It can be soooooo frustrating
By rebelann1949
@rebelann (117259)
El Paso, Texas
July 20, 2017 12:59pm CST
First, let me talk about my beautiful Boobear. When she wants to drink water but the bowl isn't as full as she'd like she uses her paw to scoop up water to drink. I actually caught her in the act 
What's frustrating is probate.
Mom passed November 26, 2015 and still my sibling has done nothing to get the reports required for guardianship to the courts. I tried to win guardianship back in 2012 because I had already retired to care for mom as of January 2010 and by April of 2011 the fool conned the kids to help secure mom so that she would live with them instead of with me. I don't have kids so I had no way of fighting back, I was outnumbered and sibling has three boys.
Now mom's estate, not a big one by the way, is in probate because the reports and payment required has still not been resolved and whats worse is mom's house has deliquent taxes due on it.
If I were a violent person I'd try to hit that idiot but I'm not so I paid a lawyer to help.
I can't even yell because that would scare not only my furkids but also mom's, they moved in with me last year.
I am curious, will you write a will that designates exactly what every one of your heirs will be required to do or simply let the state your in handle the estate for them?
It requires money out of pocket so if you're angry with the kids maybe you should simply let them fight over everything.
What's frustrating is probate.
Mom passed November 26, 2015 and still my sibling has done nothing to get the reports required for guardianship to the courts. I tried to win guardianship back in 2012 because I had already retired to care for mom as of January 2010 and by April of 2011 the fool conned the kids to help secure mom so that she would live with them instead of with me. I don't have kids so I had no way of fighting back, I was outnumbered and sibling has three boys.
Now mom's estate, not a big one by the way, is in probate because the reports and payment required has still not been resolved and whats worse is mom's house has deliquent taxes due on it.
If I were a violent person I'd try to hit that idiot but I'm not so I paid a lawyer to help.
I can't even yell because that would scare not only my furkids but also mom's, they moved in with me last year.
I am curious, will you write a will that designates exactly what every one of your heirs will be required to do or simply let the state your in handle the estate for them?
It requires money out of pocket so if you're angry with the kids maybe you should simply let them fight over everything.9 people like this
5 responses
@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
20 Jul 17
I wrote a detailed will with a lawyer. After all of the problems I have had since January when my mother passed away I thought it was a good idea. I didn't want my kids to go through what I have been going through. Sometimes all you can do is make sure you have a lawyer to represent you and protect you and go into a closet and scream out your frustration.
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@rebelann (117259)
• El Paso, Texas
23 Jul 17
Yep @HazySue and no matter how often I'd bring that up she'd just say the same ole same ole. She never actually believed she'd forget to write one until she did and then she thought I was lying .... by then she'd lost most of her mind.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
20 Jul 17
Its a good idea to have everything in order before the last.
I know what you are saying and can relate big time Rebel.
I have an evil sister that is all I will say right now and regarding my Mom.
I am sorry you are having to deal with this.
I only have one son no other family to speak of, have nothing, so all will be well I hope for my son when the time comes.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
20 Jul 17
@rebelann Oh I don't, sis has shown herself to be the devil incarnate..there is no inheritance but a few photos that my Mom has. She has already taken the little money my Mother had.
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@DWDavis (25797)
• United States
20 Jul 17
I'm sorry the probate of your mother's estate is causing you such grief. My wife and I have wills explaining exactly how much of our estate each of our sons will receive. Of course, I tell them not to expect much as my wife and I plan to spend as much as we can during our retirement. If we time it right, all the boys will get is a pickup with lots of mileage and a well-used camper.
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That's all anyone should expect. I just need a little extra help with her kitties, I can't afford to take them to the vet and now I can't even take my own. Boy are cats expensive.
@moffittjc (128837)
• Gainesville, Florida
21 Jul 17
Sorry to hear you are going through all that mess. It can be very frustrating.
As of right now, I have all my assets being split 50/50 between my two kids. But that could change as time goes on.
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@rebelann (117259)
• El Paso, Texas
22 Jul 17
One thing I never expected was for sibling to be so dominating @moffittjc it's not even about money really, but if the fool doesn't submit the paperwork the courts require then her home(mom's) will be taken by the state for delinquent taxes. Already there is a tax delinquency of over $2000 which I don't have.
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@moffittjc (128837)
• Gainesville, Florida
22 Jul 17
@rebelann I continually remind my kids that the right thing to do would be to split everything equally 50%, and not fight over material goods. I am trying to raise my kids not to be materialistic at all, so hopefully it will pay off in the future. I would hate to see family get divided over money or material things.
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