The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock PH.D.
By CaseyL
@CaseyRoss9966 (4056)
United States
June 19, 2017 2:19pm CST
In my relationship and courtship class last semester we talked about this book of questions written by Gregory Stock. He had written several books that are just full of questions to help start discussions. My friends and I have gotten to question 67 out of 217. They have helped my friends and I get closer and learn a lot more about each other and we have a lot of fun going through the questions. I thought I would post questions from this book to help get to know some of you guys better and have some fun discussions on here. I will, of course, give credit to Dr. Stock each time I post a question. He also has some for relationships too and not just for friends/family/general questions.
Question 1:
"For a person, you loved deeply, would you be willing to move to a distant country knowing there would be little chance of seeing your friends or family again?"
My response to this question is no. I do not have many friends but I am really close to my family and I don't know if I could handle not seeing them at least once a week. We have family dinners every Sunday and the whole family comes. We are a crazy family but we all love each other even when we get on each other's nerves. I could do moving to another state or a few hours away and not see them as often but not to another country. Plus your family will always be there for you but someone you are in love with at the moment might not be and then you would be stuck in another country until you could afford to go home if things don't go right. This questions kind of reminded me of 90 Day Fiance that comes on TLC and a girl moved to another country or went to visit her soon to be husband in another country and the relationship went downhill fast once she got there.
So how would you answer this question?
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@Mike197602 (15504)
• United Kingdom
19 Jun 17
I'd say no too
I've learned from past experiences that relationships come and go but your family is forever.
That being said I would move to another country if I had my own job there so if things went wrong I could make my own way or get home if I wanted to.
I've only actually lived in one other country and managed 6 months before returning

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@CaseyRoss9966 (4056)
• United States
19 Jun 17
I would totally go if I was going on my own and could afford it and be able to afford to come home when I wanted to or as much as I wanted to. I definitely wouldn't go somewhere that I couldn't go home often or wasn't able to contact or see them when I wanted to. I know some people who would and I just think it is so crazy to do something like that. If you are going to move states or even a country away it should be because you want to and can afford to travel freely and not because you are forced to be with the person you "love" who may or may not love you back.
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@Mike197602 (15504)
• United Kingdom
19 Jun 17
@CaseyRoss9966 I am a relationship free zone and plan to stay that way so don't have these issues
In the past I've made decisions based on relationships and they never worked out well for me...actually they worked out horrendously in one case
In the past I've made decisions based on relationships and they never worked out well for me...actually they worked out horrendously in one case
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@CaseyRoss9966 (4056)
• United States
19 Jun 17
@Mike197602 Well at least you learned from your mistakes some people just keep going and wonder why their life is a mess.
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@Nawsheen (28761)
• Mauritius
20 Jun 17
My answer would be no too. I don't know how i will live without my family. They have always been there for me and supported me. I love them more than anything else and I need them too. So I am not willing to move to another country just for the sake to be with the love i love. Furthermore there can be adaptation problems too. I dont want to go through all this. And yes i love my country too

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@CaseyRoss9966 (4056)
• United States
20 Jun 17
I feel the same way. A lot of things change when you move to another country and you might not be able to handle it all. Plus an online relationship can be completely different once you are in person with them. Sometimes people are a lot more different than what they seem to be.
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@moffittjc (128840)
• Gainesville, Florida
19 Jun 17
I'd say no, for just the same reasons you listed. There's no guarantee the love would last. It would be a different story if you were already married to someone for a long period of time, and the two of you together decided to move overseas. But early in a relationship, there's just too much uncertainty.
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@CaseyRoss9966 (4056)
• United States
20 Jun 17
I agree. If we are married or in a long-term committed relationship and a job offer came up overseas or we just wanted to move there then I would but then I would still be able to come back and visit my family when I wanted to.
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