Ask permission first
By peachpurple
@peachpurple (13961)
Malaysia
August 28, 2017 3:23am CST
Do you ask your teenager permission first before entering his/her bedroom?
Do you ask your teenager permission first before you open his/her drawers, closet, wardrobe or touches the stuff on the desk?
Although you may be your teenager's parent, it is wise to ask his/her permission first before taking any action, even though he/she isn't at home. I had realized that teens are different from the past. When I was a teen, my parents just took my stuff or opened up my drawer, read my diary as if it was alright. However now in this century, parents have to learn to respect teens too in order for them to respect us parents back.
Whenever I need to take something ( even a pen ) from my teenager, I had to ask her permission first. Otherwise, I will get scolded instead! Anyway, she doesn't touch my stuff either.
So, is it a norm practice for you to ask your teen permission first?
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@LadyDuck (502491)
• Italy
28 Aug 17
I have no children, my mother never asked permission to open my drawers or come into my room. How can parents check if their teens are hiding something if they ask permission? I think that this is not correct, teens must know that they have to obey to their parents and their parents have the right to check on them.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
30 Aug 17
However my teen does not like it. So, I don't check or touch her stuff, not even drawer. My hubby told me to give her privacy
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@sishy7 (27166)
• Australia
30 Aug 17
@peachpurple My kids' rooms have locks but I'm glad they never feel the need to lock their rooms as we have strong trust within our family that we always value and respect each other's privacy.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
31 Aug 17
@sishy7 my teen locks her door when she is sleeping or taking shower. If she is studying or playing computer, she doesn't lock her door
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
30 Aug 17
Me too, I knock her door which is always close
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@divalounger (6182)
• United States
30 Aug 17
Mine are grown now, but I always knocked before entering and I didn't snoop--but there were sure times I wanted to!
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@divalounger (6182)
• United States
31 Aug 17
@peachpurple mine didn't either--and I had to learn that lesson the hard way--
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I don't snoop, she doesn't like it
@prashu228 (37518)
• India
28 Aug 17
I don't understand why parents should ask permission to children. My parents never asked permission , and i don't even like parents asking permission to children as if they are outsiders.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
30 Aug 17
Teens want privacy and to be treated as an adult with respect. So, that is why permission is required. She does the same for me too.
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@thelme55 (79324)
• Germany
28 Aug 17
Not always. When he is inside his room, yes. Sometimes you have to know what's going on in your child's life especially now that Internet is a part of life. You have to control what your child is watching online especially if you have a daughter.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
30 Aug 17
I know that too . However I am glad that my teen is only crazy at watch Chinese or Korean variety shows, nothing else
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
30 Aug 17
Me too, I think this has to do with the culture. I noticed Asians don't knock or ask permission, only Americans do.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
31 Aug 17
Yes, I would feel the same too. But that time, my mom and I share the same room
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@Yadah04 (3480)
• Philippines
31 Aug 17
@peachpurple that was so sweet of you and your mom sharing the same room. you must be so close with each other.
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