Difficult to understand old folks

@peachpurple (13890)
Malaysia
September 18, 2017 4:24am CST
After my mother in law had been staying with us for the past 20 years, she hasn't changed a bit even though she had moved out, to stay with one of her bachelor son. She is still stubborn! She is in her late 80s, she prefers to listen to sweet talk rather than listening to the ugly truth. If I were to tell her not to do "this" because it will hurt her limbs or deteriorate her health, she will boycott and reveal her discontentment. So, I am the "bad guy". Instead, her precious daughter would support her to do "this" in order to gain her support even though her daughter knew all along that it will bring more harm instead of saving her. So, her daughter is the "Good guy". Why do old folks prefer to listen to sweet talk that would harm them ? I really don't understand them.... Do you have problems with understand old folks?
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@AkoPinay (11544)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
Be careful... there are many old folks here
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@AkoPinay (11544)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
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@peachpurple (13890)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 17
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@peachpurple (13890)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 17
Any mylot members age 80 and above here???
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@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
18 Sep 17
I have experienced that with my granny and in their age they just want happy moments, a calm environment and a good rest.She is not a special case they are many like her.We are the ones who should readjust and know how to cope with them.
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@peachpurple (13890)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 17
but what if her doings would harm herself? shouldn't we advice her not to do it?
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@Kind4321 (826)
• Nairobi, Kenya
18 Sep 17
@peachpurple find a nice way of doing it,,,,women are good at it.we know how to be manipulative.I can want to warn you against something and i will do it in a good way that you will have to comply.Its all about learning someone and their nature
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@sishy7 (27169)
• Australia
18 Sep 17
Sometimes plenty of patience is required to deal with the elderly... They say we go back to become childlike again when we are old...
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@peachpurple (13890)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 17
yes, no wonder she boycott when I told her not to do it but she insisted, like a kid
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@LadyDuck (460454)
• Switzerland
18 Sep 17
Well, it's not only the old folks, because I know plenty of young people who prefer the same. They do not want to know the truth, they want someone who tell them only what they want to hear.
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@LadyDuck (460454)
• Switzerland
18 Sep 17
@peachpurple I have known many like this, stubborn and never listen.
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@peachpurple (13890)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 17
Yes you are right, they are stubborn, prefer to choose words they wanted to hear regardless of the consequences
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@ilocosboy (45157)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
Lets just understand the old folks, they just have few years to luve.
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@ilocosboy (45157)
• Philippines
18 Sep 17
@peachpurple if it makes her happy let her have it.
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@peachpurple (13890)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 17
at age 80+, no wonder everyone is letting her do whatever she wants to
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@amal06 (250)
18 Sep 17
Sounds like typical Asian mother in law woes. Well I feel once people cross 70, they turn into kids. They only like what they want to like and only listen what they want to listen. Patience is the key. If you have a kid you'll understand quite easily I think.
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@peachpurple (13890)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 17
Yes I understand what you are trying to say and I agree that old folks getting older becomes a kid again, tantrums
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@prashu228 (37525)
• India
18 Sep 17
That's common with old folks.
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
18 Sep 17
That is not anything unique.Most old people are set in their ways and do not want to be contradicted.
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