Entire family wants her to break up with her boyfriend

She has the same situation with my niece. My niece is a registered nurse working in London and she has a long time boyfriend here in the Philippines whom we really do not agree because of the fact that he is jobless, lazy, has no ambition in life, a happy go lucky person. But we cannot do anything because my niece is blindly and madly in love with him.

Not until your cousin learned a lesson from her BF did she leave him.,,

I won't marry a person who is jobless , how will he be able to fulfill the responsibilities without money after marriage.

Well if she's madly in love you can't really enforce that. Maybe the guy is too handsome to lose.

When I and the boyfriend have our relationship, he was still a student and no work, while I was the one, was working that time. Friends were curious because of who did all the payment when it comes to going out and our date. I did not hesitate to tell them that I was the one who pays all because I'm the only one working. If he will graduate he will be the one to do that in time. And now, he has a stable job, I am sick and mostly he is the one paying all the bills. I mean, if you believe in your love and to your man. Everything is possible. And for your cousin's case. I think she needs to be careful, one lie is enough not to believe him.

She should surely listen to her parents as they have more of seen this in the cruel world and could understand all this better and what ever they would do will be for her benefit and good and she should also confront the man about all that job lie.

Never love a lazy man. In this aspect I agree to this girl's family. It is fine that he is poor, but it is totally not OK that he is lazy. A man is supposed to support his family. I hope your cousin will realize it soon.

My husband used to be judged by my aunts because he didn’t have a stable job compared to my ex, but he is an honourable man and pretty soon they realized that and was able to welcome him to our family, but I guess your cousin’s case is different, however she will have to learn how unworthy or worthy a man is for herself, it will either be heartbreaking or heartwarming... no one can take her journey for her...

I wouldn't even be with that kind of guy.

If that is my cousin, I will say what I have to say and will leave it at that. She's a grown woman who can make her own decisions and think of possible consequences. She has her own ideals and negotiables in a relationship - let her learn from her mistake. But be there for her when crap hits the fan, so to speak. At least you have done your part and you can walk away without regrets.

if she gets pregnant, will he finally get a job?

If you think the guy is no good, you will just have to wait for him to make the wrong move.

If I were her, I would break up with my boyfriend. There is an old saying in China, the marriage without wishes won't be happy.

I think she love the guy,family should let her make her decision,he is her boyfriend,she love him and know him better. She sees something in him that you people don't see. You can only advice her but cant decide for her.

It does not make sense to be in love or to tie a knot with a jobless guy. Love cannot generate money, which is essential for living day to day life.

Hope your cousin realizes the situation and she listens to her family.

Well, her family has tons of reasons. If I am her, I will follow what my family says since I know that they want that for my own sake. I won't also settle for someone who does not see the wrong about herself.