Quick thoughts 10/3/17

Well, the only reason why we're commenting and expressing our opinions is because you post a lot about your backstory and what goes on. From your finances, relationships, previous children/kids, hardships, and so forth. It's not about disagreeing, its more about the life for the unborn child. It wouldn't be fair for a child to be born and have parents' who are dealing with marriage affairs, marriage problems in general, unstable income, housing, and unsteady finances. That's great your husbands laptop is almost paid off. But if one is having to think about paying off a laptop doesn't really mean .. they're financially stable to have a child and unexpected purchases/bills occur all the time. Just like the recent ticket ordeal you mentioned you won't help your husband with (and since you don't drive). That would result in no means of transportation. But if you're going to have a baby, newborn requires transportation to and from the hospital for check ups, appointments and etc. How would that work? No one is saying you can't have a child, but perhaps have a plan - make a budgeting system or work out your marriage first, finances laid out, a home that can be called yours & not depend on the food pantry. Great to hear Dean is officially potty trained though! Of course, all in all, it is your life! We don't know you personally just by what you write on myLot.

shame on people who judgeyou thats hirrid if y ou' want anopther child do it soon I had a brain damaged scondcildf so in obnes thirties its bestnot to wait to far'il nto the thirties soyou havea haalthjy child go iti

I think before having a child it is important to think about what that child will need and what kind of life they will have. It is a decision that should not be taken lightly in my opinion.

I wish you well.

I missed something, I know I asked about your son in diaper but I was not aware of a learning disability. I would not let others opinions bother me, after all we are all just strangers.

Yes, it is your life but since you have issues with your marriage which is something you need to fix before getting another baby. We are not telling you to stop having a baby, but at least plan about it. We are here to share what we think is right for you at the moment.

Your life is your responsibility and that is all anyone needs to know. You are capable of your own choices and really should not worry about what others think.

That is your business if you want to have another child. You are the one who will take care of that child not the people who say you should not have that child. Go for it and good luck.

It's nobody's business whether you have another child or not. If that's what you want, then go for it. I think it would be nice to give your son a sibling.

Theres no reason to rush into another kid, no matter how old you are. Wait and straighten your life and marriage etc out then have a kid. You have time.

Once that laptop is paid off, this will be enough for more food. I'm glad to hear that Dean is wearing boxers, great news!

Having another child is your personal decision because it is actually your life. I don't see why people should criticize others they should let them live their lives. let no one discourage you.