Are you thick-skinned or easily offended?

Yes, even constructive criticism has to be given in a kind and mild way so that the receiver is not hurt by the manner it is given. The tone of voice, the time, and place that it is given should also be considered carefully.

@LadyDuck So, now you have experience in both methods.

@1hopefulman I fully agree, my father had a kind way to say things, I cannot say the same for my Mom.

Yes, even constructive criticism needs to be given the right way.

@1hopefulman I agree. That's need to be trained of for some people.

@Shavkat

Yes, when it comes to work mistakes, those need to be pointed out and corrected. Even then, the way that we are approached or approach can be done with kindness and a pleasant tone of voice. It makes for pleasant and lasting relationships.

@Nawsheen There was no need for that! No wonder, nobody liked him!

@1hopefulman This makes me remember my manager at my previous job. He used to be very harsh on us and when we would make mistakes he would yell so loudly that the whole floor could hear about it. No one in the team really liked him

Nice way of looking at things! If we're irritated by someone then we may need another layer of skin. You made me think of how pearls are made. Let us be like oysters in our response to others that try to hurt us in some way.

@1hopefulman that's a great idea! That's how we will build up our pearls of wisdom

I can see from your response that your years of life and experiences have made you much wiser? Any wisdom you would like to pass on to us that are eager to learn?

@enlightenedpsych2 I'm not that passive, but am wise enough to know which battles are worth the fight.

@enlightenedpsych2 Just be careful and make sure you aren't dealing with a lunatic!

Yes, there are a lot of variables! My main thrust is to keep the peace.

@MsBooklover Nobody likes to be made a fool of. But in the end who is really the fool?

@1hopefulman Keeping the peace works for me. However, sometimes I get testy around those who think they can make a fool out of me.

@1hopefulman Yes, it seems that it is the insight that can help to overlook many kinds of offense! Our Creator has the greatest insight of the human nature..

@buenavida Of course God wants us to resolve every situation peacefully. He has not given us authority to hurt anyone, either with words or actions.

Very nice! It is interesting that it uses the word "overlook". What comes to my mind is that we should not focus on the offense but look at something further like maybe the person realizing what they have done or said and become a better person in the future and even come and apologize. Maybe, that is what God does with us.

When I think of it, I think that criticism should only be constructive as why should one criticize otherwise? When you "react negatively", what kind of results do you get?

@jujunme No good comes out of the way those kind of people do things.

@1hopefulman Some people criticize for no good reason ,spite, jealously, the person is in a bad mood etc.. i don't do well with people like that and the result is bad feelings all around and perhaps isolation from that person indefinitely

When you know you are doing good and somebody criticizes or insults you in that matter they are not even worthy of a reply. Best to avoid and ignore such people.

Great! With years of life and experience comes wisdom for those that learn.

You have a heart full of love.

@just4him

@1hopefulman Thank you.

So true! It's good to try to think before we say something as there is no need to hurt a person.

Right! What do you usually do?

Yes, loving parents should be listened to as they have our best interests at heart but sadly not all are loving parents. How are your parents?

@1hopefulman TRue. AS for my parents, they always supported me and tried to give the best they ever had. I wish every child deserves such loving parents

So, how do you decide when to do what?

Yes, most things are best to be ignored. There are better things to do in life then to waste time with troublesome people.