The New Neighbor

By Faye
@FayeHazel (40230)
United States
December 11, 2017 11:45am CST
I love my building and my apartment, so please don't get me wrong. The space is small but laid out well. The building is clean and comfortable. Most of my neighbors are older, so there are no loud parties, no fights and no little kids. (Unless someone gets the grandkids overnight - and then, when their running, shouting and yelling gets on my nerves I simply remind myself that thank goodness the kids will be going home eventually and I'm sure happy of that.) However, one little hope of mine was that a younger person might move in. I don't have anything against older peoples - in fact most of my friends are about 20 years older than I, but sometimes I feel a bit out of place and this new neighbor might be someone to hang out with. Well, I got my wish. One unit down the hall and on the opposite side, a new neighbor moved in, younger. However my jubilation lasted only a few minutes of meeting her. She nervously paced back and forth , muttering under her breathe. She ran up to me. "Who are you?" -- so I introduced myself. And then she launched into a diatribe something like this - "I told that blankety blank that I didn't want anything and I didn't steal that car. Johnny can go bleep off, bleep this bleeping bleeper." (That isn't actually what she said, but pretty close, referencing people and situations that I know nothing about.) I asked for clarification and didn't receive any. Pretty clear that she's fairly troubled. Another time she came, knocked on my door at about 11 PM at night. She was bent on getting in. I didn't allow it. She also ignored that I was going to bed as I told her, insisting that she "needed to talk". (More ranting) *sigh* Oh well. I have nothing against people who have issues, but I don't want to have her come in my place and I don't want any trouble or to get sucked into any drama. Do you have interesting neighbors? Photo: Pixabay
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@JudyEv (382458)
• Rockingham, Australia
11 Dec 17
That's a shame. You should always be careful what you wish for. I'm glad you didn't let her in. I'd be trying to stay clear of getting involved too.
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@JudyEv (382458)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Dec 17
@FayeHazel All the books about setting goals and positive thinking etc say to be very specific about what you want. Now you know why!
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Dec 17
@JudyEv Oh yes, ... it reminds me of the genie who forces people to say exactly what they want (eg. the wish for "peace on earth" turns into removing all the rest of the people
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Ha ha, yes, I guess I did get what I wished for. I will be more specific now. lol.
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
12 Dec 17
And all that is why I moved to the woods!
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Can't say as I blame you there
@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
11 Dec 17
Oh sheesh, I am so sorry, she definitely is in trouble of some sort, but you have to watch out for yourself. My current neighbour likes telling me all about him and his wife, even that they don't like cuddling, while she just stands there smiling and I am standing thinking "why, why does he feel that I need to know this?" I am spending less time in my garden for now.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
13 Dec 17
@FayeHazel , I understand about her almost always being around. Very frustrating for you. Yeah, I don't get his wife just smiling about it all. I rather just avoid them while they are in their garden and since mine is joined to theirs, well I rather stay inside...sigh
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Thanks! I know , I try to go out and about when she isn't around, but she's almost always around... Oh dear, that sounds really awkward about your neighbor and his wife. Sorry that they are ruining the garden for you :/
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Dec 17
@bluesa Hm, could be that she doesn't know how to react, or maybe is ashamed by her husband's behavior. I don't think I would like a significant other talking about that sort of thing. But yeah on all accounts I'm sorry they spoil gardening time
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@Shiva49 (28394)
• Singapore
12 Dec 17
Sometimes we tend to bite more than we can chew! We have enough in our plates to take in other people's issues. I would be brief in my response with a general take on the matter - siva
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@Shiva49 (28394)
• Singapore
13 Dec 17
@FayeHazel Once we give in, and people start using us, then to unwind ourselves from the knots is not at all easy. I should know! siva
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Dec 17
@Shiva49 Ah it is such a delicate balancing act, isn't it?
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
It's true. At times I would like being more compassionate - but it seems like when a person does that - people take it as an invite to use people.
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@JohnRoberts (109841)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Dec 17
Fortunately all the neighbors at the moment are "normal" but I have experienced some lulu's in the past.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Ah I hope you streak of normal neighbors continues then
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• United States
12 Dec 17
Wow, she would make me feel very uncomfortable. I wouldn't let her in my house either. Sorry, you didn't get the neighbor you wanted. All my neighbors are great, we just all mind our own business.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
She does make me nervous. She has spoken of trying to get other residents in trouble here because she doesn't like them. Eeek. Trying to stay on her good side. I'm happy that your neighbors are nice :-)
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
12 Dec 17
Although, you got a new younger neighbor but her behavior is seemingly perplexing and she is not fit to be your neighbor, understandably.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
13 Dec 17
@FayeHazel Yes, let us hope for the best.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Dec 17
@dpk262006 Ha ha. Yeah, someone sane please....
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Ah yes, I guess I wasn't specific enough in my wish... There is another apartment open here - so another chance, hopefully someone well balanced.
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@LeaPea2417 (40058)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Dec 17
I am sorry about that. Just try to ignore her. Luckily, our neighbors in our neighborhood stay to themselves.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Ah, sometimes staying to one's own self can be the best remedy
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@LeaPea2417 (40058)
• Toccoa, Georgia
13 Dec 17
@FayeHazel I totally agree with that.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Dec 17
@LeaPea2417 It's true. Like the old saying - no good act goes unpunished
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Dec 17
It sounds like you got the wrong kind of neighbor. I think there's only one person in my section of the building that isn't Spanish speaking, and the first time I met her was enough. She was drunk, and bringing in groceries, dropping them in the hallway, more bottles of liquor. I don't need to know any more than that about her. She lives upstairs, but not over me, thankfully.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Dec 17
@FayeHazel I hope she realizes her problem before it kills her.
@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Dec 17
@just4him And now it is just her. So sad. I do wonder what she is running away from in those bottles.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Oh wow.. hope she stays away and gets the help she seems to need.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
12 Dec 17
@FayeHazel yeah.. my neighbor from the other day was at it again just 20minutes ago. But this time i think i actually know why. As heard a little of what she said. But not fully sure. Maybe. I know people are off when they dont take them.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Pretty interesting, thought I admit yours sound more intense.... :/ Some days she's a bit better. Still hyper, still nervous... but not as agitated. I have wondered if those are days where she maybe remembers to take her pills or something?
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Dec 17
@Courtlynn Oh my goodness. Do your neighbors ever give it a rest? Sheesh. Why are some people so unhappy? Anyway, I did see my neighbor the other day. Actually in a good mood. She was with her son
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@teamfreak16 (43655)
• Denver, Colorado
12 Dec 17
Well, since we are living in a motel right now, yes, there are some interesting people. Some girl tried to involve me in her dispute with her boyfriend last week. I'm pretty non-confrontational, so I have no idea what she was expecting me to do.
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@teamfreak16 (43655)
• Denver, Colorado
12 Dec 17
@FayeHazel - I just stood there like an idiot, hoping nothing was going to happen.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Dec 17
@teamfreak16 Oh wow - was it an actual altercation? Egads. One of the little people in this building is seeing one of the men, also from this building. She also has her eye on the maintainence man. (I told her to go get him.)
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Oh that is weird. Why would you approach a neighbor about it? Like why would you take sides in a private argument?
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@thelme55 (79323)
• Germany
12 Dec 17
Oh my! Gladfully, our neighbors are older than me and hubby. I seldom see and hear them. Good that you didn't let her in. She might come anytime she wants and that is horrible.
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@thelme55 (79323)
• Germany
13 Dec 17
@FayeHazel you have done well by not letting her in.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
I am happy your neighbors are older... yes true - I didn't want to start a habit with her
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Dec 17
@thelme55 Ah yes, I wondered if I would be able to get her back out again
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
13 Dec 17
You should be careful for what you wish for. There are 8 apartments in my building. I like people in 3 of the 8 apartments. The husband in the apartment down below on the side is fine. I live in a building with young families and the one that causes me so much trouble is one person right above us and not young.
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
14 Dec 17
@FayeHazel Faye, He makes lots of noise and has no respect for others or for us because we are the ones that hear him. I do not know how one person can make so much noise.
@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Dec 17
Ah. Ha ha. Yes. I guess I should have been more specific in what I wished for. I'm happy that some of the people in your building get along well, but it is too bad that the one that you don't get along with is directly above you. Argh.
• Northampton, England
12 Dec 17
Buy a shotgun
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• Northampton, England
12 Dec 17
@FayeHazel Di it girl! Trumps got your back ;-)
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Dec 17
For the most part, the neighbors here pretty much keep to themselves. We did have various crazy tenant neighbors, but even with their craziness they've never involved us directly. However, there is one neighbor who is the watch dog of our street. But, she also has a big time potty mouth and she talks badly about all the other neighbors behind their backs (makes us wonder what she must be saying about us!). She is a gossip monger, and if it weren't for her, I wouldn't know all the drama that happens on this street (I don't want to know!). I don't blame you - I wouldn't have let that girl in either!
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Dec 17
Ah, with neighbors that seems to be the safest route. Unfortunately I have pretty much stayed out of everyone's way. Not that I don't want to be friends, but if there is some disagreement it would be weird because we live in the same building. I am happy that at least the neighbors never include you in on the drama
@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
12 Dec 17
i would probably keep my door closed and locked with a new neighbor like that.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Ah yes, since she moved in I lock my door at all times now unfortunate
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@jaboUK (64346)
• United Kingdom
12 Dec 17
Sounds like you are definitely better off with the older people.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Dec 17
Yes. I agree. Other than little dramas between them - they are much lower stress
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
12 Dec 17
I'm so sorry you wound up with her for a neighbor. I'd steer clear of her. To me she sounds like trouble. Hein our condo, the BOD interviews does a security search on every new member. No riff rafts alllowed.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
13 Dec 17
@FayeHazel Yay!!!!
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Thanks! I'm happy to say I haven't seen her for a couple of days, thankfully!
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@JESSY3236 (22244)
• United States
12 Dec 17
I live in a "retirement" trailer park. All of the people are 50 and above. I do have some really nice neighbors. But one of them was a pedophile. He went to jail.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
Ah, you know, I've thought a trailer park might be nice... haven't pursued it yet though. I'm hapy the pedophile got caught
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• Philippines
12 Dec 17
I have annoying neighbours too but all I can do is just be patient all the time because I don't want to get involved in any trouble.I hate kids noise as well.Actually I have 3 kids with me. My daily life is so stressful.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Dec 17
I think you are wise to not get involved -- it is the best way sometimes. Oh dear, I hope you find a ay to cope with the stress and the noise