4 is greater than 5 - You have done the best!!!
By Sreekala
@Sreekala (34312)
India
July 6, 2017 5:44am CST
Dear friends,
School has reopened on July 3 after the summer vacation and there were lots of holiday home works given to children for doing their holidays.
Making a silt house is one among the projects for my 10 years old son.
Unlike earlier years I have not helped this year for his home works. I felt he can do by himself, which exactly the school is meant for providing them projects, let him do it.
He made the silt house using thermocol and sticks by his own.
Yesterday he submitted the same in school. Evening on reaching home he said to me all of his classmates made wonderful silt houses taking help from parents and siblings. Some even seek professional help to make their project good. His class mates told him ‘his’ was the worst silt house. (He is very intelligent enquired about how they made it).
He explained me with a sad face. But I told him all of those not made it by their own, others did the works for them. But you done it yourself so yours is the best. 
I have seen his smile and I am glad my words made him comfortable and proud. He got 4 out of 5 and other got full marks. But I think his 4 is a greater achievement than 5. 
We should encourage them to do their works by their own. Do you agree this?
I have seen his smile and I am glad my words made him comfortable and proud. He got 4 out of 5 and other got full marks. But I think his 4 is a greater achievement than 5.
We should encourage them to do their works by their own. Do you agree this?6 people like this
9 responses
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 17
I would say that you adopted the right approach, irrespective of the real reasons behind it. If a child does his homework on his own, he learns a lot and gets a kind of self confidence. Getting the home work done by someone else, does not serve any purpose.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
7 Jul 17
@Sreekala Yes, dependency on others is not a good thing. Until and unless a child try to do his home work or projects etc. he would not be able to learn.
Your sternness in the beginning, when he was in class-I made him learn to do the things in his own way and gradually he gained confidence to do things on his own.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
7 Jul 17
@dpk262006 Yes a 'no' can make you feel bad and at the same time it can make you capable to do the impossible.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
6 Jul 17
He irritated me so much when he was on his preparatory classes. He was very much dependent on his elder brother for every drawing works and had no confidence at all. Elder one done his drawings projects for all. One day I told elder one not to help him. Younger one cried and done whatever he can do to show the disappointment. But I didn't listen at all. Finally he drawn a butterfly by himself and it was so beautiful. (he was in first standard that time). After that incident he started to do his works by his own.
I felt bad for being strict in such a way but I had no other option left.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
7 Jul 17
You did the right thing. He will gain confidence if he does his work.
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@aishanee (435)
• Cuttack, India
10 Jul 17
I appreciate the way you are raising your little one. he may not score full marks in his project work today but will grow up to be a fine individual one day if you raise him with good values.
@peachpurple (13963)
• Malaysia
6 Jul 17
Yes you are right, kids shoulf try to make arts or project on their own. Otherwise, they are too dependent for parents help. Number is not important, it is the confidence and self independent
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
6 Jul 17
Earlier he was so dependent on his elder brother for even very small works. Once I strictly told elder on not to help him. Younger one got angry but he started to do by his own. I am really happy that he can do many works by his own, even though 100% perfection is not there.
