*Bleeding sores.
By ingrid
@ridingbet (66854)
Philippines
May 2, 2017 4:37am CST
My sister learned that AN died in the hospital yesterday at 4:30AM not due to complications of the cervical cancer that she had, but due to the bleeding decubitus ulcers that were left untreated and cleaned by her family.
It is a common complication of bed-ridden people to have decubitus ulcers, or pressure ulcers, or more commonly known as bed sores, because these people prefer not to move or turn from side to side. Having soaked diapers is also a reason for the sores. And usually bed sores appear in the bony prominence at the back, like in the lumbar and sacral areas.
AN’s common-law husband stayed by her side, but her children, whom she often told us that she loves them so dearly, did not watch her in the hospital, according to our neighbors. I could say that her children are ingrates, and maybe, they will have disagreements as to who should hold the money given by those who sympathize with them.
Rest in eternal peace, my friend AN. Please say HELLO to my parents in heaven.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 May 17
for sure my friend, she is now resting, because her face showed peace and serenity.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
2 May 17
Terrible shame that.
Condolonces to all concerned at this very difficult time.
My Gran had bed sores but it was the head injury that killed her.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
4 May 17
@ridingbet
She was pushed over on a Bus and I struggled through a crowd of rude people to get to her underneath and through their legs.
A year later she was gone.
She suffered a big blow on the head but then there were no check ups like now.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
5 May 17
@ridingbet
Well because she was being pushed onto the Bus by the people behind her and I was furious and trying to stop them pushing her.
I was very small but I knew that it was not good what was happening.
This was ages ago now.
They did no scans then if you suffered a blow on the head.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 May 17
@lovinangelsinstead21 how old was your grandmother? why were those people so unmindful of the fall of your grandmother?
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@minx267 (15526)
• Hartford, Connecticut
2 May 17
@ridingbet wow. That is horrible. And inconceivable to me. How could someone treat their own mother this way?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
3 May 17
@minx267 we just came from the house of AN, my friend. her children were there and they were misty-eyed. i also learned what happened on the day that she expired in the hospital.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
2 May 17
yes my friend. her daughters did not care for her, and they acted as if their mother did not need help. they thought AN can take care of herself.
her daughters, i see them sometimes, always go out wherein they go to the city and gallivant.
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@Nawsheen (28761)
• Mauritius
4 May 17
@ridingbet I agree that are busy. Personally I think having a mom is the greatest gift for anybody to have. Once she is gone you lose something precious. Mothers do so much for their children. So many sacrifices. I feel.sorry for you friend
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 May 17
yes, her children were not with her during daytime. her oldest works in the capital city. her 2 other children always go out to the city, and sometimes go to school, but the thought that nobody was with their mother is disappointing.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 May 17
@Nawsheen at 8AM, the hearse passed by our house, and i threw a bucket of water as a belief that we practice. it is the burial day of our manicurist.
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@LadyDuck (502148)
• Italy
4 May 17
@ridingbet When my sister in law was hospitalized for many weeks, they have moved her to a water bed when they noticed a beginning of pressure ulcers. She was fine after she was moved to the water bed, she was hospitalized for 3 months.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 May 17
@LadyDuck pressure sores are also found in extremely emaciated patients, because they have no fats in their bony prominence. that is why waterbeds are better, and also changing positions side to side every 2 hours, and dry back with application of talcum powder can also prevent decubitus.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 May 17
our hospital here have no water beds, but the nurses and the significant others of the clients should be in charge in turning the clients side to side every 2 hours to prevent decubitus ulcers.
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@diosabella (4789)
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3 May 17
I hope she rest in peace. My grandmother would have suffered bed sores in her days if it wasn't for my Aunt's persistence that she gets going for a few minutes a day. And everyday too, my cousin stretched her body and massage her legs for circulations. It could be really painful to see when someone can't move because of too much pain.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 May 17
yes, and added to that, the mere thought that AN was in diapers and her children reasoned out that (when we asked if she wet her bed) even if she is full of urine, she wore diapers, is not acceptable to a health care procider like me.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 May 17
@diosabella yes, diapers worn by bed-ridden patients do get some rashes from the soiled diapers with urine and poop, and it is not good too if it is not changed, and waiting for it to be heavy with pee.
@diosabella (4789)
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4 May 17
@ridingbet We never used diapers ever. My Aunt didn't like it. She said its too hot for grandma and the rashes too is not good. It would be much a huge problem if she developed those. When grandma wet herself my Aunt just ask me to give grandma a quick warm shower and change her clothes. If its not possible we clean her using wash cloth. When we give my grandma a bath there's three of us. One will wash the hair and face, the other will wash the middle part of her body and the other one will be on duty with her legs and feet. And I think grandma loved the attention somehow.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
9 May 17
thanks for your sympathies my friend. she was buried last Saturday.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
3 May 17
It is obvious she was not taken care of, as bed rest if not watched will lead to these sores. Here they are made to sleep on water mattresses and they are made to change sides every now and then. They are also showered with talcum powder. May her sould rest in peace.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 May 17
yes, persons who are on complete bedrest like those who have stroke or CVA, should always be turned to sides every 2 hours, and keeping the back dry with talcum powder, may not develop more ulcers to the skin.
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@DianneN (254949)
• United States
5 May 17
@ridingbet Oh, so they didn't just leave her to die. Too bad they couldn't get someone to help out.
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@DianneN (254949)
• United States
7 May 17
@ridingbet The entire thing is so depressing and sad. RIP poor AN.
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@Morleyhunt (21741)
• Canada
2 May 17
Those pressure sores are so difficult to deal with.
My fathers venous stasis ulcer is a similar type of wound. He has a nurse at his home every other day to clean it and apply a fresh dressing. This has been ongoing since February.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
2 May 17
by venous stasis ulcer, do you mean the wound is in his leg? if the ulcer has a weeping wound, it really needs to be cleaned and dressed everyday.
@Morleyhunt (21741)
• Canada
2 May 17
@ridingbet we fought for every other day. The normal protocol for his wound care is every third to fifth day. The every other day seems to be working.
The wound is slow in healing (not unexpected) but it is healing. He is 90 years old and has had a history of poor circulation in his legs. We watch it all very closely.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 May 17
@Morleyhunt a healing ulcer should be treated, if possible, every other day, because we have to give the skin the time to have cell granulation.
@Iam_jauntyjen (5452)
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3 May 17
I feel sorry for your friend. I hope none of her children will suffer the same fate. How could they just let their mother die just like that
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 May 17
there were some regrets heard from the children when we went to the wake of AN. they felt sorry, but they cannot do anything anymore because their mother passed away.
@abhinalstrikr (4110)
• India
4 May 17
I believe presence of childrens would made her happy in hospital sad to hear they did not appear
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@manikarnika (3301)
• India
2 May 17
Please accept our most sincere condolences for the loss of your friend...
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
2 May 17
thanks. we will be going tomorrow (tonight should be, but my sister is tired so she postponed our going to the wake)
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
4 May 17
Are here children already grown ups and working? Maybe they are busy at work, but that is not an excuse. They can take a leave of absence to take care of her. Or maybe they hired a caregiver for her.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
2 May 17
yes, and i really wonder why her daughters did not care for her bed sores. maybe they felt icky cleaning the wounds, because the wounds were bleeding.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 May 17
thank you. now, we won't let anybody touch our toes to clean them. AN is not a relative, but a friend.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
2 May 17
thanks, i will relay to the daughters about your condolences.
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