Perfect Love is never your own
By emptychair
@innertalks (23736)
Australia
August 3, 2017 7:46pm CST
I just read this idea on the Internet.
The guy claimed that,
"When you feel true love for another, the love you have is not your own, but it is God expressing through you. You may feel anger, hurt and resentment because of your expectation of how that person should treat you. But when all those expectations and requirements are gone, what is left is the pure unconditional love that is always present beneath it all. Everything else is just meant for you to discover where you are being conditional and limited in your heart. But when you let go, you can love totally."
Is that true then really that love is never our own, but always God's love expressing itself through us?
Well, God is love, so yes, I expect that love is all God's in the sense that God is love, but it is all ours too, when we place our self within God.
Non-perfect loving is when we try to be separate from God, and so something other than love emerges in us from this separative stance, which dilutes God's love from expressing itself perfectly, and fully, as us, and through us then.
What do you think about this?
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Aug 17
I agree with this 100%. I am reading The Love Dare and in it says the same thing. God is love and the love we express comes from God-unconditional love.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Aug 17
@innertalks It is an amazing book! Most definitely worth reading.
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@innertalks (23736)
• Australia
4 Aug 17
Oh, that looks like a book worth reading.
On Wikipedia, it says that it's a book about strengthening marriages or relationships, based around the idea of making a new "love dare" every day.
I agree, when we express love, it comes from the energy of love within God. I think love is the only real energy from which all other energies come too.
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@innertalks (23736)
• Australia
4 Aug 17
@LovingMyBabies I saw someone put a summary of the "love dares" in a PDF. It looks like that relates to the book. It talks about a forty day love journey.
http://www.shenzhoufellowship.org/main2/files/old/SpecialTopics/TheLoveDare.pdf
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@innertalks (23736)
• Australia
4 Aug 17
Yes, it's sort of logical too, if we think that God is the originator of love. All love must ultimately be coming from him.
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@innertalks (23736)
• Australia
4 Aug 17
Well, he could be meaning that unselfish love tends to make us a bigger person, than a selfish form of love, could ever do so.
(Selfish loving would be the "me first always" type of loving. I love them because there is something in it for me. Unselfish loving would be more like a mother loves her child. She just knows that she "wants" to love her child in that way, without necessarily expecting anything back from her doing so.)
"Unselfish loving" could be called loving as God loves, or we could just say that it is a more unconditional form of loving, without mentioning God at all.
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
7 Aug 17
@innertalks I do agree on that. God's love is unconditional.
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@innertalks (23736)
• Australia
4 Aug 17
Yes, love works in different ways, but does it only work in one perfect way, and that would be in God's way?
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@Shiva49 (28372)
• Singapore
4 Aug 17
I feel since we are human there is no perfect love.
It is always motivated by some self-interest - it can be led by lust or the partner could prove useful, can play a positive role, in our lives.
That means our love is an investment for a return, conditional, and not real undiluted love.
We lack trust in others and suspect their motives and that is reflected in the state of affairs of the world.
However, we should move towards more of love and chip away the hatred and suspicion that are overwhelming us from within families to countries - siva
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@innertalks (23736)
• Australia
5 Aug 17
You might be right about humans being not able to love perfectly as yet right now.
On the other hand, though, the Christian Bible tells us that perfect love casts out all fear, so we should not stop striving for that perfection.
"You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect."
Matthew chapter 5, verse 48.
"There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love."
1 John, chapter 4, verse 18.
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@Shiva49 (28372)
• Singapore
5 Aug 17
@innertalks Good to have a noble target but I feel our leaders, the politicians, lead us away from love and forgiveness and even feel good about it! If we tell them about perfect love, they will say they cannot afford it!
Individually it is so fulfilling for us to love perfectly as that makes our lives so much more worthwhile. Sadly, we overlook the basics to be burdened with petty issues. portray others in bad light to feel good about ourselves.
Finally it all boils down to where we want to be and our attitude decides our altitude. To love perfectly is well within our ability but then we have to take the initiative - siva
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