I may be opening Pandora's box - but what the heck!
@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
United States
July 16, 2016 12:37pm CST
One of the girls I'm friends with on Facebook has a 7 month old boy...he is an adorable baby, and I don't say that very often. The mom posted on Facebook saying something like, "Can't wait to climb into bed with that little baby of mine."
I don't think she is climbing into his crib LOL - so that really means he sleeps in bed with his parents. After reading some of her previous posts, yes, the baby sleeps with mom and dad.
We have a dog that sleeps on the floor or in her own bed - not in ours. Our bed is for us, just the two of us. I don't think babies need to sleep in adult beds. Once you start that habit how do you get them to sleep in a crib without a fight?
Call me old fashioned, I've been called lots worse, but I feel that babies should sleep in their own beds.
What are your thought on this? I may be sorry I asked, but what the heck I can take it!
Photo: pixabay.com/en/crib-baby-bed-baby-cot-cot-bed-446361/
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Jul 16
you will get some guff but I bet a lot of us agree. I actually think its dangerous having a small infant sleeping with two larger humans. I wonder how many crib deaths are actually big bed deaths, I never took my babies into my bed as they had their own cribs.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Jul 16
@AbbyGreenhill that's right so put your baby in its crib please
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
Everyone needs their own space, including babies.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
People criticize those of us who never had kids, I'm used to it. but I think common sense goes out the window at times.
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@boiboing (13147)
• Northampton, England
16 Jul 16
@AbbyGreenhill I've never had kids but that doesn't mean I can't have opinions. But I've learned to keep them to myself - and my other friends without kids.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
@boiboing I've never believed in keeping my opinions to myself which is why sometimes my foot is stuck in my mouth.
@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
Same here. heck at my age I worry about my husband's arm coming down too hard and hitting me in the head!
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
@Asylum Of course, if he did it intentionally he would be sleeping at the local motel and not in this house!
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Jul 16
I don't believe in babies sleeping in beds with their parents either-at all. It is so difficult to get them in their own beds and it's not safe either.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
Well said by an experienced mom!
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Jul 16
I agree, and none of my friends had their kids sleep with them.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
16 Jul 16
All of us kids slept in the same bed with our parents as babies. In India, there is no concept of nursery for babies and stuff. Nowadays the influence of western culture has brought in many new things but at the end of the day it is still the same. Babies are always to stay with mothers and fathers. The beds are large enough to give necessary space needed and to prevent accidental rolling over. If the fear of rolling over is still there, one of the parents can sleep somewhere else. But mothers aren't going anywhere.
If I were ever have my own child, I will be too anxious to sleep with my baby out of sight for the night and alone in his/ her own room. It just wouldn't do. Although I understand the benefit of parents and babies having their own space and preventing the bad habits from forming.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
Your country has different ideas so it's only normal you would want to do as others do in your country. Most of my my age grew up in our own room in our own beds!!
@changjiangzhibin89 (17243)
• China
17 Jul 16
Here many babies sleep in their own cribs .This way,parents don't disturb the baby,for instance some parents snore thunderously.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Jul 16
My husband snores badly, maybe I need to put him in another room.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
I know I did - back then my parents only had a double bed and no way would all three of us fit in it LOL. I was 10 pounds at birth.
@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
17 Jul 16
I can see both good and bad in it. Not really sure. Dont have one of my own. as for the dogs, they sleep on our bed some and on their blanket piles some.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Jul 16
I don't sleep well at all, I toss and turn most of the night so sleeping with more than just my husband is too much for me.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
18 Jul 16
@Jessicalynnt We had a memory foam mattress at a vacation rental last year - we both hated it and had to sleep in the guest room in a smaller bed that was more comfy for us.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
18 Jul 16
@AbbyGreenhill I used too, adding a memory foam pad to our bed has helped, some
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@mom210 (9170)
• United States
17 Jul 16
I have never been able to do this, I was always terrified of knocking the baby out of bed, rolling onto it or something terrible. I always kept them in my room close to my bed while they were tiny, then moved them on down the hall when they were older.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Jul 16
That's the sensible thing I think!
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
16 Jul 16
I would worry about mom rolling over on the baby.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Jul 16
Same here , not sure about how safe it really is 100 percent of the time.
@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
16 Jul 16
Abby, how boring myLot would be if everyone "played it safe." As long as we're not really insulting people, a controversial subject can be very stimulating!
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
thank you and yes, it can be stimulating!
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
I never had a dog sleep in my bed, well let me explain that - no fury baby in my bed...
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@sallypup (69211)
• Centralia, Washington
16 Jul 16
@AbbyGreenhill Our smallest dog is a Blue Heeler. Many folks call them a velcro dog. And cats? Its a sign of trust between us when they choose to sleep near us. Bonding.
@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
16 Jul 16
I don't have any kids so I don't know. But there are co-sleepers you attach to the bed if they want to be that close. But for me not knowing how I sleep (or if I roll, toss, turn) I cannot sleep with a baby in bed with me. I wouldn't feel that is safe but I know some who do! And some who don't.
@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
16 Jul 16
@AbbyGreenhill Yes, I think so because they want to bond with the child. But it's a no/no for me because I would be paranoid and can't sleep. (I can possibly toss and turn when I sleep, so no thanks!) And I had a co worker who had a child that was 6, and til' this day sleeps with her.. Because he won't sleep in his room.
@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
@infatuatedbby that 6 year old will still be sleeping with mom as long as she allow it.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
Is seems to be more popular now than it was years ago.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
@1creekgirl Hind sight is always 20-20. It turned out fine right.
@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Jul 16
I don't even like having my husband in bed w/me sometimes!
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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
16 Jul 16
@AbbyGreenhill When our kids were little, sometimes I would lie down with them until they fell asleep. Now I don't think that was a great idea.
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@JamesHxstatic (29410)
• Eugene, Oregon
17 Jul 16
I too think that it is a bad idea and used a monitor when my daughter was a baby. I never allowed a dog or cat in bed at all.
@Tierkreisze (1609)
• Philippines
17 Jul 16
It's either you want to make him sleep on a crib or beside you. Don't change the kid's habits afterward.
@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
17 Jul 16
I sure would not want a kid sleeping in with parents at 10 years of age!
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@Tierkreisze (1609)
• Philippines
17 Jul 16
@AbbyGreenhill That... haha I guess you're right. To the crib it is!
