The destructive mentality of a young brat

These types of young brats are bent on destroying things, including their own lives!
@innertalks (23739)
Australia
October 10, 2016 6:48pm CST
I was in a large supermarket the other day, when I noticed a young boy, squeezing and popping the bubbles on some cling wrap plastic wrapping, that was bundled into packets for sale, on a display table, in the centre of the store. He was having a great time. He must have been around seven years old. His father was standing there not saying anything to him about what he was doing. The shop assistant working nearby stacking the shelves tried his best to look the other way, and ignore what was going on too. Even I thought that it was none of my business to interfere, and to say something to this destructive little kid. If I had said something, probably the psycho-looking father would have bashed me. That's how it mostly is these days. I was very annoyed though as I often purchase this product to package some of my books with when I sell one on the internet. What if I had bought one of these half-destroyed products? What can be done about this destructive mind-set which is infesting all of our young kids with itself, at an earlier and earlier age these days? Where does this destructive mindset come from, and what can be done about it? Such destructiveness breeds itself in an individualistic society, which only thinks of itself, and of nobody outside of that self. The only way out of this demise, is to return to respecting and loving others, thinking of the consequences of our own selfish ways, and stopping ourselves from behaving destructively in our minds first, then preventing it also from manifesting outwardly in our lives too. At this early life stage, as in the case of the young boy in my story above, we need guidance, and discipline though to help us to see what we cannot see, because of the way we have been bred and fostered by the society norms, fears, and conditionings.
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@ms1864 (6882)
• Bangalore, India
11 Oct 16
The kids need to be disciplined by their parents. 80% is the parents responsibility and 20% the sales guy's. ...in this case. My parents always stopped us and even shouted at us if required to stop us from doing things that were wrong. I remember i was never allowed to touch anything in the supermarkets as a child...until we reached the chocolate section...and even then...it was best to point at what i wanted, and my mom would pick it up for me.
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@innertalks (23739)
• Australia
11 Oct 16
Cultural backgrounds seem to make a difference to parenting methods too I think. Different countries raise their children in different ways. "The kids need to be disciplined by their parents. 80% is the parents responsibility and 20% the sales guy's. ...in this case." You don't think then that as a member of society that I had any responsibility at all to speak up and to say something to the kid, like, "Don't do that. People have to buy that, you know."
@ms1864 (6882)
• Bangalore, India
11 Oct 16
You could...but the position of power to make a difference would stand with the parent. Because even if you said something....and the parent chimes in saying that you have no right to say anything to his child. Even if you are right in motive...the child will see his parents act as protection and not give a second thought to what you said. The sales guy has more power since he is responsible for the product that the child is damaging. Thus if he says anything, he is only doing his job. In his case...the parent MIGHT listen and stop the child in the fear that he will be asked to pay for the product that his child distorted.
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@ms1864 (6882)
• Bangalore, India
11 Oct 16
@charlie09 a parent can...if it is enforced from childhood.
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@shaynas (5486)
• India
11 Oct 16
At early age, it's more of a parent responsibility to teach your kids how to behave in public places. A kid that age does not understand, what actually he is doing is not good, so parents must tell him.
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@innertalks (23739)
• Australia
11 Oct 16
Yes, I tend to agree with you. A parent must make a child aware of society's norms, rules, and requirements of normal expected behaviours within that society.
@shaynas (5486)
• India
12 Oct 16
@innertalks yes, it's a parents responsibility.
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• Philippines
11 Oct 16
I'd rather avoid them, it's not in my place to stop the child unless the parents aren't there to begin with. It's the failure of the parents that makes these youth what they are today.
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@innertalks (23739)
• Australia
11 Oct 16
Yes, it's the failure of the parents, but because society as a whole is being affected by this bad parenting, I wonder what can be done about it now, if anything. The schools do not seem to be able to prevent any of this. They seem to just make it worse. This rebellious spirit is even within the so-called goody goody kids serving us as altar children in my church. You can often see the boredom in their faces, and that they have been forced into this service by their parents. Forcing kids to be good like this to my mind isn't much better than stopping them from being bad. But then what to do??
@paigea (36143)
• Canada
11 Oct 16
As a customer I might say something like , I don'twant those damaged when I buy them so please stop. But I wouldn't push the issue if the child didn't respond.
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@franxav (14591)
• India
11 Oct 16
It is a sad thing to see.As a foster parent social worker I often see sons and daughters today detest guidance and discipline. In some way we parents are responsible too. The parent of the boy in the story should have told the brat not to do what he was doing.
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@innertalks (23739)
• Australia
11 Oct 16
Yes, I have not got any children myself, but I detest bad parenting like that. Every time that I have seen misbehaving kids, whenever I catch up to seeing the parents, I immediately see why then too that their kids are like this. Even way back in bible times this advice was being offered to parents: "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." This is from the old Testament book of Proverbs, chapter 22, verse 6.
@shivamani10 (11035)
• Hyderabad, India
11 Oct 16
This is very bad. The father has left the boy unattended and stopping the boy from doing like that. The sales assistant is unmindful of the boy though he knows what the boy was doing. This is how indiscipline develops in a child. They think that it can be done as per his wish and nobody will object him.
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@innertalks (23739)
• Australia
11 Oct 16
I thought it was very bad too. I hate to think what type of a person this young boy might grow up into unless something changes him in his ways. Then again, maybe I am seeing it all too seriously. We all have done some childhood pranks like that in our time, I guess, but the difference was that I suspect we were told off for doing so! I know that I was!
@Shiva49 (28380)
• Singapore
11 Oct 16
I see some instances like this often. I have to hold myself back from telling off the errant child. Just yesterday, I saw a child ripping off the plastic holders kept for wet umbrellas at the local library. The attendant tried in vain to tell the boy but his mother was looking the other way. Then a senior library assistant told the mother to control her child but by then quite some damage was done. In my time anyone would shout to drive home the message but now no one seems to bother including the parents. Like others here I just shook my head sideways showing my disapproval. I have had couple of friends who allow their children to jump on our sofa but throwing caution to the winds I tell them to keep off! siva
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@innertalks (23739)
• Australia
11 Oct 16
Well it's your sofa, I would usually tell them off too, but only if my wife supports me in my doing of this. There is nothing worse than when you start to tell some naughty, mischievous kid off for kicking your dog, for example, that your wife takes the kid's side, and says, well he's not really hurting the dog, or the sofa, let him be!
@innertalks (23739)
• Australia
12 Oct 16
@Shiva49 Ha Ha, if they did hurt themselves, these types of parents would probably blame you for that too. "Why didn't you stop the kids from jumping on your sofa," they might say to you then.
@Shiva49 (28380)
• Singapore
12 Oct 16
@innertalks One couple looked away and engaged in their usual ways - talking to each other all the time! Being a consummate diplomat I used to tell the kids they would fall down and hurt themselves though I was more concerned about my sofa! siva
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