HELP...AM I RACIAL...
@Jannifer (41)
October 10, 2016 2:24pm CST
My daughter is 17 yrs old. She just broke the news to me that she was seeing a guy of a different race. I was in total shock! I fussed, cussed, and said things I should not have said. I called her Aunt, in which lives in a different state and asked her if my daughter could go stay with her. Not wanting to go, my daughter, I brought her anyway. Now after 3 weeks i feel real bad. I'm willing to accept but still upset. I know it is common these day and God did not put me here on earth to judge. This is not me, I need help accepting things in Life.
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@Jannifer (41)
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10 Oct 16
And that is true! God is all about loving all people. In my heart I knew I was not a racist person. I do have close friends whom are with a different race, I never judge them at all, an excepted their decision. For some reason I needed help accepting, I needed to get this out to help me to accept all things in Life! I thank those whom understand where I am coming from and understand.
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@much2say (53941)
• Los Angeles, California
10 Oct 16
My dad was in your shoes when I was 18. He was not exactly accepting of it - but my boyfriend was a good guy - we kept on dating. 15 years later, we got married - my dad had no choice in the matter, but by then he had come around but it took a long time. Had he come around sooner, it would have saved me from a lot of heartache - and perhaps his own heartache.
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@Jannifer (41)
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10 Oct 16
I know there is no perfect person out there in his world. Some people have luck an color does not matter. He may be that perfect one for her in her life. I made my mistakes and I know I have no reason to choose who she wants to see or be with in her life.
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@much2say (53941)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Oct 16
@Jannifer Oh I do hope that helped. May be that guy is the one, may be he is not . . . but no matter what it is something your daughter will have to decide for herself. I was dating a guy before that was the same culture as I am . . . I can't believe my parents treated him like gold right away just because of that fact - but then he turned out to be a jerk. So it's not about race . . . it's about the person.
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@suziecat7 (3350)
• Asheville, North Carolina
10 Oct 16
At least you're being honest about it and at least she's not sneaking around behind your back.
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@polyxena (2628)
• Sturgis, Michigan
10 Oct 16
It happens, I'm sure my grandparent's wouldn't be so happy that I'm with someone who's half Hispanic, but in the end they would have gotten to know him and hopefully time would have said differently. It's probably best that you just let things cool down and get to know her new boyfriend.
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@Rven999666 (99)
• Memphis, Tennessee
10 Oct 16
Change can be shocking I know. but sometimes the best thing for someone to be happy requires change. The hardest thing one can do is put their feelings aside for someone else and just let them live, love, and experience their life they way they want to.
I grew up in a small town and long ago decided I don't care about what people around me think I'm going to live my own way. Though the one thing I'm worried about is when I go back home to talk to my mom about how I've chosen to live my life.
I was raised to see people for who they are not the color of their skin or where they come from but to judge them by who they are and their actions.
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@Rven999666 (99)
• Memphis, Tennessee
10 Oct 16
@Jannifer Just remember we all make mistakes even parents make mistakes....But what is important is that we learn from these mistakes and do what we can to make things better when it is needed.
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@Jannifer (41)
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10 Oct 16
Thanks, I do appreciate your comment. And I do need to let her live her life and experience it. I know my parents did not ones that I have dated in the past and I recall there were times I said to myself I would never do that to my kids. And look what I did... Thanks this does help me a lot...
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
12 Oct 16
Maybe it is more about your daughter dating than a person of different race. I don't think you are racist. If you were, you wouldn't even be asking this question.
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@shaynas (5488)
• India
12 Oct 16
Its ok to react harshly sometimes, we as human can't always have calculated emotions. Its good you feel bad and realize your mistake.
@amitkokiladitya (171935)
• Agra, India
12 Oct 16
Don't be upset....it is your daughters happiness that should be a concern for you...nothing else should matter
