of what I found.
If you die in Massachusetts, Idaho or West Virginia, you MUST have made a prepaid arrangement with a funeral director to assure that your burial preferences are followed, even if you have a will. Otherwise, your next of kin can override your will. YES!
In Missouri, your next of kin can control your burial procedures, but before a person dies, the state does allow a person to select ANYONE to act as the next of kin.
In Arkansas, you can be assured that you will be cremated ONLY if you have signed a form and had it witnessed by two people. Otherwise, your next of kin can contest your decision.
In Michigan, your next of kin can override your will.
Considering these examples, the Funeral Consumers Alliance suggests that you check YOUR state’s laws and put your requests in a notarized statement.
I have no idea what the laws are in other countries. I’d like to hear from those on myLot who live in other countries.
What do you think?
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@JudyEv (382104)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Jul 16
This is a bit of a concern. I'm not exactly sure what the laws are here. I know we're all encouraged to have a 'living will' which states whether or not we want to be resuscitated in case of emergency. We also have a 'power of attorney' whereby we can name someone to make decisions on our behalf if we become incapable of making such decisions.
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@IreneVincent (15960)
• United States
13 Jul 16
It's certainly something to look into, I guess. I also have a "living will" and a 'power of attorney" in place. I think that I will do some more research into the state laws here in Virginia. Although, what happens after I die, doesn't really affect me. I just wouldn't want there to any controversy among my family as to what my wishes are, and I know that they all know what I want done. My children, that is.
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@JudyEv (382104)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Jul 16
@IreneVincent Mine do too and our wills are in order. Now if I could just declutter a bit more....
@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
12 Jul 16
We both have a will. We do not want our children burdened with decisions at a time when they will be upset. I don't know what the laws are here in Florida about property and such but we went ahead and made our wishes legally known.
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@IreneVincent (15960)
• United States
12 Jul 16
Good for you! It's always best to know what the laws are also, in whatever state you are living in. However, with the way that people travel, they could possibly DIE in another state. That could present a challenge, I guess.
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@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
12 Jul 16
@IreneVincent it does make you wonder if you would go by the laws of that state or the state in which you reside.




