The Return of the "Ex-Files"
By Raine38
@Raine38 (12387)
United States
November 3, 2016 10:22pm CST
My boyfriend went out on 3 dates with this woman 6 months before he courted me. She was not very happy that he and I are dating (she’s also a Filipina)and she keeps posting nasty stuff on her Facebook. For example, she will post a picture of a garbage can filled with trash and swarming with flies, with a caption that he and I belong in there, and some other mean stuff. She cannot accept that my boyfriend ran away from her when he got tired of her drama. Plus, she’s got a little girl and he does not like that she will leave her girl to a friend just so she can drive up here to visit him even when she has to be at work. She ended up getting fired but it was okay for her as long as she gets to see him. When she started demanding that they should have a baby he called it quits.
Anyway, it’s been almost 2 years and just when we thought that our ignoring her finally got her tired, she started again. She sent me a friend request. I kept ignoring that for days until she sent me a message that says she is here for friendship, and she has moved on, past is past. I still ignored her and basically just did not give any reaction of any kind. Then my boyfriend got a text message last night. Since he has his hands all greasy from tinkering his truck, he asked me to open it for him. And we saw that it was her, using a new number, and telling him that she misses him and if he is ever in her town, she is always available for him. It sounds shady.
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8 responses
@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
4 Nov 16
I recall you writing about her previously in the past! And I can't believe she's still in contact. Will your boyfriend change his number?
Have you heard of keeping enemies closer? This is a great example. I actually have dealt with this same incident too. I was a 'friend' of this girl whom I don't consider my boyfriend dated. But she's popped in/here an there - trying to befriend me and I gave in. Ultimately, she was a backstabber and tried to get with my boyfriend. In her head - keeping enemies closer! Don't friend her!
No one is crossing me! 
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@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
4 Nov 16
He can't because this number is the one that he has been using for work for years now, and acquaintances that he met during his work through meetings and conferences call him on this number. It will be very mush of a hassle for him to change it. Yeah, she's back apparently. I am a sucker for new friends as I left most of my old ones when I moved here, so I almost give in to her. She has another guy with her on her profile picture so at the time her message sounds legit. Apparently she's still trouble. I hope she just stop with this. She's got a little girl to take care of for crying out loud.
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@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
4 Nov 16
@Raine38
She wants to put another guy to make you think she has another 'guy' in her life. It could just be a cousin, friend, or just someone random.
The other girl that I was a friend with, spoke of the guy often saying she's dating but secretly she was INTERESTED in my man!
I hope your boyfriend has the block number feature (like on the iPhone) cut all ties! She should be more interested in her daughter
I hope your boyfriend has the block number feature (like on the iPhone) cut all ties! She should be more interested in her daughter1 person likes this
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
4 Nov 16
@infatuatedbby How long did you have to deal with her? Sometimes I feel sorry for her because I can tell she is seriously looking for love - just that she is looking for it in the wrong place. And maybe, just maybe, she needs to find herself first and make peace with whatever she is going through before she can start looking for another person to bring into her and her kid's life.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
4 Nov 16
after just 3 dates, she wants to have a baby with him?? talk about obsessed!
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@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
4 Nov 16
I think she have bad motives, I mean she already have a kid, only 8 years old and now she wants another one? I am likely to entertain the thought that she wants child support. I know that's bad of me to think that way but I can't find any logic in that other than some support coming in.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
4 Nov 16
@Raine38 No sane person wouldn't want a child again unless she wants child support.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
4 Nov 16
Oh, my god it's psychopath! shame that she's not the only one capable of doing that out there! Ignore her at all cost any way to file a restraint order against the woman?! didn't she even bother apologizing.
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@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
4 Nov 16
We decided not to file anything out of consideration for her kid and mother who only have her to rely on. My boyfriend have to change locks though and we even have keyless entry in the house now. I never asked what she did but it is probably bad that he has to spend money on changing locks.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
4 Nov 16
@Raine38 oh crap..oh, Im sure she did something that made him paranaoid, making a keyless lock
you just have to understand him.
you just have to understand him.
@RitzzView (3041)
• India
5 Nov 16
At least there is no drama anymore
Her missing him seems okay to me. Let her do that..we all miss someone or the other.
Her missing him seems okay to me. Let her do that..we all miss someone or the other.1 person likes this
@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
4 Nov 16
Wow, she sounds immature at best and mentally unstable at worst. I would be careful.
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
5 Nov 16
That is bad. Just don't mind her but keep your eyes, ears, mind and instict active all the time. You'll never know what she'll gonna do next. She's like the kontrabida in dramas.
Never thought there are ladies like that. Maybe she's just too inlove with your boyfriend?
Never thought there are ladies like that. Maybe she's just too inlove with your boyfriend?1 person likes this
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
5 Nov 16
I do not think it's love. For me, love is what being described in Corinthians - it's not selfish, not boastful, do not keep a record of wrongs, etc. None of that describes whatever behavior she is showing. I think she just thrives and live for the drama and the attention and not really for love and companionship. But I will be careful, thanks for responding to my post.
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@celticeagle (189833)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Nov 16
She sounds like a stalker type. I would leave her alone. People like that have way too much time on their hands.
