Party Pooper
By Amber
@AmbiePam (120533)
United States
February 20, 2017 9:41pm CST
Have you ever been excited about something and then someone decides to spoil your mood? I remember talking once about getting a house someday and having a yard so I could have room for more than one dog. The person I was with said, "Yeah, like you'll ever have the money to get a house."
Uh, why would would you want to spoil that dream? What is the harm of a wish no matter if it is likely or not?
On mylot I once posted about a recent development of a dementia vaccine. A lot of you know my mom was diagnosed with dementia at 46, and died at the age of 55, almost two years ago. Someone who meant well I'm sure, started telling me how long it takes for those things to be put in clinical trials, and proceeded to list all the ways I shouldn't be excited.
I knew all that! I mentioned that myself. But why would one want to dim the hope that there one day be a way to prevent dementia? It runs in my mom's family. I need to think in a positive manner.
It's very likely I've done that myself. I'm sure I have. But I really want to be conscious not to do it ever again.
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12 responses
@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
21 Feb 17
Yes some people do have a real knack at being a Debbie downer just ignore them
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
21 Feb 17
I tend to look at the positives and negatives of everything. If you told me that someday you want a house so you can have a dog I would tell you that when you mow your lawn that make sure you do not run over the poop or it will spread it all over lol.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
23 Feb 17
I remember that post. When there are no other medical solutions, one has to be hopeful with any advancements that could take place - that IS exciting considering that you know people are taking the steps to try to make this a reality.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
21 Feb 17
I do not think you have ever done that Ambie..for some reason I can't see you doing that putting a dim on someone's light.
It is not a habit of mine to do so either.
I do not know why someone does that, but people should think first.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
22 Feb 17
I'm sure most of the time it's not meant, but I understand how frustrated one can feel at those remarks. My mom did that to me a lot when I was young. I'd tell her what I thought I wanted to be when I grew up, and she'd poke holes in it. "You can't be a veterinarian, you wouldn't be able to handle seeing an animal in pain", that sort of thing. I noticed that I ended up doing the same thing with my kids.. mostly my daughter who comes up with some weird career ideas.. I'm trying to limit what I say negatively about it now, but sometimes something slips without me realizing.
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@Juliaacv (56195)
• Canada
21 Feb 17
That's someone that I refer to as a Downer Debbie, or a Dream Crusher. We need to smile at those people and just let them be, so that they'll find someone to go and ruin their day.
I hope that the comments didn't make you totally give up, you are a reasonable person, and you are entitled to your hopes just like anyone else is.
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@Tampa_girl7 (54714)
• United States
28 Feb 17
It is a terrible feeling to have your bubble of excitement burst
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
21 Feb 17
I try to encourage people to go for it!
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