Made a Decision on What to Do About the Newest Case Manager Drama / myLot

St. Louis, Missouri

July 17, 2016 7:44pm CST

So, there was some new drama on Friday with her admitting she hadn't even listened to a voicemail I left her. Well, she'd better listen to the one I left her now! I told her I want a meeting with both her and her boss. I'm sure this won't happen this week, so it will let her stew a bit until next week. The sad thing is, I like this lady so I'm not quite ready to give up on her despite her continual screw ups. I'm going to lay out to her and her boss that I feel like the only one putting in any work in this therapeutic relationship. Her not even listening to the voicemail I left, and then basically flaunting it in my face was not just unprofessional but mean! She knows on top of my mental health issues that I'm super sensitive and cry easily, she never should have done that. I'm telling them I want more from the agency - I want the group therapy opportunities I was promised! As far as the case manager herself, I'm going to give her the option to quit working with me. If she wants to leave, all she has to do is say so. If she wants to stay, she has to commit to putting in work though! So far she's not listened to my psychiatrist or her boss on tips about working with me and that has to change. I have a book for her that I'm going to expect her to actually read and pay attention to, and other stuff like that. If she wants to continue working with me, this is going to be her last chance!

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Mike

@Mike197602 (15504)

• United Kingdom

18 Jul 16

people, and you, may see this as offensive...but that's your/their choice. I've been labelled as someone with a personality disorder. Had all the medical interventions and such but no result. A few years ago I thought to myself I'm not a thing I am a person. Since then I've had no mental health workers, no pills and no hassle. Sometimes it is good to look at your life and your personality and decide how you want to be. The mental health people are often well meaning but they'll want to give you pills...sometimes those pills blunt how you go about life, for a while that may be good but who wants to live taking pills? Now I'm prescription pill free, got my own place and am feeling better than I ever have. Sometimes all these workers and appointment and doctors just are not good.

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angel_smiles

@Lolaze (5092)

• St. Louis, Missouri

18 Jul 16

I have a personality disorder also. I'm glad you are able to cope with yours. Mine causes me a lot of stress and problems though so I do need help with it.

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Mike

@Mike197602 (15504)

• United Kingdom

18 Jul 16

@Lolaze As I said, some of my thoughts may be offensive to some but please don't take personal offence as that isn't meant. I got told I needed help but decided I could do my own thing. Just because you have issues doesn't mean you need to rely on others for the answers. They have underlying reasons for telling you stuff sometimes...they need to justify their jobs. I went down the hypnotherapy route and it sorted me out in the short term and I sorted myself out in the longterm. Also "fake it 'till you make it" worked for me. I knew where I wanted to get to so just put on a front and I did make it. All I have to do know is convince an employer to employ me after 10 years of no job and no references and no welfare payment as I have savings. How successful I'll be is yet to be seen.

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Yuki

@yukimori (10192)

• United States

18 Jul 16

Some of us absolutely need the pills. Not everything can be helped with therapy and self-care.

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Yuki

@yukimori (10192)

• United States

18 Jul 16

Personally, I would ditch her now. Regardless of how you feel about her as a person, she isn't doing the job she's been hired to do for you. She's ignoring your voicemails, flaunting that fact to you later, belittling you and discouraging you from reaching out for the help you need when you need it. She won't listen to her boss regarding working with you. Her past behavior does not suggest that she's remotely interested in working with you. She's had more than enough chances, and she's blown each and every one of them. I say go above her and tell her boss that you would like to be assigned to another case manager. There's absolutely no reason you should risk setting your own progress back simply because she can't get her act together and treat you with basic dignity and respect.

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