Would the real me please stand up and tell me who I am
By emptychair
@innertalks (23745)
Australia
December 7, 2016 4:11pm CST
Yesterday I was in the city with my wife and another lady. We went to a Korean restaurant for lunch, and we all ordered a "mango slush" as an accompanying drink to our food.
A "mango slush" is an icy slushy drink, with some solid ice, and some drinkable liquid in it, with a mango flavour to it.
When we had finished our meal, we had drunk as much as we could of the mango slush. The rest could not be drunk up through the rather thin straw, that they had given to us, (perhaps to make it even more difficult to drink this stuff) as it was still solid crushed un-melted ice.
We left the rest of the drinks unfinished on the table. We could have of course had taken them away with us, but we were already heavy laden with our goods, so we didn't feel like doing this either.
Now, if I had of been on my own, or in my own house, I would have just removed the lid off of the drink, and used my spoon, given to me to eat the food with, to scoop up the rest of the ice. I do not like to waste food, like that.
I might also have tried harder to suck some of the ice up, if I had not been so embarrassed, about my making a loud sucking noise, in a public place also.
I didn't do this, because of the so-called protocols, or expected behaviour, or nice, respectful, respectable, behaviour norms that others were all following religiously so.
Now my question to you is, was I being my real self here, or was I being some type of artificially created, socialistic person, coerced into following these socially expected guidelines?
Who and what is this real self that people talk about us trying to be then?
I do not think that we have a different real self at all. All of us are just who we are at any particular point in time, and so who we agree to be. We cannot say that we were not being our real self when we act like this, as our doing this is just some type of a cop-out.
We are always our real self; there is no other self.
What do you think about this?
Who or what is this real self, does it really exist?
This real self could be said to be your higher self, but this to me is not your really real self either. Your real self is always the self you are being right now.
Your higher self is the self, which if being you right now, might have acted differently, but nevertheless, you can never truly say that you were not being your real self. Your higher self gives guidance to this real self, but this real self is always the real you, the you that you are, or who you are being, right now.
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@innertalks (23745)
• Australia
7 Dec 16
Yes, I make apple ones, mango, and banana ones (smoothies) at home here too. This mango slush was an ice slurry one. It was nice, you could taste the mango, but there was a lot of watery ice. It was only $3 here, though, not too bad a price.
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@KristenH (33591)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
8 Dec 16
@innertalks That does sound like a slushie. Not a bad deal.
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@Shiva49 (28402)
• Singapore
21 Dec 16
I marvel at toddlers and they are indeed a joy to watch, so innocent.
Over time they are forced to conform to accepted societal norms and then it is sort of regimentation of adult life.
We lose our spontaneity and become overly aware of others' critical appraisal.
I do accept we need to conform with rules and that forms part of our higher self too - siva
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@innertalks (23745)
• Australia
21 Dec 16
Yes, a happy medium is best.
Don't burn the toast, or even leave it too underdone, if you want to enjoy it more, balance in all things is often best, but perhaps not always, as we would never experience the other ends of the seesaw of life then either...LOL..the highs and the lows that is...
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@innertalks (23745)
• Australia
22 Dec 16
@Shiva49 Yes, I am not a risk take myself either. I would never ever think of climbing Mount Everest, for example, but one of my cousins actually did that a few years ago.
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@Shiva49 (28402)
• Singapore
22 Dec 16
@innertalks I recall what your countryman told me thirty years ago - Aussies like adventure especially if there is a higher risk attached to it!
I was flying back few months ago and I was requested to vacate my seat and given another.
Then an Australian gentleman walked in on crutches and given three adjacent seats. He had met with an accident while water skiing in Kerala.
But for people like me it is better to be on safer ground! That is how we are brought up I think.
I do admire those who are in extreme sports and those who take all types of risks - maybe too much carried away by the outside world! siva
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