Common Courtesy / myLot

Boise, Idaho

December 14, 2016 5:13pm CST

Is it teenage anger taken out on Grandma? Is it the clash of personalities? Asking for common courtesy. And getting nasty words and hostility instead. This is just so bizarre I merely asked for a window to be closed or that he close his door when he comes out. It's winter out after all. He insists in having his window open in his room. BRRRRRR!!!! It's 33 degrees outside. This is what I pretty much put up with from him any time I ask him to do something. Two thirds of the time. About one third of the time he is civil. Do you have to ask for common courtesy?

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Jabo

@jaboUK (64346)

• United Kingdom

14 Dec 16

He sounds like an inconsiderate young man. Tell him he'll have to pay for all that heat that escapes out of his window.

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (189793)

• Boise, Idaho

15 Dec 16

Many times he has been told that. Trouble is he is busy yelling and doesn't hear it.

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (189793)

• Boise, Idaho

16 Dec 16

@hereandthere ....He'd understand but wouldn't let me explain it to him.

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45628)

• Philippines

15 Dec 16

@celticeagle if you wrote it down to explain how it affects your heating bill, will he understand?

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Jennifer

@LovingMyBabies (85923)

• Valdosta, Georgia

14 Dec 16

I'm sorry you have to go through that. Is he not made to respect you? My children better not ever be rude to their grandparents or they will be dealing with me which they won't like at all. I also live with someone who has no common courtesy at all...Can't wait until it's over.

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (189793)

• Boise, Idaho

15 Dec 16

He doesn't really 'respect' anyone. Having ODD he is defiant and oppositional. He has gotten better but there are times he is bad. He has been the oddest child to try to raise. Usually a child will mind me to some degree. Not him! And, his mom doesn't help the situation. She doesn't want any kind of confrontation and doesn't make him respect her so why would he respect me? Really fires me up even after all these years. Ugh!

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paigea

@paigea (36143)

• Canada

15 Dec 16

@celticeagle that is a good idea by @jaboUK . When my late niece was about 13, 14 I got her to write all the checks out each month to pay the bills. I used a bank ledger and put a total at the top and had her deduct the amount of each check as she wrote it. It made her realize where money goes. It turned out to be a great lesson for her. She decided to have a career that paid a lot better than mine.

(this was back when we paid the bills with checks

)

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (189793)

• Boise, Idaho

15 Dec 16

@paigea ....I still pay several of mine by check.

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bonnie

@bunnybon7 (50970)

• Holiday, Florida

18 Dec 16

from daughters bf all the time and don't always get an answer or response. but i am told most all the time that i complain about too much. lol even if it is just for comfort that don't cost any thing or any real effort

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (189793)

• Boise, Idaho

19 Dec 16

Maybe you need someone else to talk to. Sometimes that helps and then we don't have to complain so much.

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (189793)

• Boise, Idaho

20 Dec 16

@bunnybon7 .....That is so true. It is involuable.