Things Got Ugly This Morning
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (189838)
Boise, Idaho
February 8, 2017 7:57am CST
......and the harrowing saga continues.......
Josh had a really hard time getting up this morning. He got to the point where he would close his door and lock it. Cami unlocked it and explained he needed to get up and catch the bus. He told her to get out of his room in this very cold, nasty and intimidating voice. We tried everything to get him up. Tickling him, pots and pans, telling him how much time he had, that he'd have to take the city bus if he didn't get up, I would have to call the police. Finally when he only had a bout 15 minutes left I told him that he could cause his mom to get into a lot of trouble. That Child Services could be called in. Didn't he respect her more than that? I am so tired of being made the bad guy. He did finally get up and is now mad at me. I come into the situation after Cami has tried everything and I see that she is getting frustrated. What is a person supposed to do. Sugar coat it all regardless of how he acts? I am calling the social worker at the school and talk to her. But, I have to wait an hour before they get in.
I am so fed up with this. It is very hard for two women to try to raise a teen with these issues. Obstinate and defiant are two personality characteristics that are very hard to deal with. You throw in teen age hormones and you really have a jolly little fellow to contend with.
He towers over us and has anger issues. He has brutalized his mom by hitting her legs with a rubber rod back about four years ago and was charged with parental abuse. Then in October he pushed me and my shoulder was dislocated. I didn't charge him because I felt it was a accident. I think it is instinctual for a person to push someone if they are trying to take something away.
Yes, he did catch the bus but just barely.
I am so upset. Any ideas?
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@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
8 Feb 17
I think it is far beyond what you and your daughter can do or handle. I think some type of professional help/advice is needed before it goes much further.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Feb 17
@AbbyGreenhill .....It's been going on for 14 years now. When he was five he used to fall on the floor and throw a fit. That's why I got him evaluated. Scared me what back then.
@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
8 Feb 17
@celticeagle None of you can go on like this..good luck and take care of yourselves.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Feb 17
I wish I could offer advice for you but this is so beyond me-the whole situation. I will be praying that things get easier with him though. I'm sorry that's all I can do. 
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@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
8 Feb 17
scary situation but at least you won and got him to the bus - hope things go easier for the rest of the week
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@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
9 Feb 17
@celticeagle does he behave once he gets to school?
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Feb 17
@arthurchappell .....For the most part. They have lots of help and he is medicated so he does a lot better than he used to. Thank goodness for meds. And, I am a person who started out just the opposite.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
8 Feb 17
I get what you are saying here Celtic. I know you are doing everything you can and also Cami ...It is really a lot to deal with and wearing for sure. It is too bad it is so very early he has to be on that bus ...but there is no getting around it, he has to. I know how it is when someone will not do what they have to do and you cant make them. My heart goes out to you there.
I wish that Josh could know how better off he is at home there with the two people who care so much for him, then in some home where he would be forced and not in a nice way. When a family is dealing with mental illness, others do not understand and think it is just as simple as talking with him. It does not work that way.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Feb 17
I asked them, way back when they were discussing what he would do for junior high and high school, if the school they chose for him could be as close as possible. I guess this one is closer than what I had thought. Yeah, foster care isn't going to be pretty for him. No, talking doesn't do much and you have to talk to him on a day when he is in the mood to listen.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Feb 17
@TiarasOceanView .....Whoa! We both need a vacation. Did we ever figure out where we were going?
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
8 Feb 17
@celticeagle Dont I know that Celtic..I get it. Depends on the day here too.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
8 Feb 17
I agree with the others. I think you need to seek some professional help for him. It is beyond what you can do for him. I would hate to see anybody get hurt even worse because of his behavior. I will keep you all in my prayers.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
8 Feb 17
Needs help for you to be able to handle the situation. I don´t know who you talk to there about those kind of things but you need help the two of you.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
9 Feb 17
I wish I had a suggestion, it's a hard place to be in.
@JamesHxstatic (29410)
• Eugene, Oregon
9 Feb 17
Reminds me of a nephew I had, same kind of surly attitude, ended up in trouble, spoiled rotten by one of my sisters, his aunt. Last I knew of him, he was driving a cab in Vegas. A worthless kid.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Feb 17
I have never been around a kid that didn't respect what his parents said and did, to some extent, what he was told. My grandson is so defiant and obstinate it is really hard to deal with him. He can be a very good hearted and sweet kid. I live for those times. I so don't want him to just have a worthless existence. At least he isn't out with a gang and doing unlawful things. I am thankful for that. And he is doing ok in school. Could be a lot worse.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Feb 17
@JamesHxstatic .....It is but well worth my bald spots.
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@JamesHxstatic (29410)
• Eugene, Oregon
9 Feb 17
@celticeagle I know that it is very hard for you.
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@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
8 Feb 17
How old is this boy? Maybe you need to sit down and have a good talk to him. Friendly talk of course.
Sometime young people think that we owe them something....
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Feb 17
He's 14. Just re-diagnosed from ODD to just ADHD.
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@atoz1to10 (6780)
• Australia
8 Feb 17
@celticeagle Thanks for explaining. My heart goes out to you.... Be strong. Be positive. 
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Feb 17
@atoz1to10 ....Thank you. Yes, I am trying to be.
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