Did You Ever Have to Deal With a Bully When You Were in School?

United States
April 14, 2017 8:21am CST
Bullying seems to be quite a problem these days. I’m glad all my kids are out of school. I have one grandson still in school and I will be glad when he finishes school in a couple more years. He has a 2nd degree Black Belt in Karate, but I don’t think most of the kids at school know that about him. He has never mentioned being bullied either, but I know it goes on in his school. My great grandchildren are all Home Schooled, so they don’t have to deal with public school bullies. I’m glad about that. Do you have children in school? Do they ever mention bullies? What do you think could be done about bullying?
No one likes to be the target of a bully. Would you like to learn how to beat a bully without using your fists? Listen and learn how to deal with it successfully.
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@josie_ (9764)
• Philippines
14 Apr 17
Bullies only pick on the weak because they are weak themselves and have to conceal their insecurities through aggressive behavior. I tell my grandchildren not to be afraid to stand up for their rights. AND I will back them up 100%
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• United States
14 Apr 17
Bullies sometimes are mistreated at home and so they develop an attitude at school that let's them be the bully. A person (teacher) needs to learn WHY a child is a bully at school and then, perhaps, it can be dealt with. Being kind to others needs to be taught at home but often that is not what happens in many households.
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• United States
17 Apr 17
@josie_ Yes, just saying "I'm proud of you" when they do something nice can have a huge impact on their attitude.
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@dodo19 (47034)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
14 Apr 17
My eldest will starting school in September. As much as I may be a little worried, I know she is going to a good school. I know a lot of parents who either have kids there or have had kids go to the school, and it doesn't seem to be a major problem at the school. I've only heard good things about it, which does help a little.
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@dodo19 (47034)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
14 Apr 17
@IreneVincent Yes, it will be my first time. My first experience.
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• United States
15 Apr 17
@dodo19 Well, I hope for the best for you and your child. School is a whole new challenge for parents, but I'm sure you will enjoy the experience.
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• United States
14 Apr 17
I'm glad your child's school has a good report. Will this be your first experience with a child in school?
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@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
14 Apr 17
I always ask my son if somebody bullies him at school but his answer is always no and that's a relief for me. The headmaster at my son's school seems to be watchful about bullying and they always have activities that allow children to get to know about each other. They have student officers that roam around school to watch out for bullies too. When I was in student I saw a lot of bullies among my classmates but none dared bullied me.
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@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
15 Apr 17
@IreneVincent Yeah, I specifically chose that school for him because of how children are. That school doesn't only educate the children academically, they try to develop their personality through good relationship with others.
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• United States
15 Apr 17
@toniganzon That's great! Unfortunately here in the USA, most school children don't have a choice of schools unless their parents can afford a private school and even then, there are bullies.
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• United States
14 Apr 17
It seems to be quite a BIG problem in many schools now. Headmasters and student officers need to be on the lookout for bullies. So, its good that your son's school has that in place.
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@JudyEv (323672)
• Rockingham, Australia
15 Apr 17
It is a problem here too. Many of the schools try to deal with it but I'm not sure how successful it is.
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• United States
15 Apr 17
Some children have such a difficult life at home that they take out their frustrations at school. I think that is the primary reason that children become bullies, but I'm sure there are other reasons too.
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@JudyEv (323672)
• Rockingham, Australia
15 Apr 17
@IreneVincent I hadn't really thought of that.
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@Gamic01 (88)
• Laguna, Philippines
14 Apr 17
My eldest son experienced once and that was like a devastating moment for him...how many kids do you have?
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• United States
15 Apr 17
I have five children. The four older ones all attended public school, but I home schooled my youngest son until he went to high school and then he was tall and strong and had no problems with anyone bullying him. His son has a 2nd degree black belt in karate. He's 16 now and goes to a public high school.
• United States
15 Apr 17
It can be very devastating and it's so wrong when nothing is done about it.
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@melissa1024 (2456)
• Beckley, West Virginia
14 Apr 17
Sad thing happened here in the fall. A fourth grader was bullied so bad at school by the children and some of the same children lived in his neighborhood and bullied him at home also. He thought there was no way out and hung himself. His grandmother said she had been to the school several times and nothing had been done. She had went to the parents of the children doing the bullying and the parents just said kids will be kids. I can believe this. My daughter is the type of child that tries to get along with everyone no matter what and no what what is done or said to her lets it roll off her back. Well, I found out a group of kids were bullying here at school and online. So I went to the school with her tablet in hand as proof. The principal told me we will talk to them. So it kept on. So I contacted the parents and were told by these so called parents well you know how kids are, they don't mean nothing by it, kids will be kids.If it were my child doing this and I found out about it she'd be in some deep trouble with me. But, since the school or the other parents do not want to do nothing about it, I told my daughter if they keep it up to knock the hell out of them and it would stop when they saw she was not going to take their crap!
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• United States
15 Apr 17
It seems to be a problem everywhere and school should be a place where children feel safe and comfortable, but that's not the way it is anymore. It's very sad too.
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• United States
15 Apr 17
@melissa1024 I've heard of several children taking their own life because of bullying and that should NEVER happen. I'm glad that my great grandchildren are all home schooled.
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• Beckley, West Virginia
15 Apr 17
@IreneVincent Yes, I've heard of several children doing it also, but this child was only 8. So, I guess that is why it was just so much more of a shock to my system. Plus, it hit so close to home being right at my childs' school and her knowing him personally.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
14 Apr 17
I was bullied nearly my entire school life and tried to kill myself when I was 12 because of it. Luckily, the bullies did not know or they would have redoubled their efforts. To this day I struggle with my self image and won't look into a mirror unless I have to because I "know" I'm ugly. I cannot understand why no one is working on truly correcting their behavior. Their brains are wired wrong. Many studies like the one I'm linking to have been done and yet it is not publicized as it should be. If kids knew bullies had what I would call a disability, perhaps they would not take the torment so seriously and lives could be saved! But no, nobody pays any attention to this important research. I can't think why.
Aggressive boys may actually derive pleasure from watching other people suffer pain, a new study says.
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• United States
15 Apr 17
I am so sorry that you had to deal with bullying when you were in school. Here's a link to a short video that you might enjoy watching.
No one likes to be the target of a bully. Would you like to learn how to beat a bully without using your fists? Listen and learn how to deal with it successfully.
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@louievill (28859)
• Philippines
14 Apr 17
I fought bullies several times in my life ( I am not advising anybody to do it), it's just that it's one of the best way to make it stop and only when it becomes unbearable, a bully should understand that he chose the wrong guy to pick on Bullying does not stop in school, in fact its always a threat in our daily life in another form such as in work or business. Countries bully other weaker countries My children do not get bullied because I stand by them come what may so long as they are right and I emphasize this to them.
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• United States
14 Apr 17
That's true that bullying can continue after a person leaves school. It's also true that parents have to get involved with what's going on with their own children who can be bullied or may be the one who is bullying. All parents need to be aware of BOTH of those situations.
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@Shavkat (136864)
• Philippines
14 Apr 17
I had experienced this during my high school days. It is only one thing for sure. They are full of insecurities.
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@Shavkat (136864)
• Philippines
15 Apr 17
@IreneVincent I agree. They tend to bully others because it is what they had experienced at home.
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• United States
15 Apr 17
Yes, many children are insecure at home and so they act differently when away from their parents.
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@reskyyandi (3616)
• Indonesia
14 Apr 17
I am victim of bullied when I was in Junior High School.
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• United States
15 Apr 17
How did you handle it? I'm sure it must have been very difficult for you.